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Asking for my sanity.
My ex has been taking me to out oast 4 years and we’re in a coparent Liason court thing. She’s trying to be by the book and is a narcissist. This year o get my son 4th July weekend. Big first for me. I have an inclination to invite her to the local soccer game with fireworks after. Idk why exactly I keep trying to be nice to her. Of course our 7yr old just wants us to get along “Luke we used to”.
I’ve reached out Olive branches and I’m mature to be peaceful but she is petty and still giving me hell.
I always offer to give her more time on holiday visits and she never returns anything, she wants to “win” in her mind. Usually not thinking of our sons benefit

Am I better just not inviting her?
Or do I get magical invisible points to offer her the game and she says no?
I always hope if I’m nice enough she’ll lighten up and stop all this shit.

Thanks

Hello, hope everyone here is doing well.

TLDR: my child’s mother’s mental state seemed to turn to bipolar after pregnancy. She never seeked help for it. Was a different person for 2yrs dating never yelled at me, after yelled at me all the time and constant custody and court battles for years.
Is it possible for her to get any type of mental help?

My ex and I were together for 2years. All amazing and green flags. We were so happy and great together
After we had our kiddo she seemed to “flip” into a different person. Telling me out of the house every other day, constant custody and court battles, etc. she seems to have three personalities. When we do exchanges she will sometimes touch my hair and be lovey nice, other times cold stares short words.
I felt her mental change immediately, I couldn’t help her and I asked her sister to ask her about possible post partum and she basically found out and said I told her sister I thought she was crazy.
I say this with love for her still, I feel like she lost herself and I lost her too. She’s nice to our son as far as I know.
I sat here today seeing old pics of her and an animated character that looks like her and made me cry because that’s who she deserves to be happy and full of life.

Is there any hope or help I can still get her? Of course anything I suggest to her is denied by her.
It’s been 6yrs of this. She’s had partners but can’t keep a relationship going cause of her possible feels like bipolar. I say this with love and she’s been pretty terrible to me over the past couple of years. But I feel like the old her is still in there and is this possible in post partum?

We had sex one night as she stayed over with our son (she’d have to stay if he stayed with me). All was great and we spent the next day together and they stayed the night again.
I put our son in his bed and we got intimate, I was rubbing her with my hand then she said “try it like this” so I did and 1sec later “fine if you don’t wanna do it then forget it!” It’s such a quick switch when it happens. I can take instruction and things like that I’m very open to it and she knows that. So she was mad and went to sleep.

Aside from us she cut off two of her closest girl friends she’d known for years. I spoke in ones class for school related stuff on zoom and the other reached out to talk about her ex bf that was my friend for advice and I told my ex I’d talked to them and the zoom class person even asked my ex if she could reach out to me.
She said they had no right to talk to me and she would t that to their ex’s.
So that’s a big flag for me and concern for her mental health and stability.

Thanks for reading if anyone got this far. It’s bothered me for years wondering what happened to her.

I just hope it’s possible for her to get help or have meds that can help.

Hello, hope everyone here is doing well.

TLDR: my child’s mother’s mental state seemed to turn to bipolar after pregnancy. She never seeked help for it. Was a different person for 2yrs dating never yelled at me, after yelled at me all the time and constant custody and court battles for years.
Is it possible for her to get any type of mental help?

My ex and I were together for 2years. All amazing and green flags. We were so happy and great together
After we had our kiddo she seemed to “flip” into a different person. Telling me out of the house every other day, constant custody and court battles, etc. she seems to have three personalities. When we do exchanges she will sometimes touch my hair and be lovey nice, other times cold stares short words.
I felt her mental change immediately, I couldn’t help her and I asked her sister to ask her about possible post partum and she basically found out and said I told her sister I thought she was crazy.
I say this with love for her still, I feel like she lost herself and I lost her too. She’s nice to our son as far as I know.
I sat here today seeing old pics of her and an animated character that looks like her and made me cry because that’s who she deserves to be happy and full of life.

Is there any hope or help I can still get her? Of course anything I suggest to her is denied by her.
It’s been 6yrs of this. She’s had partners but can’t keep a relationship going cause of her possible feels like bipolar. I say this with love and she’s been pretty terrible to me over the past couple of years. But I feel like the old her is still in there and is this possible in post partum?

We had sex one night as she stayed over with our son (she’d have to stay if he stayed with me). All was great and we spent the next day together and they stayed the night again.
I put our son in his bed and we got intimate, I was rubbing her with my hand then she said “try it like this” so I did and 1sec later “fine if you don’t wanna do it then forget it!” It’s such a quick switch when it happens. I can take instruction and things like that I’m very open to it and she knows that. So she was mad and went to sleep.

Aside from us she cut off two of her closest girl friends she’d known for years. I spoke in ones class for school related stuff on zoom and the other reached out to talk about her ex bf that was my friend for advice and I told my ex I’d talked to them and the zoom class person even asked my ex if she could reach out to me.
She said they had no right to talk to me and she would t that to their ex’s.
So that’s a big flag for me and concern for her mental health and stability.

Thanks for reading if anyone got this far. It’s bothered me for years wondering what happened to her.

I just hope it’s possible for her to get help or have meds that can help.

Male 44 type 2 managed.
Peak was 8a1c then down to a 5.5, and managed and feel well since then and have lost weight recently and feel healthy and no dizzy feels or etc.
Get yeast infections after sex sometimes
Sex, alcohol, yeast infection
Alcohol alone no yeast infection
Recently lost a lot of weight to intermittent fasting (14 lbs from 244 -230lbs. (No carbs rarely any sugar)
Used topical anti fungal but been stubborn.
Best remedies?

Hello,
Managing type 2 diabetes here. Whenever I sleep with someone new I tend to get a yeast infection. Or sleep with someone every now then I see for a while while I had lots of alcohol over the weekend.
When I drink for a weekend spell and not sexually active I don’t get yeast infections. Walk a lot and sweat a lot and go to spas but never a yeast infection. Recently took on a new partner and have tried to ignore it. It’s been on and off for about two weeks, the partner feels absolutely fine as this has been the case with other partners in the past and they look at me like I’m crazy. “Males don’t get yeast infections.”

It feels fairly stubborn this time.

I’ve taken tiocinozale, minoconazale, one day treatments (but kept wet swim trunks on and drank liquor at night) and 1%clotramozale.

This last time I was stubborn and used minocanazole and Those other types but I’ve been swimming and showering immediately after and changing clothes, drinks at night and sec with a new partner.

I think I’m extra sensitive to maybe people with a different hygiene?

I usually go to the spa when I feel one coming in and soak in hot tub and cold tub and dry sauna.
And I’ll take a bath in lavender mint and those types of things. They usually only last 2-3 days in past with topical creams.

I’ve lost 15 lbs recently and had no carbs for 2-3 weeks on a fasting diet. Started havung mixed drinks again.

So I feel healthy, just a stubborn yeast infection.

What works best for yall here?
No discharge just the itritated inner body of the penis.

Drs smirk at the men with yeast infection dilemma. But I’ve had it for years and mainly when I get a new partner with new body ph balance I get one mild to stubborn. Never any discharge. Just irritated “inner” body penis. Feels like it “grows” when I sit down.

Curious to hear the plight of other men and what helps them.

Thanks in advance.

Just realized today I met my ex in end of 2016. Dated and it was great, then pregnancy and all turned to shit dealing with her off and on for years and dating others and all that. Child support since 2020, I’ve paid perfect and all of a sudden huge trouble with it. And court for last 4yrs for custody and false accusations against me I’ve defended, lit my car on fire and burned to the ground 3yrs ago. Been in custodial parent court over a year now. I’m finally making huge progress lately but fucking hell I am absolutely gassed. I see my old pics and I was genuinely happy and some hope of a happy spouse. Now I can’t find anyone to date and it all just feels way different but better but way sadder and isolated. I don’t want to do many of the things I used to do. I feel so overwhelmed while having taken care of so much shit and handling it in stride. I’m proud of myself and I fight but fucking he’ll I’m exhausted from all of this.

I just see my old pics and remember how happy and peaceful I was. I love my kiddo and I still forgive her ultimately for not being herself after the pregnancy. People go on vacation and do normal things, I am slowly losing grip of those things that interest me.

In pickup this Friday my ex was dressed up and had her tits out an all. “You going to art walk tonight?”
“Why are you asking?!” * eyes darting and acting like I’m asking who she’s dating or something liek that. “Because we’re going to art walk tonight” just trying to be pleasant as it’s a mutual thing we like to do and I don’t care if she’s there or not, it’s a huge venue with lots of space.
Im there with my kiddo and see her there in an area with food. She pretends not to see us and she’s alone and frowning trying to look away. She then passes trying to place a smile on her face but she’s looking at nothing or anything.
Just saying she’s miserable and alone but so stuck in her I hate you spin she can’t even be cordial or an adult coparent. Makes me sad for her but happy she leaves me alone but like fuck, she can’t just be civil and is still so petty after all these years.

This is just a convo on having to deal with an unwilling coparent no matter how much time.

Rant here. Anyone else deal with child support messes?

Child support feels like a trap they want to punish you in.
New job wasn’t taking my money out so I owed $1500. Took a month to get anywhere with my caseworker and the call us we’ll call you within 3 days and don’t miss the call bs.

I’ve paid perfectly for 6yrs and paid my arrears so I am responsible with it and things out of my control got me punished.

And although I’ve paid on time every time they said “you need to have consistent payments of 90days.”

Suspended my license and I went into the cs office to pay $960 to reinstate my license.

So there goes my summer possible vacay money with my kiddo, I have busted my ass to get here finally.

I was scared I’d get pulled over with my kid in the car and my license was suspended then they’d arrest me and take my kid to child services. And fuck up all my court work. I’m almost to 50/50. Been in custody court for over a year.

So thankfully I was able to pay it with my check but fuck if this system isn’t rigged to piss everyone off.

Anyone else here feel like all you do is go to the store every other day?
Food is packaged smaller and I shop ‘responsibly’ but in at the store every other day!

It’s my weekend off and all I have to do today is go buy food for myself and like toiletries and things .yes these are day to day things that are fact but I feel like it’s all I do lately.

And when me and my son go shopping there’s not really any cool toys on the shelves. Just scattered and bare. Even went to the mall to walk around after breakfast and one 1 out of every 9th person with an actual (small) shopping bag. It felt depressing.

And yes we go to the park and go for walks a lot and stay at home mostly as I cook at home mainly now an we mainly Lego and Nintendo it up. It’s pretty great. Just the consumerism forced in this market makes my mind go into overdrive to solve all of this. Of course it’s the current cabinet and the stupid war that no one wants.

Also! Nothings in stores, everything is on Amazon! Bluhhhhh.

End rant.