u/UnluckyJournalist390

I’m looking for someone who gets excited enough about a funny story or meme that their first thought is, ‘I should tell X this’.

Lately I’ve realised I miss having someone to share the little things with. The burnt cookies. The meal that turned out ridiculously well. The podcast that sent me down a rabbit hole. The random thought that probably could’ve stayed in my head… but didn’t- oooops 🥲

I recently up and moved my life to a new city and am somewhere in the messy middle of reinventing my life 🫪🫪🫪. I love cooking, baking, long walks, yoga, podcasts, music and laughing at stupid things, oooh and conversations that wander into places neither person expected.
No pressure to reply instantly and I dont expect to message all day.

Just hoping to find someone who enjoys talking about life, asking good questions, and sharing the little moments that make up a week.
If you’ve made it this far, tell me what’s something small that made you smile this week?

Me (F) and my partner (M) have been together for 2 years now. And in that time we’ve had some really significant changes, which has included us moving interstate for his job.

While I was all for the move and starting fresh, I did not account for how challenging the move would be. I left my job and career (which I hated and was burnt out from) in order to start fresh.

I have gone back to studying and I will be honest making new friends and making new connections in a new city has been tough.
I’ve had to rely on him a lot, and he has been incredibly supportive. Encouraging me to take my time finding work and a path that I love.

Earlier this year I got really sick with an auto immune disease and was hospitalised for a little, upon release I was pretty weak and took a couple of months off to rest. Where he could he was there for me and really stepped up.

What I’m struggling with is watching him strive and thrive in a job that just keeps getting bigger and bigger. He recently got promoted within the first year in the role and it just feels like it continues to expand. It has turned into week night dinners, networking, weekend events etc and tbf he does try to invite me where possible. But it’s sucking so much of his time that we rarely see each other. He is so exhausted post work he’ll often just collapse at home and sleep, eat and watch tv.

We are pretty prone to an argument, and it’s generally about the relationship coming last and unmet needs. I will admit I can be a bit needy especially since my network is so small here. And I actually just REALLY miss him. Everyone else gets the best of him and I get all the dregs.

And right now we are feeling more like room mates than members of a couple. He has put on significant weight with his work lifestyle and has stopped exercising. I am very wellness focused and health is a real value of mine. Intimacy has completely dropped off the radar, as when we do get any time together it feels like starting at 0 all over again.

Is the writing on the wall and I’m just in denial about leaving, or do I wait things out for things to settle with his work?

Does anyone else have any insight for being in relationships where you feel like you are running at different paces?

*Edited to add*
Thank you every one who responded! This has been the most inspiring comment section that I simply was NOT expecting.
I actually teared up a little opening reddit this morning and seeing all of these super inspiring stories of starting over and just going for it AND succeeding in a new career in touch with nature. I'm slowly getting back to y'all - but again thank you. The head noise around the transition was getting a little loud for a bit. But this has honestly inspired and moved me in ways I can't quite articulate. Really loving the community for sharing. Thanks again 🩷

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Hi all,

I’m starting a horticulture course in about 6 weeks and I’ve been sitting with a mix of feelings I thought I’d share here.

I’m coming out of a couple of pretty high-burnout design/marketing roles and intentionally moving toward something slower, more hands-on, and more connected to the natural world.

I’m really drawn to garden design (I’ve got a background in design), plus edible gardens, permaculture, and the idea of making growing food feel simple and accessible rather than overwhelming.

I’m not romanticising it either, I know it’s hard physical work, weather, unpredictability, all of that. That’s actually part of why I respect it.

I’m 37F, and definitely feeling a bit of that “am I too late / will I fit in here?” energy walking into something new and at a guess quite male dominated.

But also… it feels right.

Would love to hear from anyone who’s made a similar pivot into horticulture later or after burnout careers.

Just as the title suggests, my partner has been offered a significant job in Bali that he has been chasing for a while.

Now that the offer is on the table and we are discussing options, I need some advice regarding bringing my dog.

I have lived in Bali previously but was solo and had no dependants.

This time around I’m a little older and wiser and the move would be for a much longer stint.

I am from Australia and we have pretty strict rules about bringing a dog into Australia. But I wonder, about taking a dog into Bali.

What do I need to know, is it easy? Is there anywhere immigration wise I might get caught up in legalities?

Thanks friends!!

Has anyone here had subacute thyroiditis / thyroiditis that turned their nervous system into an absolute dumpster fire? Because I genuinely feel like I’m on the wildest rollercoaster of my life right now and I need to know I’m not alone 🥹🥹🥹

A few weeks ago I was super active and healthy. Working and functioning normally.

But now?
My body feels like it’s permanently stuck between:
- having the flu
- having a panic attack
- overheating
- freezing to death
- havin the anxiety of 100ppl combined
- and being plugged into a live electrical socket

My symptoms come in waves, and sooo much at night. One minute I’m under 3 blankets shivering, the next I’m drenched in sweat with my heart pounding. I’ve had jaw pain, ear pain, migraines, neck pain, random adrenaline surges, shakiness, muscle clenching, breath-holding without realising, insomnia, and this awful “activated” feeling where my nervous system just WILL NOT switch off.

The weird part is how manic it feels even though I know it’s hormones and my thyroid. But my nervous system gets jacked and it’s like I’m bracing for a high impact collision

I’ve started propranolol this week which does seem to help bring me back down a bit, but omg… this whole thing is brutal.

So I would really love to hear from real humans who’ve been through this:
How long does the hyper phase last?
Did anything genuinely help?
Did you eventually feel normal again???

And please tell me I’m not the only person who felt like they were losing the plot during it 🫠

Would honestly love to hear any experiences, reassurance, timelines, tips or good stories because right now this feels endless.

I’m a 37f and I’ve been through a few ups and downs in my time with life and business. Covid really knocked me around and I lost my business in that.

I went back as a mature age apprentice and started a career that I have never really been able to turn into big dollars. I’m pretty frugal and while I’ve been working very average paying jobs, I’ve managed to save a considerable $200k.

The only thing is, I’m so mentally attached to it “as a safety net”.

I recently moved cities and am back in the job market and realistically my profession will net me a salary $80-100k. Which is just okayyy.

My funds have been sitting in a HISA but I know that’s not the best plan. I’ve thought about buying an investment property but my borrowing power is so weak.

Maybe I retrain in a higher paying job? Idk feeling kinda stuck.