u/West_Wolverine6014

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When you estranged your parents or family as a whole, how did you feel?

Like the family culture is "embedded-in" and probably you had some social stigma with it

Surely you'd had one of these before/during/after estrangement

"Family is everything" or whatever

"Blood is thicker than water"

"They're still your parents/family"

"No one is perfect"

"Think of them, how would you feel when your children did that to you"

"I carried you in my womb for 9 months and you waste us like this?"

"Ur ungrateful"

"B-but you have this, have that, and those"

"I guess I'm the bad parent then"

"You sensitive. Man up, twincholas"

"I never said/did that"

"Just pray it all away, Jesus and god / muhammad and allah are up here to help you"

"There's something evil in you!"

"It's those fifteen Samsung Galaxy Tab S10 Ultra 5G 12/512GB's we gave to you that influenced you to do this in the first place"

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Or anything else

Whatever

Especially those who are queer but there's those that have homophobic parents

Or you're atheist (or a different religion) and they're a Catholic/Muslim household

And maybe it's a huge falling off like "mom I wanna do this NO YOU ARE NOR DOING THIS, YOU DO THAT"

How did you combat with it?

Like this is a very gut wrenching bittersweet thing to do so ofc doing that is practically mostly unheard of here and there's people balling around with you

Like there's also times they may be petty and try to find you (stalking, harassment, potential trespassing??), and excuse whatever they have in their mind for doing that

And how was your experience

Short term and long term

It was a big thing, and now you have freedom

Like finally eating jelly beans or going out by yourself

But also the responsibility and the burnout

(clarification: I am not estranged yet but i wanna ask for tips in advance)

What did you get?

I'm thinking some time I wanna play da flute and the saxophone but also want lip piercings

Something that does not goofball around with the mouthpiece but also does not be uncomfortable when playing (you have to position and adjust your mouth to the mouthpiece so holding it like that for long periods of time will be uncomfortable)

I also want one next time but I also wanna figure and consider which one is ethical for future me (⁚

This is coming from a soon-to-be Grade 9er who is starting college in a few years. I wanna cut off my (go no-contact) family when I start college to regain my true indipendence. I hate them a lot and I wanna know what would happen if I do this

It depends on how you're feeling of doing this but it's usually family drama. This is my case (for me it's the disrespect, unresolved conflicts, constant arguments, misunderstandings, falling-outs, and no safe communication in the household. It may also be because of anti-LGBTQ+ bias, and this may be partly true for my case especially that I am atheist in a Catholic household)

To those who did this and have graduated or is still in college and have gone no-contact, how did you go by the pressure, struggles, or the guilt (or anything else) throughout your college years and when you graduated? I don't want to experience these types of emotions in a bang so I want to know how I may feel when I go no-contact with my immediate family. I'm aware of the homesickness and things like that, but still I'm sure I'll have emotions to have not experienced yet.

And how you adapted or beared with emotions or whatver, or how you felt about this big thing. Because cutting off your family is a huge thing (for them and for you). I don't want to resolve bullshit that they'll just label me into being "disrespectful" or "having attitude and I need to chill" or whatever so that's a thing for later uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhshshsjshssfsgu9sogsu he

Ok spill the beans in the comment section guys I know there's a lot I didn't mention to this Lolz

feedback and advice give or else no chicken nuggets forever