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Hey,

Moving to Alton in the next few weeks. Not coming from far, just over the Surrey border.

Just wondering if anyone can recommend any sports groups or teams in the Alton, or surrounding area?

I can play football, tennis, squash, padel, cricket, run clubs and hiking. Basically have a good level of most sports and super open to learning new things.

Mainly I’m looking to meet new people as I’m kinda starting over with only a few friends near me.

If anyone’s got any ideas of other activities no sports related like creative stuff, I’d like that too.

Happy to travel.

Thanks all, really looking forward to moving.

Morning all,

I’ve only just found this sub after a year of issues with my spine.

Well today is a good day to post for the first time. My surgery was almost exactly 48 hours ago. First actual surgery I’ve had aside from nerve root blocks which failed.

Yesterday was absolutely fine, probably because I was in hosptial, being fed painkillers all night then excited about my discharge.

Anyway, this morning, I’ve woken up and it’s incredibly evident that I’ve had spinal surgery, if you know what I mean, I’m absolute state. Every movement is ruining me but I need to move at least once an hour.

I thought maybe I could start tapering painkillers but defo not now.

Any advice from the community? Any hints or tips / words of advice? I appreciate you all.

Hey all,

So I had a BT business broadband package miss sold to me in an EE shop. I went through the motions of cancelling this and making a complaint which was upheld.

Separately, I setup a normal retail broadband package also with BT. The activation date for this is next week.

When they cancelled the business package, they clearly forgot to cancel the engineer visit as I’ve just had the text confirming the time and date. This happens to be the same date as setting up my residential policy.

Question is, I’m thinking my residential connection might require and engineer anyway (old property, trouble with wires etc..). When the business broadband engineer turns up, incorrectly, does anyone know if they’ll crack on with my residential policy instead?

It’s too late for me to do anything about them turning up, Sunday and the bank holiday and the BT business hours to blame for that.

Trigger warning: suicide. Addiction. Severe mental health.

It’s not often I see positive posts on here and that’s completely understandable. I wanted to share the last year of my life, just briefly, for anyone that needs a bit of hope, I know I did and posts like this really helped me.

About a year ago I realised my life was at rock bottom. I was heavily addicted to prescription medication, my community were the same and fuelled the fire, I’d split up with a partner that I adored and all my PTSD symptoms lit up like a Christmas tree. I have CPTSD from childhood cancer and it went undiagnosed, not without trying, for 20 years.

Was it luck or fate, I don’t know but, when I decided enough was enough, standing on the edge of a bridge, I called a doctor first. I don’t know what prompted me to do this but I needed something, anything to help me. This doctor took their lunch break and another hour in the week to help me navigate a diagnosis for my PTSD and create a treatment plan.

I left my old life behind and never looked back. Was it the hardest thing I’ve ever done? Yes. But it was necessary, even though leaving behind people you love it painful, ultimately they were helping me enable my coping mechanisms of overusing medication. I moved back with my mum for a few months which was tough in itself but looking back, it was the best decision I’ve ever made.

I went through 6 months of EMDR therapy for my PTSD and that changed my life. I viewed the world positively again. I couldn’t change my past but I could change my future. Although the sessions made things worse before they got better, I tackled every aspect of shit life had thrown at me and I went in head first. I’ve got a lot to blame myself for but equally, a lot to give myself credit for. Finally I was able to see the beauty of the world again and, see me for who I am. Most importantly, I could feel emotion again instead of feeling numb.

That was a game changer. Again, I’m lucky here but I was able to take 2 months off work to really process what had happened over the last 2 decades of my life. I took a trip, a long one, I drove across the USA. 2 months of freedom. Just me, my truck and my thoughts. That trip saved my life. Finishing those 60 days on Venice beach thinking about what had led me here was a moment I’ll never forget.

After coming back from that trip, although I’ve got barely any friends left, I do have a few people close to me and I’m building a new community of people who are sober and that respect my sobriety and I respect everything they’ve been through too.

I’ve been fortunate enough to by myself a small flat where I feel safe. Somewhere to call home that I haven’t had before.

My life is happy now, I wake up feeling happy rather than numb or suicidal. I have hope, I have a future and most importantly, I have myself again.

Yes I’m still medicated, with something that helps this time and is non addictive. But it’s a small price to pay for good mental health.

For anyone that’s going through shit and for those who’ve reached the lowest point, I just want you to know that it does get better. Yes there’s a hell of a lot of work to do to get there and maybe a bit of luck but, I promise you’ll get there.

Going through this has shown me a side of the world I’ve never seen before, like a curse but it’s also shown me the kindness of strangers, the beauty in suffering and the pride in the work put in to get better.

This sub helped me a lot throughout this journey. For anyone that’s commented on my posts before, thank you.

If anyone wanted to ever chat, let me know.

Made my offer on January 20th, today we exchanged!

To be fair, the process has been pretty quick all things considered.

On paper this was an easy transaction. Buying from family, no chain, working for the mortgage provider but when you actually get into it, so many little tasks eat up weeks quickly.

It’s been low stress for the most part but I really can’t wait to get in now. I got lucky locking in a rate before the world went to shit so I can live peacefully for a couple of years until that fix ends.

Anyone out there still going through the process, keep going, it gets better and soon you’ll be in a new place.

I’ve defo learnt to be more patient, probably learnt to accept some defeat in certain areas but it’s been good.

My windows laptop finally gave up last month and I replaced it with a MacBook Pro with the M5 chip and 24gb RAM.

I was super disappointed about not being able to play COI again but it was a sacrifice I was willing to make at the time.

Anyway, I thought I’d test out Crossover when I was bored one night. Got the 14 day free trial. Installed Steam and COI.

I can confirm that end game runs perfectly. Honestly I was expecting a terrible frame rate, funny textures or just janky gameplay overall but there’s none of that.

If anything, it runs better than it did in my old laptop that had a NVIDIA GPU and 36gb RAM. The Mac still runs cool, no high fan speed and certainly can’t feel any heat underneath. It’s brilliant.

I’m very pleased with this development.

So for anyone worried about porting across, don’t be.