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i gave you my time. you dismissed me when i took time off to meet you on your errands run which were more important than our friendship to you. you dismissed any activity i subjected. and acted like deserve to know everything about me no matter what. no matter how personnel. when you didn't get it you looked deflated and became distant. you put what you wanted to do above everything else and did considered anything i said or subjected to do. when you didn't get you way and i sent you a message say why should i sympathy with you situation which was the long travel time it took you to come from my city from your to get a hair cut have just lunch with me and then disappear and that you did not let me know up front that you had other errand to run. you said money is tight but you bought expensive things in front of me like a saw that cost more than $800.00 and you go on to mention that your not working like when was the last time you even had a job over the decades i knew you and called you friend because that what i thought you were and may be for some you were but also like i mentioned first you long trip to my city to get a hair cut and run errands meaning just your errands you never even gave a thought to how I felt when you took off or how you would dismiss my effort to join you like putting things off for you and even cancel a shift at my volunteer job not to mention that i had to travel a full hour to meet you i even went down to the train station to meet you there so after lunch if you needed to go back home afterwards it would be that much easier for you. But little did i know that you plan was only for your benefit and your convenance, I even join you when i had a cold and told you about that to upfront before you even left your home and all you could do was order me to wear a mask in your car and complain about my coughing when we sat in a food court which you walked straight to without even asking what i wanted to do. and you sat down and said i am looking for a gift for my wife which you did for at least 20 minutes even my reminding you that i took time off from my volunteer job meant nothing to you you just dismissed it and kept lookin at your phone should have left at that point but you were done you accused me of coughing in your direction say i can't get sick when i move away from you some and said is this ok you just repeated your complaint I can' t get sick what would your wife get made at you if you could not go to your in-laws party. or did you actually want to get sick so you would not have to and as usually take no responsibility

you of course kept up your your behavior when we went back to my house and you walked up and down on my new vinyl floors with hiking boot on. even my telling you this meant nothing to you. i should respect your stuff and space while you showed no regard for mine. Well i know the next time you said you were coming for your special hair cut you were surprise by my response of declining your so called invite out and you knew it was the same reason as before i had a commitment to my volunteer job and i was definitely not going to cancel it this time just to be treated the same as before no way. and to send me a message the day before you were to come for your hair cut. you travel 50 miles one way for a hair cut. wow like my mom once said when i once told her. and the stranger you turned to in the restaurant who said hay you must really like your barber and you happily said oh yes .every time you came i travel the about an hour even had to wait a long time for you because your barber was always behind at least 30 minutes. to me when you sent your messages I said yes but at first i didn't read the whole message just the part you said that you were coming but i finally thought maybe i should read the whole message that you send and i did. you sent me at least 4 messages after that from Jan of last year to about April of last year and all but the last left me guessing as to whether or not you wanted to do it or come for a visit or not for you plan and your errands. you message were all vague and details that would have been important for me to know left out. just you were planning to come you need to do some things like make an appointment that had been made. and it would not be in the morning but sometime in the afternoon and of course you wanted to know about my flexibility. Why should i have to wait for you to decide if your going to do this or if this will even happen did you expect me to commit to this type of plan. I sent you a message back saying if your appointment is important to you make it and i will see if i can make it. i don't understand how someone can send a message like that if you don't know or uncertain if you can do this why invite someone out until you know for sure.. but after your message back i just gave up you asked if anything was between us. well yes there was. EXPECTATIONS some unrealistic

and so on. The last message that you sent me was that you said you will be coming. i said yes right away. i was excited that you were coming. but that excitement went away when you pick a restaurant that always made you sick but i asked you which location that you wanted to go to the one closer to me or the once much farther away from me . but you only pushed back to me saying the one closer to me you would have to bring your car and you did not want to pay for parking or the one closer to the train station like you said it was more convenient for you. so i picked that one not because of what you said but because you walked on my new floors with hiking boots on and at that point i did not ever want you in my home again. you gave me 2 weeks to think about it and when you sent a text saying that the time for them serving dinner was 430 pm instead of 4 pm and did i want to meet you earlier why so you could have company because you don't like being by yourself. well i don't like being with someone and feeling alone. but you also also asked are we still on. which made me feel better because in my message to you i told you i was canceling our meet up. it was all your plan like you later said a plan that you had i believe all in your head. i let you plan it like check with the restaurant to see if we needed reservations or not you said it was a popular place. you told me a story about how frustrated you were i told you the same. you changed details saying you were on the train 4 times and i did that to you four times i will admit to doing it only once because that is all that happened but i told you that your messages were vague and i asked you to take a month to think about what i was saying to you you got back to me accusing me of never telling you when i was upset with you. but i stayed true to what i was asking of you and repeated it again. and asked you to take a month break and think about what i said about your messages being vague and all you could do is send me your best wishes and sign your full name. you never got back. i waited 8 months and sent you a message i did miss you but i only thought a proper good bye was a good idea because maybe we meet on the street sometime in the future and we could at least be friendly to each other i ask closure after a few message back and for i even describe to you at this time why i was upset with you because i no longer wanted to hold onto it. i sent that off and yes the order of things is off here but you only came back you say my words made you look like and awful person and my words were nasty. did that threaten the self image of your self. did you want me to reassure you that your not an awful. that everyone acts poorly at one time or another. well how many times did i ask you to reflect and how many times did you actually do what i asked. not one by my count. you expect me to go by what you wanted to meet for coffee WOW WHAT A BAD IDEA. if i interviewed you for a job i would not hire you your resume would go in the garbage. you also said in your last message to stop communicating with you. WHY WOULD I EVEN WANT TO I CAME OUT WITH THE FELLING THAT I DID NOT EVEN GET THROUGH TO YOU. and the last thing you put was no friendship here. I agree with that whole heartly you were not acting like a friend . not even a good companion. why don't you just spend some money and get an escort. i have hear to vent. so I will never send you any communication. you were never present in the moment. but you always said to me it is about being together. but if it is about being together it is about sharing the time together and making sure the other is enjoying the moment too. I KNOW YOU WON'T COMMUNICATE WITH ME I NEVER ASKED YOU TO STOP. YOU HAVE NO REASON TO CONTACT ME YOU NO LONGER HAVE ACCESS TO ME!!!!!!!!!!

Goodbye to Grimsby, and goodbye to someone who treated friendship like a tool instead of a relationship.

I need to get this off my chest because it’s been building for a long time.

You traveled a long distance to visit me, but emotionally you were distancing yourself the whole time. Your messages were vague, missing details I needed, and when I didn’t respond right away, you got frustrated — not because you cared, but because you lost access to me.

You didn’t know anyone else where I live, and honestly, nobody else would have put up with this. It wasn’t just the lack of communication. It was your attitude.

Your visits always happened after your haircut, and I always felt like that was the real reason you came. I knew it. You expected me to travel an hour just to meet you for a few minutes, then turn around and go home. You acted like you were doing me a favor by showing up, but the trip was always about your needs — your errands, your hair appointment, your desire not to be alone.

You didn’t tell me your plans, you just motioned after lunch and expected me to follow along. You wanted sympathy when I finally cancelled, but I had spent a long time bending my schedule around you. You acted like a child, and I told you that. I wanted closure — the friendship had been over for a long time.

You said you didn’t want me to contact you anymore, and added unnecessary things like wanting to meet for coffee. Why would I meet you after the way you behaved? There was nothing left to salvage.

You said money was tight, yet you traveled a long distance for a haircut and errands. There are barbers in your city. The only thing “tight” was your expectation that other people should invest time and effort so you could feel important.

Inside, you don’t believe you’re important, and no one can constantly reassure you of that. You never took my suggestions, and you treated your own ideas as superior even when they were unreasonable.

So this is goodbye. For real this time.

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no friendship here

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GOOD BY GRIMSBY