I've never actually followed her, but Youtube keeps recommending her to me and I lowkey find her cringey. Especially since she got a bf that has become her whole personality - last year she was posting about not having ever had a relationship at 28 and now she seems to think her boyfriend is the most important thing about her content? I don't know why she annoys me so much.
Couple weeks before moving to Aalborg for my boyfriend's PhD stay and just found out that my elderly cat has a long list of issues that require constant monitoring - kidney disease, thyroid issues, and chronic gastroenteritis. Would really appreaciate any recs for a veterinary clinic especialising in cats. I'm feeling really worried atm. TIA.
Inspired by this post on r/interestingasfuck : https://www.reddit.com/r/interestingasfuck/comments/1vp8o4j/what_dating_in_the_amish_world_is_like/
Many comments were saying that that looked a lot like traditional courtship before phones existed and that made me wonder.
In Spain, single women of marriageable age would sit by the window in the evening and their pretendant(s) would come and talk to them. The windows were grilled to safeguard the women's virtue. Once the relationship got "serious", the boyfriend would be allowed into the courtyard (in summer) or the kitchen (in winter), always in the presence of other female members of the household who would sit in a corner doing needlework or reading (but ostensibly keeping an eye on the couple so they didn't touch each other).
This was all done in a hush-hush manner, with the young man always coming and going through the back door. He first went into the house through the main door on the day he proposed. That day he'd come with his parents and ask the girl's parents for her hand in marriage. Up until then, they all pretended nothing was happening and that he didn't know the girl's parents, even if everybody knew he was courting their daughter.
This custom was alive as recently as the 1940s in rural areas. This is how my granddad courted my grandma in Southern Castile in 1942. Their courtship lasted for over a year, which apparently was the norm.
I've ordered and worn mostly human hair in the past and I've only recently made the move to synthetic. I'm really loving synthetic wigs as they're much lower maintenance and IMO better value for your money.
However what I don't love is that I find it hard to find both a colour and I style that I like in the same wig (not to mention sizing, but I've accepted that my head id basically peanut-sized at this point and nothing will ever fit me perfectly).
With human hair it's so easy to just order what to want and have it custom made, however I can't seem to find the same customization options with synthetic wigs. The closest thing I've been able to find has been smaller wig makers on Etsy that seem to cater mostly to the drag and cosplay communities, and I'm afraid that my preferred style (wavy bob with bangs) might be the best use of their talent.
If anyone reading this knows of any wig maker who could offer a custom made synthetic for a reasonable price (around 500€) please drop their link int he comments. TIA!
Me ha surgido una curiosidad tras conocer la situación de un cliente mío de EEUU. Su madre era adolescente cuando lo tuvo y en la familia se decidió que lo criara la prima de su madre, que era adulta y tenía mejor situación financiera, para que la madre pudiera continuar sus estudios. Esta persona tiene contacto con ambas mujeres y considera a ambas sus madres.
Yo he sido madre de acogida en España así que conozco un poco el proceso, pero, por lo que sé, incluso con los bebés de rechazo, siempre la decisión de quién acoge al niño está en manos de servicios sociales o del juez, y nunca puede darse que la familia se reúna y elijan entre ellos quién se va a quedar con el niño, ¿es así?
Me pregunto si en un caso hipotético de rechazo del bebé no tendría sentido para la madre decir: oye, yo no me lo quedo, pero he hablado ya con X persona y está dispuesta. Y obvio con el corrspondiente screening del acogedor, me parece que sería un sistema más rápido y menos traumático de gestionar este tipo de acogimientos.
This is a new student and I'm still trying to understand how to communicate with them. As an example, if I ask how their day was, they'll just nod. If I insist, they reply, "it's ok, I understood the question, we can move on". I reckon they don't quite understand that the point of questions is to reply and engage in conversation?
Another thing they do is disconnecting immediately when we hit the 50-minute mark without leaving me room to summarise or simply say goodbye (they don't say goodbye either, and since they're a complete beginner, I'm not sure they know how because they never put themself in a situation to say goodbye, since they just leave the classroom).
On the other hand, they're not openly confrontative so idk. I'm taking a month off in August so I was thinking of holding on and seeing before making the choice to cancel and block. What do you guys reckon?
Browsing today through preply and italki looking for a Danish teacher, just happened to notice that older-looking tutor have lower prices. Wondering if that's related to ageism, or if tutor have noticed other ways in which ageism manifests in this line of work.
Dado que por lo general en España no se estila la pedida de mano que hacen en los países anglófonos, me da curiosidad: los que estáis casados, ¿quién y cómo sacó el tema?
Pregunta muy noob, lo sé. Trabajo en remoto y desde hace cuatro años mi ordenador principal ha sido el de sobremesa. No tiene mucha RAM y últimamente estoy utilizando más el portátil (32 GB). Además, el PC está ya lleno de basurilla y a veces va lento. Y, finalmente, el PC me ocupa un sitio en casa que me gustaría liberar, por ejemplo con un escritorio plegable o algo así.
Entonces: ¿cómo pasar todo lo del PC al portátil? Idealmente, eliminando la basura, aunque imagino que para eso debería sentarme un día (o varios) y seleccionar manualmente.
Lo que se me ocurre a mí:
Contratar un servicio de almacenamiento en la nube y subirlo todo ahí. Pero me da rabia pagar.
Meterlo todo en un disco duro y pasarlo al portátil. ¿Todavía se hace esto?
¿Otras ideas?
Gracias :)
Second pic was my inspo, first pic is how my living room ceiling looks now. My bff brought her husband over to hang this light for me. I appreciate their help but I don't quite like how it looks. I added the plant on a whim and I also don't think it looks great. I'm stuck with it for a while because I told my friend that I love it, but I might rearrange the living room sometime next year and I think I'll get rid of the ceiling light entirely.
My friend's husband suggested that I buy some faux ceiling medallion to cover the hole which I'll do over the weekend.
Looking for suggestions on how to make this look better without changing the setup for now. TIA
Edit - thanks for your feedback. I've decided to call an electrician and ask for the cord to go inside the ceiling. I'll also get rid of the plant. I'll post here as soon as it's done. I appreciate all the kind comments!
Llevo años diciéndole a mi hermanastro que me deje a la niña y fantaseando con lo buena tía que podría ser si me la dejasen... Y ahora se va a cumplir mi sueño y estoy en modo pánico 😱
Me la traen el jueves por la noche y se la llevan el domingo después de comer. Y no tengo ni idea de qué hacer con ella. Vivo en un pueblo de Castilla y todavía no han abierto la piscina, que era el 100% de mi plan de cosas que hacer con ella.
Es una niña más buena que nada; de hecho tiene un poco síndrome de hermana mayor (su hermano tiene NNEE) y el problema es que nunca da su opinión ni sabes realmente si algo le apetece o lo hace por complacer.
Aparte de googlear "actividades con niños en mi zona", ¿alguien con más experiencia que yo tiene alguna sugerencia de cosas que puedo hacer con ella?
EDIT - Mil gracias por las sugerencias, qué gusto da encontrar el lado bueno de Reddit! De momento, me quedo con tres planes: ir a ver pájaros (vivo cerca de una reserva de aves), ir de picnic y hacer acuarelas juntas. Y luego, lo que vaya surgiendo :)
Estoy pensando en comprarme un móvil para abuelos que solo tiene llamadas y WhatsApp para recuperar mi tiempo libre. ¿Alguien lo ha hecho? ¿Cómo le va?
Six months into the healthiest relationship I've ever had. The honeymoon period is wearing off and we're now readjusting to a calmer way of being together. I'm mostly happy but I have some moments of anxiety, especially when he's not around. Mostly in the shape of doubts like, "does he still want me around? And do I? Is this going to last?"
Is this normal or is this my relationship baggage acting up? Does this ever go away on its own?
My boyfriend (36) is enrolled in a master's degree and he'll be in Aalborg for two months – September and October. We're struggling to find him accomodation. The university sent him a link to some local accommodation office but we haven't heard back. So far we've only found one good (ish) option on Airbnb, but there must be other places to look, right?
We'll settle for a room for him within reasonable distance from the town centre, but ideally I'd like to come with and bring my cat if we can find an affordable option. I speak Swedish so I can find my way around written Danish, but my boyfriend speaks only English.
Any recommendations will be much appreciated. TIA!
Vivo en una zona rural de Castilla y a menudo veo cositas en Vinted que me gustan a precios muy bajos, como 6 u 8€, pero luego si le doy a comprar me sale que el único punto de recogida es un pueblo a 20 minutos de aquí con cero conexión por transporte público, y el envío me cuesta 5€.
Mi pueblo tiene oficina de correos, pero por lo que parece esa opción solo se activa si el envío se hace desde España.
Y tampoco estoy tan lejos de la capital de mi provincia y voy casi todos los días, pero por lo que sea Vinted no me muestra opciones allí, solo en ese pueblo que me pilla fatal, como única opción.
Si por lo menos la app me dejase filtrar por lugar de origen... Pero al final me da la sensación de que estoy perdiendo el tiempo, porque por una falda de 6€ obvio no voy a pagar 5€ de envío.
¿A alguien más le pasa? ¿Hay manera de ajustarlo para que me salgan más opciones de recogida?
This is a very minor inconvenience but I teach both on preply and italki and currently I have 5 students named Daria and I'm having a hard time remembering which one is which when it comes to class prep. Previously when it was only two they were "Daria Preply" and "Daria Italki" on my calendar and I managed pretty well. But there's been some sort of Daria explosion lately and I keep mixing them up. Any tips? TIA!
My friend Natasha (38) went through a lot of trauma in her early years and as a result she doesn't always make the best choices for herself.
Last year she left a LTR without notifying her partner, just moved out on a whim and got into a fling with a 26-year-old co-worker from Tunisia. Then she got pregnant. When she was telling me about it she said, "it was unexpected because it had never happened to me before!" I didn't understand what she meant until she clarified, as the most obvious thing, that she had never in her life used contraceptives. Yup.
By the time she found out about the pregnancy, the fling was already over, but she got in touch with the guy who pressured her to get an abortion. She refused, even after she'd been laid off from work and started relying on benefits.
She then moved in with the baby daddy in order to save on rent. He became abusive around the time of birth. He became obsessed that Natasha was sleeping around (one week after giving birth, when she was still sore from the C-section – and even if she was, which she wasn't, they weren't in a relationship, just living together for the sake of co-parenting). He then tried to get the baby removed from her.
It's been almost a year and Natasha is no longer living with him – she left after he kicked in the back when she fell asleep on the floor next to the crib after feeding– but he managed to sue and get daily unsupervised visits with the baby, and is actively trying to get her parental rights removed so he can send the baby to his parents in Tunisia. He does stuff like recording her after a dentist appointment so he can tell the court that she's drunk, or not informing her or medical appointments he books for the baby so it looks like she forgot. All while texting her the vilest stuff.
Natasha often sends me long audio messages about the stuff she's going through and I want to support. Unfortunately, the only thought in my head most of the time is "that baby should've never been born". But I know for a fact that Natasha is a kind and harmless human being that doesn't deserve all the sh*t she's gone through, both now and previously in her life. How can I support her without being judgemental or burning out?
Una amiga muy querida, residente en Cataluña, se quedó embarazada de un conocido con quien no tenía relación. Ambos son extranjeros extracomunitarios; yo soy española. Desde el nacimiento del bebé, el padre intentó secuestrarlo varias veces y quitarle la custodia a la madre; con tretas como acusarla de alcoholismo (en cierta ocasión cuando mi amiga volvió a casa del dentista y no podía hablar claramente por la anestesia) o negar su firma para darle al bebé la residencia en España (este hombre quiere llevarse el bebé a su país).
Casi diariamente mi amiga me llama llorando para contarme otras cosas terribles que ese individuo hace. Está sometida a un estrés constante y fuertemente medicada; pero le han explicado que en Cataluña rara vez se quita la custodia al padre y que nunca se admiten denuncias de maltrato psicológico.
Yo estoy en Castilla y León. Sufro mucho por mi amiga y estoy pensando en ofrecerle que nos casemos para iniciar un proceso de adopción o al menos de tutoría legal de la niña. De esta manera la madre ganaría fuerza para que no le quiten la custodia. Al contrario que ella, yo tengo un contrato fijo y una casa en propiedad. Pero mi novio dice que eso sería fraude de ley y podría resultar en detrimento de la madre. ¿Es así?
EDIT - para aclarar, ambos progenitores son de países diferentes. Mi amiga es rusa y el padre es tunecino. Mi amiga no puede volver a su país por su posicionamiento político, sin embargo, por la insistencia del individuo, tiene el pasaporte secuestrado en el juzgado para evitar que se fugue con el bebé.
Sorry for being cryptic but I don't want to break any rules or offend anyone.
There was a man in the local fair engraving mugs with your name or any words you asked, in beautiful Arabic calligraphy. My boyfriend and I wanted the text to express our views on the situation in the Middle East. The man was very nice about it and refused to charge us for his work, because agreed with us.
However, when we got home my boyfriend uploaded the pictures above to ChatGPT and he got the following response:
Is it true that the text doesn't say anything about Palestine and it's rather about being patient? ChatGPT even argues that it's part of a well-known verse of the Qur'an. It is a beautiful idea but I'd be disappointed if it was true. Can anyone help? Because we're based in Spain we assume that the text is in darija, but we can't be sure. Any help will be appreciated!
Feel like at my age I should know this already. Maybe if I'm thinking about it, that means it's time to leave?
There's a constant in my life when I fall prey to the sunken cost fallacy, and I stay because I already stayed for so long, maybe I should stay forever?
How do you guys know it's time to let go?