u/VioletMetalmark

You're telling me that i, someone who went against society's wishes and against an ever rising crowd of transphobes, nazis and genociders, who defined my gender as what i identified as and likewise molded both myself and my relation to my gender, is "less real" than the cissy who went with the flow and has historically been supported by said genociders? That my understanding of my gender is just "playing pretend" when the patriarchy was built by the cis for the cis, and it tells ppl that they're ugly unless they follow certain western white beauty standards? Absolutely ridiculous, and outright fascistic - it defines gender not as an experience, but as an aesthetic devoid of any deeper meaning other than one's birth genitals. Gender is a performance but holy shit are cis ppl performative af about it

Basically another thing that caused me to write about postmodern lesbianism.

I went to this event, i believe it was called the Lesbian Festival of Athens 2024. The poster was a bunch of raised arms, of all sizes and races. And yet, at the events there i saw no BIPOC, fat or non-greek speakers in general. In fact, the entire event was in greek too. It specified that this event is for all lesbians, including trans ones, yet the poems they read were all by cis lesbians and specifically mentioned disgust for "the male body" and men in general, while praising "the female body". The event itself was at a space inaccessible for those who can't use stairs. And so i asked the team that organized it, the "lesbians of the fringe", what about their event was intersectional? What did a week of cis white slim able bodied speakers talking to the audience offer to us who view ourselves as voiceless?

And they ghosted me

Heyo! Was bored so i decided I'd share. This piece was inspired by my work on flags, which I'll also have to share someday: i asked myself, what concepts are tied to the flags i identify myself with, how does it make me feel? As a trans non-binary lesbian btw ^^

The trans flag made me feel safe, like i can show a softer side of me, it made me feel comforted and welcome. Meanwhile the lesbian flag felt like something desirable for me, but i also felt threatened. I felt my guard back up, and based on my experiences, yeah. But why?

So here's my theory: the word "lesbian", as used by most people, is an umbrella term that covers a specific group of people for each person. TERFs "draw the line" at trans people, golden lesbians at women who slept with men, etc etc.

But there is a theoretical person who everyone, or nearly everyone, will admit is a lesbian. In my essay i nickname them the "divine feminine" or the "perfect lesbian" (mockingly). This person, imo, would be as stereotypically lesbian as one can get, but also a part of every majority group in order to account for people who discriminate in different ways; a racist lesbian degenders black lesbian, so this Divine Feminine must be white, for instance. Then, the further one lands from this concept, the more pushback they will receive in lesbian spaces. A white lesbian will receive less pushback than a black lesbian, a trans lesbian less pushback than a cis lesbian, you get the point.

Now, what i believe a lot of people do with this concept, is that they try to widen the acceptable spectrum. They try to make people more accepting to the identities "on the fringes", but fail to decenter this "divine femine". As a result, even if the lesbian event i go to is explicitly open to all lesbians, trans women and men included, they will still do poetry about how they don't like penises and men, bc the cis woman is still centered.

Now, what about the opposite of the Divine Feminine? For me, that would have to be someone who, while describing themselves in good faith, would be met with the most pushback - the furthest one can get from the Divine Feminine. But for simplicity's sake, let's take a cisgender man who has no history of detransition, or queerness in general, who wishes to identify as a lesbian in good faith. This person would most likely get a ton of pushback, and even if accepted, would never actually get any representation from the lesbian community.

In my opinion, it is necessary to decenter the Divine Feminine completely if we want a movement that is truly open to all. It means making an effort to give voice to the lesbians that are most atypical, and includes a radical acceptance of all people who identify as lesbians in good faith. In my essay, i described that as "postmodern lesbianism" (or post-lesbianism for short, although i can understand if people don't like how that sounds lol), and i remember i specifically avoid any specific definitions on what a lesbian is, instead opting for "lesbian is like the sea, like the moon" and stuff like that.

I'm glad i found this community, as just seeing atypical lesbians have a space that is safe for them, uplifting each other and feeling represented, is basically the goal i have with the essay. If anyone would like to give me thoughts on my work so far, feel free to reach out!

Violet (she/it/deer)

I've actually been working on a project about lesbianhood that i feel like would be really close to this subreddit's concept. I'll write a bit more about it later maybe, but a key aspect of my work was also "testing" the "no exclusion" part by figuring out the least likely good faith identity to be accepted as a lesbian, and then accepting it anyway. So, would this subreddit do the same?

Deltarune in 4 tomorrows. We get more shit takes out of whatever Toby cooked up.

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Anyway i love kris so much, HE is my favorite genital pref- i mean interpretation

RIP our trans comrade, our trans sister, that beautiful creature that blessed our hearts. She was transingly transing in the city and going to protests and being friends with people

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/uj an activist in Greece who was working at the self organized VIOME factory since she was 13 died last week and the "memorials" are just about remembering how trans she was and linking to an interview she gave that they didn't actually watch

New School Trans (tiktok)

Modern Transgender (Discord)

Old School Transsexual (Contrapoints)

Retro Trans-oid (tttt)

Hello! I'm moving to Tilburg tomorrow and i feel like a lost deer. I think if I had some directions or people to help me out during my first days, i could settle and adjust to the environment much faster. Stuff like where people generally hang out, any meetings for organizing pride events, stuff like that. Thank you!

Mfw i get mass downvoted because a user called someone parking badly a faggot "as a way of saying" and i called it out, because "it's homophobic to assume all gay people are faggots, this is clearly a straight person parking like a faggot" and I'm clearly being a cop about it

Mfw every time a brown person does anything bad, the alt right is at the comments claiming there will be flotillas defending the person

All set? Got your tickets and everything? Okay actually the company says it's their policy that you'll be deadnamed and misgendered, whoopsie! Yes I know you specifically told us, the hiring agency, that you want somewhere safe to exist, but like whatever. Also the anti discrimination laws don't cover you for this because hey, the company says all AGABs and legal names used, so it doesn't discriminate, if a Paul wanted to be called Justin he would also be affected! But don't worry, we talked with our lawyers and apparently you can get a Transgender ID explaining that you're a tranny, so you can show this to people to more easily explain to them you're a tranny and beg them to use your name. Also it gets your name in a database but hey at least you have a tranny card! Also you need to re-do all your bus tickets bc they use IDs and stuff for city buses lol.

/uj I'm tired of the Netherlands and i haven't even landed there yet, help 💀💀💀💀

Hey guys, you know how class issues are like bad rn? That's because the alt right is dividing the working class by focusing on social issues like transgender rights, racism etc, making us distracted. So here's my amazing solution: let's just focus on class issues and forget about the identity politics 🥰🥰🥰🥰

Anywho, i also think conservatives are all narcissists psychopaths sociopaths mentally ill r*tards who spread antisocial behavior, unlike us common people who are normal. That's why anyone i see as weird should be considered an enemy that is dividing the working class. Like and subscribe for more 🥰🥰🥰🥰

Housing for gay men

Housing only for locals

Housing for gay men

Housing for AFABs (cis woman posting)

Housing only for locals

Housing for anyone (instantly taken by cishet)

Housing for anyone who is rich

Housing for AFABs (NB posting - /uj wtf???)

Housing for gay men

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Housing for anyone LGBT (doesn't respond to your message)

/uj trying to move to Amsterdam is a mess. I just want to leave greece pls pls pls pls pls

I (MtF 26) went to a new therapist today and instead of getting diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder, they told me i have BPD. HRT works wonders!

/uj posting this while a bit high, idk i think about whether I'd get a BPD diagnosis if i presented more feminine. Psychiatry is such a joke

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