Going on a date for the first time as a 25 year old (M)
For some reason, body insecurity I guess, since high school I tried to stay away from girls. I wasn’t ugly, in fact I had girls coming up to me but I always got nervous. Fast forward to now, I’m still a virgin and haven’t even kissed a girl yet. I used to be confident growing up and even arrogant at times but as I got older I didn’t feel valuable because of my package size. I had gained weight after HS and just now I started hitting the gym and got some confidence back and dropped 40lbs.
I got on dating apps and got some matches here and there but there’s this one girl that stood out. I never planned to go on a date, I just used it to gauge the type of women I attracted at the stage I was in. Let’s call her Sally. We’ve been talking for two weeks on hinge everyday. That’s how I know this is a little different than the rest of the matches. It’s got to the point where she’s using words like “us” and “we” to describe things. I can tell she likes the idea she has of me but I don’t think I’m that. I can maybe see what she sees in me but I don’t think she’ll like who I really am. I set a date for some reason this weekend and I wasn’t thinking it through, I wouldn’t have set it up because I’m super nervous still. Bottom line is I told myself I’m following through. For some reason though I feel like this is my only chance because she’s the only girl who actually has a real interest in getting to know me. We’ve been sending big paragraphs back in fourth, nothing compared to other matches you know, I mean it’s night and day.
Im just looking for guidance and tips guys please. I want her to have a good time regardless if I get a second date out of it. But I’m also freaking out thinking what if it does go good. I don’t know how to make a move? I don’t know how to kiss her? She doesn’t seem the type to hook up on the first date, not that there’s anything wrong with that, but I mean I’m not even sure how to do that. I know she likes me for whatever reason and I just don’t want to let her down even though I don’t even know her. Anyone have any thoughts?