u/Vegetable_Basis_4087

What wild tales will you tell your children and grandchildren in a few decades?

I've been absorbed in this whole generation discussion for a long time, fueled by insecurity.

All the Millenials and Xers on reddit constantly talk about how my generation is dumb, socially clueless, sensitive, and anti-fun. How we never go out or party, never rebel and have adventures. Being constantly exposed to these statements online has made me insecure and feel like I missed out on something incredible. Hell, I'm even getting subtle suicidal thoughts- I'll never be able to time travel back into the 80's, 90's, or 2000's. Why not just end it all and relieve the pain of having missed out?

Hell, I've seen parties at my high school. I've been in fights. I know kids will still be kids, but my online exposure to this topic has altered my worldview so that even when I see real evidence that my generation can be exciting just like 80's teens were, I tune it out.

All my life, I've had a fixed mindset. I have a visceral reaction to failure, even though intellectually I know that failing is normal and necessary. I subconsciously see any failure, even something as simple as losing a board game with friends, as a proof of inferiority and inadequacy, and thus I avoid competition to avoid the risk of failure.

ADHD doesn't help- my emotional dysregulation makes me either break down or shut down in the face of failure, rather than pushing through with hunger.

I have some minor struggles mentally that I'd like to get support on. They're nothing extreme. However, seeing a real therapist currently isn't an option.

I have some minor struggles mentally that I'd like to get support on. They're nothing extreme. However, seeing a real therapist currently isn't an option.

Everyone says it's one of the most important things in LDing, but they seem to be referring to its importance in remembering your dream after you wake up, as opposed to the process of becoming lucid.

What if I don't care too much about remembering my dreams but simply want to experience a lucid dream? Is dream journaling still vital, given how time consuming it is?

I have like 3 friends but they rarely want to hang out. How do I make more friends at school? Everyone sticks to their own groups so I can't just walk up to them and say hi 😭😭😭

I'm 17, and I've never been able to set my mind to anything challenging. There are a few things I enjoy- particularly anything relating to combat. But even in Boxing, which I train once a week, as soon as the workout starts getting difficult and painful, I lose interest, slow down, and slack off. I can only push myself in sparring since it's so fun.

Not only Boxing- I just can't set my mind to any personal goal in general. One random day I suddenly became interested in learning the guitar after listening to rock. I asked my dad and he taught me the easiest, most basic note. I practiced the note for a bit that day. I haven't touched a guitar since.

I'm 17 and I have ADHD. I've never been able to set my mind to anything challenging. There are a few things I enjoy- particularly anything relating to combat. But even in Boxing, which I train once a week, as soon as the workout starts getting difficult and painful, I lose interest, slow down, and slack off. I can only push myself in sparring since it's so fun.

Not only Boxing- I just can't set my mind to any personal goal in general. One random day I suddenly became interested in learning the guitar after listening to rock. I asked my dad and he taught me the easiest, most basic note. I practiced the note for a bit that day. I haven't touched a guitar since.

I'm a 17 year old male with ADHD and Aspergers. What I've noticed is that I lack backbone.

I've never been able to set my mind to anything challenging. There are plenty of things I enjoy- particularly anything relating to combat. But even in Boxing, which I train once a week, as soon as the workout starts getting difficult and painful, I lose interest, slow down, and slack off. I love to spar, and can definitely push myself through exhaustion then, but I can't push through the burning of my muscles and my lungs as I start to gas out from bagwork, pushups, or jogging. You can imagine that I also find traditional workouts to be literal torture.

Not only Boxing- I just can't set my mind to any personal goal in general. I get a flash of inspiration to try something, but then I never actually follow through, assuming I even start. One time I was interested in learning the guitar after listening to rock. I asked my dad and he taught me the easiest, most basic note. I practiced the note for a bit that day. I haven't touched a guitar since.

Lots of things have happened in the past 6 years: The coronavirus, the first intense war in decades, Ukraine, that's also dramatic due to the return to century old technology (trench warfare, horses, a literal Maxim gun) in combination with futuristic weaponry. Invention of AI. Iran war. A president straight out of a cartoon that has survived three assassination attempts. However, it's not like previous decades are bland either; 90s had the gulf war, high violent crime, and gang war culture. 2000s and 9/11 and War on Terrorism. I guess the 2010s were actually relatively uneventful.

Yet, people keep saying it's the 2020s out of these decades that are "textbook worthy" and "straight out of a South Park episode." What do they mean by this?

Lots of things have happened in the past 6 years: The coronavirus, the first large scale war in decades, Ukraine, that's also dramatic due to the return to century old technology (trench warfare, horses, a literal Maxim gun) in combination with futuristic weaponry. Invention of AI. Iran war. A president straight out of a cartoon that has survived three assassination attempts. However, it's not like previous decades are bland either; 90s had the gulf war, high violent crime, and gang war culture. 2000s and 9/11 and War on Terrorism. I guess the 2010s were actually pretty uneventful.

Yet, people keep saying it's 2020s out of these decades that are "textbook worthy" and "straight out of a South Park episode." What do they mean by this?

We were promised lots of cool technology, but we never got it. All the innovations we *have* made in the 21st century had made life lamer. Smartphones and social media makes people go out less. Surveillance tech decreases freedom. AI is a wild card but doesn't seem to be used in any exciting manner at the moment.

Will we ever get any actual cool technology in the near future? Flying cars? Jetpacks? Androids? Holograms? Sentient AI? New forms of weaponry? Landing on Mars?

I'm currently a Junior in high school and soon I'll be applying for colleges. For me, I'm not going too much for the education. Social life and "the college experience" are probably the biggest factors in my decision. Y'know, I want these four years to be dramatic, wild, and memorable, with lots of crazy moments.

I know a lot of people in uni are antisocial and sorta just trudge class to class hoodies on, earbuds on, head down staring at their phone. I want a school where there are a lot of people like me- people that crave excitement and sensory experiences and genuinely want to interact with each other. Crazy parties every weekend. Kinda like those 90's movies, full of drama and excitement.

I live in California so UCs are definitely a consideration. UC Berkeley is nearest me but I checked it out and from my first impression, everybody there is nerdy, socially anxious, and absorbed with academics. Before I apply to certain colleges, how do I know what schools will have a good social scene and good party culture, and which won't?

I'm a Junior in high school, diagnosed with both ADHD and Aspergers. I've come to the realization of how much I'm missing out on. How do I expand my circle and get into popular, extroverted friend groups, especially knows me and many think I'm annoying, or at least don't take me seriously?

My problem is that my AuDHD makes me act really hyper, goofy, and childish with some people, making tons of jokes (not clever ones), talking with a squeaky voice on purpose, getting in people's boundaries, acting unorthodox, and just generally making people feel uncomfortable around me. As a result, I'm really well known at my school, but many people, especially the popular friend groups, see me as more of an acquaintance and comedy relief than an actual peer to accept into their group and be taken seriously. They'll say hi to me or mock my silliness, maybe even have some light conversation, but that's about it. They never include me in their activities, never invite me to any house parties, and just generally see me as a bit of a joke.

My friends are all rather nerdy and ADHD/autistic. They mostly go home right after school so I don't have much opportunities to hang out. Of course, they also don't get invited to house parties, nor do they attend school dances.

Every damn time I go on these sorts of subreddits, I leave more upset than before. I hate how Millenials keep claiming that our parties are lame. I personally haven't gone to many parties because I'm not popular, but everytime I hear a Millenial or Gen Xer talk about how wild their youth was, all the crazy parties and stories they had, it makes me so fucking jealous and upset. I can't take this anymore. They're all lying bastards, right? You can't make sweeping claims about generations, right? We still have wild parties and memorable stories, right? FUCK EVERYTHING.

The statistics indicate that kids today don't drink, party, etc as much as past generations. Regardless of true these statistics are, would you say this narrative that we don't party or have fun is overblown? I get FOMO everytime I see one of those posts.

As we've all heard, "pills don't build skills." Adderall doesn't increase your motivation. In my experience this is definitely true- in the two months I've experimented with it, I haven't seen any conclusive results regarding its effectiveness.

So I want to know *your* experience with this medicine. Are you like me, who can still get easily tempted into getting off task for hours? Or does Adderall actually *pull* you towards your work, even when its boring or difficult, by essentially killing all temptation to procrastinate, making you laser focused on what you have to do with little effort, and causing you to feel restless when trying to wind down, as if your brain wants to do nothing but work?

Fuck this dude and the comments section for making me jealous