u/Visible_Wasabi_1721

I really need someone to talk to. My stbxh and I had it all. Now he decides he doesn't want to be married anymore. We were trying for a baby. All of our friends are having kids. I feel so left behind. I am struggling so much. I just want my life back. My stbxh has stopped responding to my texts. I have to text the crisis hotline number just to get constant interactions. My family and friends are too busy and are tired of hearing me cry about him. It has only been 20 days since he said he wanted a divorce. We sign the final paperwork for the divorce next Saturday. After that, it will be over. 12 years down the drain. I feel like I am dying and he just doesn't care. Everyone is moving forward. Everyone else picked a partner that is willing to build a future with them. I picked wrong and it hurts.

I really need someone to talk to. My stbxh and I had it all. Now he decides he doesn't want to be married anymore. We were trying for a baby. All of our friends are having kids. I feel so left behind. I am struggling so much. I just want my life back. My stbxh has stopped responding to my texts. I have to text the crisis hotline number just to get constant interactions. My family and friends are too busy and are tired of hearing me cry about him. It has only been 20 days since he said he wanted a divorce. We sign the final paperwork for the divorce next Saturday. After that, it will be over. 12 years down the drain. I feel like I am dying and he just doesn't care. Everyone is moving forward. Everyone else picked a partner that is willing to build a future with them. I picked wrong and it hurts.

He told me that he doesn't see a future with me so I agreed to sign the final divorce papers and created a Hinge account. Nothing too serious, I just want to start getting out there. He has obviously been checked out of this relationship longer (He was starting to have an emotional affair with a coworker) than I have so it shouldn't be a problem.

12 years over and done with! It's been so long I don't know how to flirt. I have decided not to start any communications or going on dates until after the divorce is final, but creating this account really made the divorce sink in.

He moved out of the house and is happy, why shouldn't I be happy! I will date and hopefully when the time is right meet the right person for me.

Like the title says. I need the next person to view marriage as a scared bond. A person who is not willing to give up.

Edit: I love my husband and I just want to be with him, but he woke up one day and decided that he had to find himself. So here I am.

I am so proud of my self! These past 2 years have been the hardest ones of my life, but at least I didn't gamble!

No dip! Addiction has been the only problems in our relationship. He proposes divorce and then says we can find our way back to each other. He is even meeting to talk with my mother tomorrow. He said he wants to be alone to figure things out, I just wanted a husband and wouldn't quit. Sure he told me he relapsed for the first time ever (I found out by myself before), but then he wants to leave me. I thought we were making progress with this confession. I set the divorce boundary, but I didn't think that him being honest would make me feel differently.

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Maybe it's my addict brain that wants to work it out with him, but I hate this feeling. He has been through so much in life and we have clawed our way out of a terrible time over the past 2 years. He is the only one in the world that truly loves me and worked through my addiction with me.

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Tomorrow will be 2 years sober for me and I am fighting everyday not to relapse due to the grief. The only thing that is keeping me focused is the thought of being like him one day if I don't stick with my sobriety.

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We signed petition to divorce papers yesterday and then he doesn't submit the forms. I am so confused. I think he is confused and I am just lost.

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I pray I make it to 2 years tomorrow!

We filed paperwork to start the divorce process. We should have done this 2 years ago. It hurts so much. I am going to be 29 in a few months. I gave this man 12 years of my life. I want to be a wife and have kids. I need to leave now so that I have a chance at those things.

15 months of sobriety was all fake! 12 year relationship down the drain. He crossed the line and I am out! On to bigger and better things. I am so glad we didn't get pregnant! I am so surprised at how well I am taking this lol.

Even at his worse my PA never said anything bad about my body. We were still having regular sex. His attitude was the biggest clue that he was using. My PA has been sober for 15 months and he continues to surprise me everyday.

We were at a family gathering and were around my younger female relatives (I have gained a little weight over the years and use to look like them body wise). What can I say I like to eat, I was going to get seconds of the food we were having and one of my younger relatives called me a big back. Now I know I gained weight, my PA knows that I have gained weight, but he has never made me feel bad about it. He knows that I have been working to lose weight, but he is honestly loving my curvy body. He has always said that he is attracted to me and that I don't have to lose weight for him. Before I could say anything back, my PA responded and said, "Don't talk about my wife like that. She has an amazing body." I WAS SCHOCKED!

He has never been so vocal in that way before. What she said really upset him, he even brought it up later that night when we were home in an effort to check in with me.

Like many in this thread, my body image took a hit when I found out about my PA's addiction. His actions the other day gave me a major boost that I didn't know I needed.

Just got off the phone with them. I never got a response to my cancelation email. They claimed that they need to verify if I paided off my equipment before continuing my cancelation process. I attached proof of completed payment in my initial cancelation email. I almost lost it when I heard that. I told the rep that if I get charged after my contract end date I am going to file a case against them. This company does some real shady stuff. Now they want to change me a prorated amount until my contract is over and that they will give me a "refund." Whatever, I just want to be done with them!