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How do you become “the woman” while still keeping a balance between deen and dunya? I mean someone who genuinely wants it all—closeness to Allah, beauty, love, marriage, financial success, a good career, nice things, travel, comfort and even a little luxury—without feeling like wanting these things makes her less religious or too attached to the dunya. As Muslim women, especially hijabis, how do you build a life that is ambitious, feminine, beautiful and fulfilling while keeping Allah at the centre and not compromising your values?

How do you become “the woman” while still keeping a balance between deen and dunya? I mean someone who genuinely wants it all—closeness to Allah, beauty, love, marriage, financial success, a good career, nice things, travel, comfort and even a little luxury—without feeling like wanting these things makes her less religious or too attached to the dunya. As Muslim women, especially hijabis, how do you build a life that is ambitious, feminine, beautiful and fulfilling while keeping Allah at the centre and not compromising your values?

ik this is a ridiculous question but so is the racism in my country. i am between wheatish and fair in my skin complexion and the amount of advices i get to improve my skin color is insaneee. And i know that’s how it is !
my mom was telling me “ men are usually attracted to someone lighter than their skin “ idk how far is it true, but even i believe that by now which has restricted my search to some extent! is it really true ? is it common to have a wife darker than your skin tone ?? how common is it?

so this guy and I have been mutuals on twt for a very long time. He posts travel content and so do i that’s how we connected. he is socially a very private person without any face reveal or real friends there on twt. We interact sometimes, he had been a very nice person to me. He shared his pictures, daily life details with me sometimes. then he expressed his interest in me, he matches most of the boxes i am looking for in a guy. so i said let’s get to know each other and involve parents when we are sure about eachother. In the meantime, he had been inconsistent with his energy, replies and whenever i said i wanna back off. he requested to start fresh. and we did. i will say he improved a lot he is a very patient person but that’s not a person fully in love moves like. his energy seems like “ ok fine i am supposed to have a partner so i have to pursue her”
whenever he tries getting a little comfortable or flirty either i stop him or simply i don’t entertain it. he says that makes him awkward . he complains about i am not attached. it’s been the same for 5 months now

so i just told him this is not gonna work like this. i would like to handover this issue to my parents. he says he is way tooo attached to me that theres absolutely no going back, so i am supposed to involve my parents when i am sure of him and would take a stand for him.

i don’t understand stand for what ? i don’t even know him irl , neither we met nor we had a face time call, i have been learning the only version of him which he is showing to me and also inconsistently.
i told him to talk to my parents they will surely consider you but he says he wants me to be sure!
idk where even i am stuck while i didn’t even give him any false hope. i never confessed my love neither i gave him a word that i will only marry him

Assalamualaikum
intern doctor, Hyderabad, India
i turned 24 last month
by height i am between 5'4 n 5'5
single
Never married

a sunni muslim
i follow hanafi school of thought
i actively practice deen most of the time i pray 5 times a day
but i do miss salah sometimes ill say
i prefer wearing niqaab outdoor mostly

interests
i love going out, taking walks, always up for exploring new places, trying new things, i was previously fitness conscious i used to exercise lately i do not but wanna get back, i absolutely love modest fashion~ dressing up in general, i have done a bit of quran journaling out of interest and looking forward to it

i am looking for :
an ambitious, independent, respectful, supportive gentleman preferably 26-28 y/o, above 5'9 in height and shares similar values
actively practicing in deen and avoids shirk n biddah

from hyderabad, india looking for someone from hyderabad or same state
pls dm, ill share my further details inshaallah

am i single ? yes
are you interested in getting married ? yes
am i searching ? no ( i was )
did i give up ? idk ( at this point i want my guy to miraculously meet me)
am i losing hope ? i feel helpless
my parents are not actively searching and idk how do i tell them i am worried !! they be asking me if i like someone, it’s been no forever now!! meanwhile what do i do ? ( i think if i have to get married i am myself supposed to actively search but idk where)

a lot of people marry for different reasons and few compromise on looks
does that affect?

so i was committed to a guy for 2.5 yrs then we parted ways 1.5 yrs ago because things were falling apart.
when we were together our rules were clear about how soon can we make it halal, we had healthy boundaries, were respectful but gradually he was stressed out due to his career and frustration came on me, he would go days without talking a word. I tried to be patient but i couldn’t and i left him. soon after leaving i thought these relationships are a mess and now i will simply get married and i made an account on matrimonial app

he was consistently convincing me to get back meanwhile he found out that i was on matrimonial app. he started calling me a cheater.

in the separation of 1.5 yrs he has atleast reached me out in every 3 months.
one day i was very emotional and i decided to have a talk with him
i clearly told him things change widely in 1.5 yrs do i want to talk about eachother’s goals n future, about the problems we had , what can we together do about it and once we are good to go
i will involve my parents

he said he will think about it

later he started talking to me very casually, flirting with me , i told him take your time to think about what i said but do not forget about it

since then he started distancing me barely texted me
was giving me the silent treatment. i wouldn’t mind if he has taken time and chosen silence. but this was weird

the silence was not something related to boundaries it seemed like reaction to what i said
i was suffering from flu and was on call he didn’t care to say anything
not even to take care of myself
but in between he did speak to me politely abd normally
idk i was emotionally drained and mental anxiety was killing me of how inconsistently he is with his behaviour

i didn’t want him to flirt or romance with me but you can still pursue someone/ show you are interested while maintaining your decency and staying in your boundaries

i was so done, i asked him many times is everything alright or does he wanna backoff or he likes someone now i made sure to make him realise that i am trying
but on 7th day i was done
neither the guy says what’s his problem, nor he want to talk about anything. awkward silence was the only thing
and then i admitted things have changed beyond repair and i am the only one person who has to push it yo and i honestly cannot fix it
i told him this is stressful, i am anxious all day
and then out of pity he said “ you asked me for the answer i agree to what you said” but i genuinely feel he has moved on or maybe been liking someone else
but when i said i don’t want this anymore he started shouting at me for a short time “ when you wanna go why did you even come back” i broke down was crying and shouting how he has moved on and i am left behind , i was continuously telling about how he made me feel and how badly i am hurt. he didn’t say a word, didn’t talk back, didn’t stop me from crying, literally nothing and in the end he said “ you just came to leave and now leave” and i cut the call

what do you all think

so i was committed to a guy for 2.5 yrs then we parted ways 1.5 yrs ago because things were falling apart.
when we were together our rules were clear about how soon can we make it halal, we had healthy boundaries, were respectful but gradually he was stressed out due to his career and frustration came on me, he would go days without talking a word. I tried to be patient but i couldn’t and i left him. soon after leaving i thought these relationships are a mess and now i will simply get married and i made an account on matrimonial app

he was consistently convincing me to get back meanwhile he found out that i was on matrimonial app. he started calling me a cheater.

in the separation of 1.5 yrs he has atleast reached me out in every 3 months.
one day i was very emotional and i decided to have a talk with him
i clearly told him things change widely in 1.5 yrs do i want to talk about eachother’s goals n future, about the problems we had , what can we together do about it and once we are good to go
i will involve my parents

he said he will think about it

later he started talking to me very casually, flirting with me , i told him take your time to think about what i said but do not forget about it

since then he started distancing me barely texted me
was giving me the silent treatment. i wouldn’t mind if he has taken time and chosen silence. but this was weird

the silence was not something related to boundaries it seemed like reaction to what i said
i was suffering from flu and was on call he didn’t care to say anything
not even to take care of myself
but in between he did speak to me politely and normally.
idk my mental anxiety was killing me of how inconsistently he is with his behaviour

i didn’t want him to flirt or romance with me but you can still pursue someone/ show you are interested while maintaining your decency and staying in your boundaries

i was so done, i asked him many times is everything alright or does he wanna backoff or he likes someone now i made sure to make him realise that i am trying
but on 7th day i was done
neither the guy says what’s his problem, nor he want to talk about anything. awkward silence was the only thing
and then i admitted things have changed beyond repair and i am the only one person who has to push it yo and i honestly cannot fix it
i told him this is stressful, i am anxious all day
and then out of pity he said “ you asked me for the answer i agree to what you said” but i genuinely feel he has moved on or maybe been liking someone else
but when i said i don’t want this anymore he started shouting at me for a short time “ when you wanna go why did you even come back” i broke down was crying and shouting how he has moved on and i am left behind , i was continuously telling about how he made me feel and how badly i am hurt. he didn’t say a word, didn’t talk back, didn’t stop me from crying, literally nothing and in the end he said “ you just came to leave and now leave” and i cut the call

what do you all think

so i was committed to a guy for 2.5 yrs then we parted ways 1.5 yrs ago because things were falling apart.
when we were together our rules were clear about how soon can we make it halal, we had healthy boundaries, were respectful but gradually he was stressed out due to his career and frustration came on me, he would go days without talking a word. I tried to be patient but i couldn’t and i left him. soon after leaving i thought these relationships are a mess and now i will simply get married and i made an account on matrimonial app

he was consistently convincing me to get back meanwhile he found out that i was on matrimonial app. he started calling me a cheater.

in the separation of 1.5 yrs he has atleast reached me out in every 3 months.
one day i was very emotional and i decided to have a talk with him
i clearly told him things change widely in 1.5 yrs do i want to talk about eachother’s goals n future, about the problems we had , what can we together do about it and once we are good to go
i will involve my parents

he said he will think about it

later he started talking to me very casually, flirting with me , i told him take your time to think about what i said but do not forget about it

since then he started distancing me barely texted me
was giving me the silent treatment. i wouldn’t mind if he has taken time and chosen silence. but this was weird

the silence was not something related to boundaries it seemed like reaction to what i said
i was suffering from flu and was on call he didn’t care to say anything
not even to take care of myself
but in between he did speak to me politely abd normally
idk i was emotionally drained and mental anxiety was killing me of how inconsistently he is with his behaviour

i didn’t want him to flirt or romance with me but you can still pursue someone/ show you are interested while maintaining your decency and staying in your boundaries

i was so done, i asked him many times is everything alright or does he wanna backoff or he likes someone now i made sure to make him realise that i am trying
but on 7th day i was done
neither the guy says what’s his problem, nor he want to talk about anything. awkward silence was the only thing
and then i admitted things have changed beyond repair and i am the only one person who has to push it yo and i honestly cannot fix it
i told him this is stressful, i am anxious all day
and then out of pity he said “ you asked me for the answer i agree to what you said” but i genuinely feel he has moved on or maybe been liking someone else
but when i said i don’t want this anymore he started shouting at me for a short time “ when you wanna go why did you even come back” i broke down was crying and shouting how he has moved on and i am left behind , i was continuously telling about how he made me feel and how badly i am hurt. he didn’t say a word, didn’t talk back, didn’t stop me from crying, literally nothing and in the end he said “ you just came to leave and now leave” and i cut the call

what do you all think

hellooo assalamualaikum everyone
i (24f) have realised it’s enough of how i lead my life. I believe it is a crucial age ofcourse where my rizq be it money, partner, mental peace, wisdom and many other things depend on how i mould myself.

Being honest life had been hard on me for past an year and somewhere i believe it is me. And reacting to it has changed me a lot as person, i get annoyed easily, i overthink, i don’t think very optimistically and few other things. I genuinely now wish to change it all. overall now i yearn for making my life stable with stable mind and heart, build confidence and trust in myself. build unbreakable taqwa.

i will be graduating soon from medschool , so for now i am not stressing over earning. And as for getting married, i don’t understand if i am ready or not, and i have given my shot in finding a partner it didn’t go well. sometimes i am worried how i am aging and somedays i just want to stay single.

i am willing to work on myself in every possible way to fix my life. any kind of advice and suggestions are welcome. thanks in advance✨💕

hellooo assalamualaikum everyone
i (24f) have realised it’s enough of how i lead my life. I believe it is a crucial age ofcourse where my rizq be it money, partner, mental peace, wisdom and many other things depend on how i mould myself.

Being honest life had been hard on me for past an year and somewhere i believe it is me. And reacting to it has changed me a lot as person, i get annoyed easily, i overthink, i don’t think very optimistically and few other things. I genuinely now wish to change it all. overall now i yearn for making my life stable with stable mind and heart, build confidence and trust in myself. build unbreakable taqwa.

i will be graduating soon from medschool , so for now i am not stressing over earning. And as for getting married, i don’t understand if i am ready or not, and i have given my shot in finding a partner it didn’t go well. sometimes i am worried how i am aging and somedays i just want to stay single.

i am willing to work on myself in every possible way to fix my life. any kind of advice and suggestions are welcome. thanks in advance✨💕

pls do not judge me
i was in a haram relationship back then
we met 4 to 5 times in our 2 yrs of relationship
it had been touchy touchy so far, but never zinah
we broke up an year ago i left the relationship because i felt i was the one holding on
he constantly reached out to me n told how i am responsible for all the grief
we disagreed many times where he kinda blamed me
and we are talking again after this long time.
i have been clear about how i believe things have changed ( about him and myself) we are different humans who are supposed to be understood newly now
i told him that we will get to know eachother
the gaps n the career plans to relocation and everything
and if that works out let’s involve parents asap and i won’t entertain haram things
he said he will think about it and let me know his take
also i have asked him a few questions which he has avoided answering some or the other way ( may be he was inattentive)
it’s been 2 days
he didn’t say anything regarding it. neither he is opening up about anything. we are just talking not at all in the same way we used to like it seems casual ( which i really don’t want to and waste my time and want to take it halal( or get blamed that i re entered his life and made things harder )
he now wants to meet me in person in 2 days….
what should i do???
i asked him whether it’s something important, he just said “ isn’t we meeting itself is important”
he didn’t mention about talking anything important
neither about us nor it seemed serious

i was in a relationship back
we met 4 to 5 times in our 2 yrs of relationship
we broke up an year ago
and we are talking again after this long time
i was clear about how i believe things have changed ( about him and myself) we are different humans who are supposed to be understood newly now
i told him that we will get to know eachother
the gaps n the career plans to relocation and everything
and if that works out let’s involve parents asap
he said he will think about it and let me know his take
it’s been 2 days
he didn’t say anything regarding it. we are now talking casually ( which i really don’t want to and waste my time and want to take it halal)
he now wants to meet me in person
what should i do

indian marriage market is cooked

my mom is now telling me find yourself a guy through do the search n bring him to us

i have studied all my life in girls n women’s college + i don’t really have a huge network of frnds

im scared what if my age passes this way and i won’t find the one i alwayss cherisheddd

my mother is going for hajj soon and she wants transliterated quran since she cannot read arabic well.

if anybody has that pls lmk how do i download it or simply share the pdf on telegram if you are comfortable! thank you

my mother is going for hajj soon and she wants transliterated quran since she cannot read arabic well.

if anybody has that pls lmk how do i download it or simply share the pdf on telegram if you are comfortable! thank you

apps are a FAIL, bad networking, traditional rishta system is not working either

i wanna how are people finding the ond