u/ValRosenstein

Hey everyone,

I’m planning to get back into strength training after around 4 months off and would appreciate some feedback on my training plan.

A bit of background:

I used to train regularly at the gym, but at some point I developed triceps tendinitis. I went to a physical therapist and was given a modified, significantly reduced gym routine to help my triceps recover. I followed the rehab program for a few weeks, but shortly afterwards I started a new job and haven't been able to train at all for the past 4 months.

I used to train regularly at the gym, and had triceps tendinitis for which I went to the PT and got a modified and way decreased gym routine to healt my triceps. I did the exercises for a few weeks, but soon after started a new jobs where I haven’t been able to train at all for the past 4 months.

I’ve had no symptoms for several months now – no pain in everyday life or during normal movements. However, I obviously haven’t really tested the tendon under strength-training loads during this time.

That’s why I want to take my return seriously and start slowly. I’m planning to use significantly lower weights at first and gradually build my workload back up.

My current plan is:

Full body – 3× per week

• Squats (Goblet or machine) – 3×10–12
• Lat pulldown, wide grip – 3×10–12
• Butterfly / Pec Deck – 3×12–15
• Seated cable row, neutral grip – 3×10–12
• Triceps rehab exercises – 2–3 sets according to my previous rehab program
• Biceps curls (dumbbells or cable) – 2–3×10–12
• Back extensions – 2×12–15
• Plank – 2×30–45 sec

For the first few weeks, I’m planning to start at around 50–60% of my previous working weights and train with around 3–4 reps in reserve (RIR). If everything feels good, especially the triceps tendon, I’ll gradually increase the weight and if it continues like that include Dips and Bench press

I’d love to hear your thoughts:

1. How do you think this routine looks for getting back into training after 4 months off?
2. Would you add or remove any exercises?

My main goal is to get back into training without immediately aggravating the tendon, while eventually returning to normal strength training.

Thanks in advance for any feedback!

Hallo zusammen,
ich war Ende letzten Jahres/ Anfang dieses Jahres bereits arbeitslos und habe dabei das Ortsabwesenheitskontingents voll genutzt, weil ich Anfang des Jahres einen Job begonnen habe.

Dieses Arbeitsverhältnis endet nun aufgrund Kündigung Ende diesen Monats.
Anschließend werde ich keinen Anspruch auf ALG I haben, da das mein erster Job war und ich nicht das Jahr voll gemacht habe.

Da ich nach der ziemlich anstrengenden Zeit gerne zwei Wochen verreisen möchte, hatte ich folgende Idee:

- 31.08.: Ende des Arbeitsverhältnisses
- ab 01.09.: zwei Wochen verreisen
- während dieser Zeit noch keinen Grundsicherungsantrag stellen
- nach meiner Rückkehr: Grundsicherung beantragen

Meine Frage ist daher: Kann ich das so machen, ohne von Jobcenter vorher eine Genehmigung holen zu müssen?

Wie gesagt, ich habe kein Kontingent mehr. Ich würde dann einfach die zwei Wochen auf Grundsicherung verzichten und Krankenversicherung selber zahlen.

Mir geht es vor allem darum, ob ich nach der Rückkehr ganz normal Grundsicherung beantragen kann und ob es dabei Probleme geben könnte dass ich jetzt verreise ohne vorherige Abstimmung.

Wie gesagt, ich will verreisen bevor ich Grundsicherung beantrage. Muss ich mir das trotzdem irgendwie genehmigen lassen?

I’ve been working as a consultant for a few months now after a long period of unemployment. I took the first opportunity I got because I was tired of being unemployed and wanted to get back on track.
As many of you know, consulting can be extremely demanding, but I underestimated just how intense it would be. I’m currently working around 65 hours per week at a very high pace, and I’ve been struggling with it from the start.
My mindset was to “take the soul of this job” — to embrace the challenge, outwork everyone, and prove myself. So far, the feedback has been great. I’ve been praised for my work ethic and commitment.
But at the same time, I feel like I’m heading toward burnout if I continue like this. I haven’t been to the gym once in these two months because I work so much , after clocking out I directly have to go to bed to catch some sleep before the next day. I’m completely drained. I spend most of my weekends sleeping and recovering just to make it through the next week.
I wanted to use the Goggins mindset and push myself through adversity, but I’m starting to wonder if I’m applying it the wrong way.
Did I misunderstand the mindset? Is this what “embracing the suck” is supposed to look like, or am I just destroying myself in the process?

After graduating, I spent about 10 months looking for a job before finally landing a role at a small consulting company. To be honest, a big reason I accepted it was because I couldn't stand being unemployed any longer.

I've only been there for about a month, but I'm already seriously questioning whether I can do this long-term. The workload is intense. I work around 50–55 hours a week and spend pretty much the entire day trying to keep up. Sometimes I even skip lunch because I feel like I'll fall behind otherwise.

The stress is starting to affect me outside of work as well. I've developed sleep problems and I have very little energy left for anything after work. I used to go to the gym regularly, but lately I can barely motivate myself to do much of anything outside of work. I told my supervisioer about my problems but he simply told me "you'll get used to it, improve your time management".

My familys advices to stick it out for the work experience, but honestly, I've already found myself breaking down in tears twice because I feel overwhelmed by the pace and the constant pressure. The pay also isn't particularly great considering the hours and stress involved.

My original plan was to start applying elsewhere immediately and leave once I had another offer. The problem is that it took me 10 months to find this job, and I'm not sure I can realistically keep doing this for another 10 months while searching.

So I'm wondering: how badly would I be hurting my future prospects if I quit without another job lined up?

My resume would basically look like this:

Graduation → 10 months unemployed → first job (around 3 months total) → unemployed again

I know the job market isn't great, and it was hard enough finding this role after 10 months. I don't want to make future employers even more hesitant by quitting so quickly. On the other hand, I'm worried about what staying might do to my mental health if things continue like this.

What would you do in my situation?

Ich war etwa 10 Monate auf Jobsuche und bin seit 2 Monaten in einem neuen Job.

Leider merke ich inzwischen, dass es dort für mich nicht funktioniert. Ich arbeite aktuell 50 Stunden pro Woche. Das Problem sind weniger die Stunden an sich, sondern der permanente Workload. Ich arbeite praktisch die gesamten 10+ Stunden am Tag hochkonzentriert durch, weil ich sonst mit meinen Aufgaben nicht hinterherkommen würde.

Es ist insgesamt einfach deutlich zu viel und ich habe das Gefühl, dauerhaft im Hintertreffen zu sein. Inzwischen wirkt sich das auch auf mein Privatleben aus. Ich schlafe schlecht, denke ständig an die Arbeit, komme aus Zeitgründen unter der Woche kaum zum Essen und am Wochenende schlafe ich fast nur, um mich von der Woche zu erholen.

Ich bewerbe mich bereits wieder, aber ich habe keine Ahnung, wie lange es dauern würde, etwas Neues zu finden.

Eigentlich würde ich am liebsten sofort kündigen. Andererseits sieht „10 Monate Jobsuche → wenige Monate im Job → wieder arbeitslos“ im Lebenslauf natürlich nicht gut aus.

Deshalb die Frage: Wann würdet ihr sagen, dass Durchhalten keinen Sinn mehr macht? Auf welche Warnsignale würdet ihr achten? Und würdet ihr in meiner Situation kündigen oder erst gehen, wenn etwas Neues gefunden ist?

TL;DR: I’m 28, educated, employed, and doing “fine” on paper, but I feel stuck, anxious, and unfulfilled. I want to build a personal brand through content creation on the side, and eventually create a third income pillar strong enough to replace my job and give me more freedom. I just don’t know how to approach it.

I’m 28. On paper, my life probably looks pretty good: I have a bachelor’s degree and an MBA, I work out, I have a decent physique, and I have a fairly well-paying job, although the hours are long.

But internally, I feel miserable.

I deal with a lot of anxiety. I’m ambitious, but I’m also inconsistent and procrastinate a lot. That combination has held me back for years.

Before my current job, I was unemployed for a long time. I applied for jobs and learned some basics of shooting videos and creating content, but looking back, I feel like I wasted most of that time. I only posted five videos in five months and got nowhere with it.

Now I’m working a lot, but I don’t feel free. I want to become more independent, travel more, and eventually work from anywhere. I’ve travelled to some places and ever since then I sometimes get this strong feeling that there is a whole different life out there that I’m missing out on, while I’m stuck in my current environment. I know this might partly be FOMO, but the feeling is still there.

Freelancing or building something online appeals to me, but I don’t feel like I have a clear skill I can monetize, despite having two degrees.

My rough plan right now is this: I want to keep my job for financial stability, build a personal brand through content creation on the side, and create a third income pillar that could eventually become strong enough for me to leave my job. Ideally, that third pillar would be through monetizing some skills and work as a freelancer, but I don’t know what it should be yet or how to approach it strategically.

I don’t want to quit impulsively or run away from responsibility. But long term, I don’t want to depend on a traditional job forever either. I want to build something that gives me more control over my time, location, and income.

I feel like I wasted my twenties, and I don’t want to keep going like this.

I have ideas and ideas, but no execution plan. And that sums up my life.

Goals and no execution.

For people who have felt lost in their late twenties: how did you find direction? How do you figure out what skill to build, what path to take, and how to actually become more disciplined and independent?

Any practical advice, frameworks, or personal experiences would really help.

TL;DR: I’m 28, educated, employed, and doing “fine” on paper, but I feel stuck, anxious, and unfulfilled. I want to build a personal brand through content creation on the side, and eventually create a third income pillar strong enough to replace my job and give me more freedom. I just don’t know how to approach it.

I’m 28. On paper, my life probably looks pretty good: I have a bachelor’s degree and an MBA, I work out, I have a decent physique, and I have a fairly well-paying job, although the hours are long.

But internally, I feel miserable.

I deal with a lot of anxiety. I’m ambitious, but I’m also inconsistent and procrastinate a lot. That combination has held me back for years.

Before my current job, I was unemployed for a long time. I applied for jobs and learned some basics of shooting videos and creating content, but looking back, I feel like I wasted most of that time. I only posted five videos in five months and got nowhere with it.

Now I’m working a lot, but I don’t feel free. I want to become more independent, travel more, and eventually work from anywhere. I’ve travelled to some places and ever since then I sometimes get this strong feeling that there is a whole different life out there that I’m missing out on, while I’m stuck in my current environment. I know this might partly be FOMO, but the feeling is still there.

Freelancing or building something online appeals to me, but I don’t feel like I have a clear skill I can monetize, despite having two degrees.

My rough plan right now is this: I want to keep my job for financial stability, build a personal brand through content creation on the side, and create a third income pillar that could eventually become strong enough for me to leave my job. Ideally, that third pillar would be through monetizing some skills and work as a freelancer, but I don’t know what it should be yet or how to approach it strategically.

I don’t want to quit impulsively or run away from responsibility. But long term, I don’t want to depend on a traditional job forever either. I want to build something that gives me more control over my time, location, and income.

I feel like I wasted my twenties, and I don’t want to keep going like this.

I have ideas and ideas, but no execution plan. And that sums up my life. Goals and no execution.

For people who have felt lost in their late twenties: how did you find direction? How do you figure out what skill to build, what path to take, and how to actually become more disciplined and independent?

Any practical advice, frameworks, or personal experiences would really help.

I understand that official political recognition is very unlikely, largely because of Armenia’s historically close relationship with Russia, even though that relationship has weakened in recent years. Russia denies the Circassian Genocide, and from what I have seen on Russian subreddits, many Russians deny it as well; some even appear to justify it, which I find deeply disturbing.

Georgia has already recognized the Circassian Genocide, and Ukraine has done so too, although, to be fair, Ukraine’s recognition came only after Russia’s invasion. Turkey has referred to it as a genocide, but there has been no official recognition. A German MP with Circassian roots has also raised the issue in the German parliament.

So I am curious: how is this issue generally viewed by the Armenian public? Is it something people are aware of or is it largely absent from public consciousness in Armenia?

I wanted to introduce Arda Saatci to this subreddit.

He’s an endurance runner from Germany who takes on a new extreme challenge every year. Last year, he ran the full length of Japan. He’s pretty well known in Germany, but I’m not sure how many people here have heard of him. You could describe him as a German version of David Goggins.

This year, his challenge is to run from Badwater in Death Valley to the Santa Monica Pier in under 96 hours. He’s basically running almost non-stop, only taking short 30-minute naps along the way.

Since he’s a sponsored Red Bull athlete, the whole thing is being livestreamed on YouTube:

https://www.youtube.com/live/l0X5R1hRw8g?is=THkwVVtP9dpTavaM

You can also just search for “Arda Saatci” on YouTube and the livestream should come up.

I’m a third-generation immigrant, born and raised in Germany with Turkish roots. I also spent a year living in Istanbul, so I’ve had the chance to connect both with the Turkish diaspora in Europe and with people actually living in Turkey. My social circle (and even my family) spans a wide political spectrum—from very conservative to very liberal—so I feel like I’ve seen quite a range of perspectives.

From my experience in Germany, where I’ve met many Turks and some Armenians, it often felt like people in the diaspora (not everyone, of course) tend to have more negative views of “the other side.”

However, when I lived in Istanbul, my impression was quite different. Many Turks I met there either had a neutral or even somewhat positive view of Armenians. For example, after the assassination of Hrant Dink (turkish-armenian journalist), thousands of people in Istanbul protested with signs saying “We are all Armenians” (Menk Polorys Hay Enk). I honestly have a hard time imagining a similar reaction among parts of the diaspora in Europe.

I also met a few Armenians living in Istanbul who said they feel equal and don’t experience discrimination in their daily lives and do not feel any hatred. One person told me that while their grandparents held resentment due to past experiences, the younger generations are growing up side by side without those same feelings.

On top of that, Armenia’s current leadership under Pashinyan, who has shown openness toward normalization with Turkey, still seems to have public support.

So my question is:
Is my observation accurate that diaspora communities tend to have different—often more negative or rigid—views on each other compared to people living in Turkey and Armenia themselves?

I’m really hoping to get some input because I’ve been dealing with this for 9 months now and I’m honestly getting pretty frustrated.

About 9 months ago, right after shaving, I physically over-exfoliated my neck. After that, my skin started reacting badly — redness, tightness, irritation. What confused me was that this reaction happened even when I applied my regular moisturizer, which I had used for years without any issues. Minutes after applying, my skin gets red and irritated and sooths after 30min to 1h.

I went to a dermatologist, but to be honest, I wasn’t very satisfied with the visit. She prescribed me a barrier-repair moisturizer for atopic eczema (dexeryl creme) and told me to stop exfoliating completely and never use my old cream again. I tolerate the new cream fine, eventhough my skin is more on the oily side.

But ever since then:

• I can’t use my old moisturizer anymore → it causes redness and burning immediately
• I can’t tolerate perfume at all
• My skin still feels more sensitive and not “normal” like before

It’s been 9 months, and my skin barrier still doesn’t seem to be back to where it used to be.

What bothers me most is that:

• I used to have zero issues with my old products
• Now I react strongly to them
• And I really miss being able to wear perfume normally

Long term, I’d at least like to:

• be able to wear perfume again without irritation
• and maybe eventually exfoliate again

My questions:

• Has anyone experienced something like this after over-exfoliating?
• What was your routine to overcome this?
• And most importantly: is it realistic that my skin can fully recover from this?

I’m planning to see another dermatologist, but I’d really appreciate hearing from people who’ve gone through something similar.

Thanks a lot 🙏

https://preview.redd.it/6u6r5t0bbyxg1.jpg?width=717&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4709948a4aad8375c73fe4ad111c3a2afc8940d3

I’m really hoping to get some input because I’ve been dealing with this for 9 months now and I’m honestly getting pretty frustrated.

About 9 months ago, right after shaving, I physically over-exfoliated my neck. After that, my skin started reacting badly — redness, tightness, irritation. What confused me was that this reaction happened even when I applied my regular moisturizer, which I had used for years without any issues. Minutes after applying, my skin gets red and irritated and sooths after 30min to 1h.

I went to a dermatologist, but to be honest, I wasn’t very satisfied with the visit. She prescribed me a barrier-repair moisturizer for atopic eczema (dexeryl creme) and told me to stop exfoliating completely and never use my old cream again. I tolerate the new cream fine, eventhough my skin is more on the oily side.

But ever since then:

• I can’t use my old moisturizer anymore → it causes redness and burning immediately
• I can’t tolerate perfume at all
• My skin still feels more sensitive and not “normal” like before

It’s been 9 months, and my skin barrier still doesn’t seem to be back to where it used to be.

What bothers me most is that:

• I used to have zero issues with my old products
• Now I react strongly to them
• And I really miss being able to wear perfume normally

Long term, I’d at least like to:

• be able to wear perfume again without irritation
• and maybe eventually exfoliate again

My questions:

• Has anyone experienced something like this after over-exfoliating?
• What was your routine to overcome this?
• And most importantly: is it realistic that my skin can fully recover from this?

I’m planning to see another dermatologist, but I’d really appreciate hearing from people who’ve gone through something similar.

Thanks a lot 🙏

https://preview.redd.it/fn8wnsy5byxg1.jpg?width=717&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9871a3ccf39254505d95a0eb949c164c7d995497

I’m really hoping to get some input because I’ve been dealing with this for 9 months now and I’m honestly getting pretty frustrated.

About 9 months ago, right after shaving, I physically over-exfoliated my neck. After that, my skin started reacting badly — redness, tightness, irritation. What confused me was that this reaction happened even when I applied my regular moisturizer, which I had used for years without any issues. Minutes after applying, my skin gets red and irritated and sooths after 30min to 1h.

I went to a dermatologist, but to be honest, I wasn’t very satisfied with the visit. She prescribed me a barrier-repair moisturizer for atopic eczema (dexeryl creme) and told me to stop exfoliating completely and never use my old cream again. I tolerate the new cream fine, eventhough my skin is more on the oily side.

But ever since then:

• I can’t use my old moisturizer anymore → it causes redness and burning immediately
• I can’t tolerate perfume at all
• My skin still feels more sensitive and not “normal” like before

It’s been 9 months, and my skin barrier still doesn’t seem to be back to where it used to be.

What bothers me most is that:

• I used to have zero issues with my old products
• Now I react strongly to them
• And I really miss being able to wear perfume normally

Long term, I’d at least like to:

• be able to wear perfume again without irritation
• and maybe eventually exfoliate again

My questions:

• Has anyone experienced something like this after over-exfoliating?
• What was your routine to overcome this?
• And most importantly: is it realistic that my skin can fully recover from this?

I’m planning to see another dermatologist, but I’d really appreciate hearing from people who’ve gone through something similar.

Thanks a lot 🙏

https://preview.redd.it/m7wqt1jsnwxg1.jpg?width=947&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2e1e6a5702d6a6b9c10a7b8d85cb48fb81d27a11