u/Wonderful_cherry123

Hi everyone. About year ago (late 2024), during a lonely phase in school, I joined an online group chat through an author's account. I ended up talking to a few guys from different states. I only found out later on that they were older than me and came from poor, shady backgrounds. Because I wanted to help them improve their lives, I took on a sisterly/mentor role—giving them advice on studies, finances, and pushing them to leave bad habits behind. I also got stuck in the middle of their messy relationship dramas.

​Because I trusted them like family at the time, I overshared. I sent personal daily vlogs, photos, general hints about my school/city, and openly discussed normal health topics like my periods.

​Eventually, I realized they were untrustworth, caught up in bad environments, and just using me for their own egos. I cut all ties and stopped talking to them 10 months ago.

​Recently, due to severe anxiety, I panicked that they might still have screenshots of those old chats/vlogs and could somehow use them to trace me or harm my family.

To protect myself, I recently requested the permanent deletion of my account, and it is now officially disabled on the servers. There has been zero contact or conflict for nearly a year.

​Am I in any actual danger of being tracked down or targeted from things shared 10 months ago, or is this just my anxiety taking over? Any rational perspective would help. Thanks.

Hi everyone. About 10 months ago (late 2024), during a lonely phase in school, I joined an online group chat through an author's account. I ended up talking to a few guys from different states. I only found out later on that they were older than me and came from poor, shady backgrounds. Because I wanted to help them improve their lives, I took on a sisterly/mentor role—giving them advice on studies, finances, and pushing them to leave bad habits behind. I also got stuck in the middle of their messy relationship dramas.

​Because I trusted them like family at the time, I overshared. I sent personal daily vlogs, photos, general hints about my school/city, and openly discussed normal health topics like my periods.

​Eventually, I realized they were untrustworthy, caught up in bad environments, and just using me for their own egos. I cut all ties and stopped talking to them 10 months ago.

​Recently, due to severe anxiety, I panicked that they might still have screenshots of those old chats/vlogs and could somehow use them to trace me or harm my family.

To protect myself, I recently requested the permanent deletion of my account, and it is now officially disabled on the servers. There has been zero contact or conflict for nearly a year.

​Am I in any actual danger of being tracked down or targeted from things shared 10 months ago, or is this just my anxiety taking over? Any rational perspective would help. Thanks.

Hi everyone. About 10 months ago (late 2024), during a lonely phase in school, I joined an online group chat through an author's account. I ended up talking to a few guys from different states. I only found out later on that they were older than me and came from poor, shady backgrounds. Because I wanted to help them improve their lives, I took on a sisterly/mentor role—giving them advice on studies, finances, and pushing them to leave bad habits behind. I also got stuck in the middle of their messy relationship dramas.

​Because I trusted them like family at the time, I overshared. I sent personal daily vlogs, photos, general hints about my school/city, and openly discussed normal health topics like my periods.

​Eventually, I realized they were untrustworthy, caught up in bad environments, and just using me for their own egos. I cut all ties and stopped talking to them 10 months ago.

​Recently, due to severe anxiety, I panicked that they might still have screenshots of those old chats/vlogs and could somehow use them to trace me or harm my family.

To protect myself, I recently requested the permanent deletion of my account, and it is now officially disabled on the servers. There has been zero contact or conflict for nearly a year.

​Am I in any actual danger of being tracked down or targeted from things shared 10 months ago, or is this just my anxiety taking over? Any rational perspective would help. Thanks.

Hi everyone. About 10 months ago (late 2024), during a lonely phase in school, I joined an online group chat through an author's account. I ended up talking to a few guys from different states. I only found out later on that they were older than me and came from poor, shady backgrounds. Because I wanted to help them improve their lives, I took on a sisterly/mentor role—giving them advice on studies, finances, and pushing them to leave bad habits behind. I also got stuck in the middle of their messy relationship dramas.

​Because I trusted them like family at the time, I overshared. I sent personal daily vlogs, photos, general hints about my school/city, and openly discussed normal health topics like my periods.

​Eventually, I realized they were untrustworthy, caught up in bad environments, and just using me for their own egos. I cut all ties and stopped talking to them 10 months ago.

​Recently, due to severe anxiety, I panicked that they might still have screenshots of those old chats/vlogs and could somehow use them to trace me or harm my family.

To protect myself, I recently requested the permanent deletion of my account, and it is now officially disabled on the servers. There has been zero contact or conflict for nearly a year.

​Am I in any actual danger of being tracked down or targeted from things shared 10 months ago, or is this just my anxiety taking over? Any rational perspective would help. Thanks.

Hi everyone. About 10 months ago (late 2024), during a lonely phase in school, I joined an online group chat through an author's account. I ended up talking to a few guys from different states. I only found out later on that they were older than me and came from poor, shady backgrounds. Because I wanted to help them improve their lives, I took on a sisterly/mentor role—giving them advice on studies, finances, and pushing them to leave bad habits behind. I also got stuck in the middle of their messy relationship dramas.

​Because I trusted them like family at the time, I overshared. I sent personal daily vlogs, photos, general hints about my school/city, and openly discussed normal health topics like my periods.

​Eventually, I realized they were untrustworthy, caught up in bad environments, and just using me for their own egos. I cut all ties and stopped talking to them 10 months ago.

​Recently, due to severe anxiety, I panicked that they might still have screenshots of those old chats/vlogs and could somehow use them to trace me or harm my family. To protect myself, I recently requested the permanent deletion of my account, and it is now officially disabled on the servers. There has been zero contact or conflict for nearly a year.

​Am I in any actual danger of being tracked down or targeted from things shared 10 months ago, or is this just my anxiety taking over? Any rational perspective would help. Thanks.

Pls dont ignore i m tired of posting now for a advice , help or opinion... im really tired of this mistake..

About a year ago, I was 16 and part of online groups where I got close to several boys I thought were like brothers. I overshared a lot—my city, school, daily routine, emotional struggles through messages and voice notes. I trusted them completely.

There was one guy ..I talked to the most. Over time, I realized he was immature, obsessed with someone else, and honestly not a real friend. The whole dynamic felt off. After about 6 months of this, I had a realization: these friendships weren't healthy. I wasn't getting anything good out of them, and I was giving away too much. Also got to know he was 19 and other one was 22 and from very poor shady bg..

So I took action. I deleted all the chats, blocked everyone, removed, and completely stepped back. Nothing bad happened. Nobody tried to contact me again. Life moved on.

For 9-10 months, I genuinely forgot about the whole thing. It wasn't on my mind at all.

But 2 weeks ago, anxiety just hit out of nowhere. And now my brain is stuck in a loop that I can't seem to break.

I keep catastrophizing about things that don't make logical sense:

"What if something happens in the future?"

"What if they somehow harm me even though they haven't contacted me in a year?"

"What if one mistake ruins my peace forever?"

" what if thet come and harm my family?"

I m hell scared and exhausted mentally. And from conservative orthodox bg..

I obsessively replay old conversations in my head. I seek reassurance from people around me, and it helps for maybe 5 minutes before my brain starts doubting again. I check for "signs" that something bad is about to happen. It's exhausting

About a year ago, I was part of online groups where I got close to several people I thought were like friends more like brothers... I overshared a lot—personal details about my life, daily routines, emotional struggles through messages and voice notes. I trusted them completely, without really understanding online boundaries.

There was one person. I talked to the most. Over time, I realized he was immature, self-absorbed, and honestly not a real friend. The whole dynamic felt off and unhealthy. After about 6 months of this, I had a realization: these friendships weren't good for me. I wasn't getting anything positive out of them, and I was giving away too much. And one another too. Later got to know that one was 19 and other 22 and from very poor shady bg..

So I took action. I deleted all the conversations, blocked everyone,, and completely stepped back. Nothing bad happened. Nobody tried to contact me again. Life moved on.

For 9-10 months, I genuinely forgot about the whole thing. It wasn't on my mind at all.

But 2 weeks ago, anxiety just hit out of nowhere. And now my brain is stuck in a loop that I can't seem to break.

I keep catastrophizing about things that don't make logical sense:

"What if something happens in the future?"

"What if they somehow harm me even though they haven't contacted me in a year?"

"What if one mistake ruins my peace forever?"

"If they come and harm my family".. and all.

I obsessively replay old conversations in my head. I seek reassurance from people around me, and it helps for maybe 5 minutes before my brain starts doubting again. I look for "signs" that something bad is about to happen. It's exhausting.

About a year ago, I was part of online groups where I got close to several people I thought were like friends. I overshared a lot—personal details about my life, daily routines, emotional struggles through messages and voice notes. I trusted them completely, without really understanding online boundaries.

There was one person. I talked to the most. Over time, I realized he was immature, self-absorbed, and honestly not a real friend. The whole dynamic felt off and unhealthy. After about 6 months of this, I had a realization: these friendships weren't good for me. I wasn't getting anything positive out of them, and I was giving away too much. And also one other one.. and both were like 19 and 22 from very poor shady bg..

So I took action. I deleted all the conversations, blocked everyone, , and completely stepped back. Nothing bad happened. Nobody tried to contact me again. Life moved on.

For 9-10 months, I genuinely forgot about the whole thing. It wasn't on my mind at all.

But 2 weeks ago, anxiety just hit out of nowhere. And now my brain is stuck in a loop that I can't seem to break.

I keep catastrophizing about things that don't make logical sense:

"What if something happens in the future?"

"What if they somehow harm me even though they haven't contacted me in a year?"

"What if one mistake ruins my peace forever?"

I obsessively replay old conversations in my head. I seek reassurance from people around me, and it helps for maybe 5 minutes before my brain starts doubting again. I look for "signs" that something bad is about to happen. It's exhausting.

About a year and half ago, I was 16 ( now 18). and was part of online groups where I got close to several boys I thought were like brothers. I overshared a lot—my city, school, daily routine, emotional struggles through messages and voice notes. I trusted them completely.

There was one guy .I talked to the most. Over time, I realized he was immature, obsessed with someone else, and honestly not a real friend. The whole dynamic felt off. After about 6 months of this, I had a realization: these friendships weren't healthy. I wasn't getting anything good out of them, and I was giving away too much and from conservative and orthodox background.

So I took action. I deleted all the chats, blocked everyone, removed my old accounts, and completely stepped back. Nothing bad happened. Nobody tried to contact me again. Life moved on.

For 9-10 months, I genuinely forgot about the whole thing. It wasn't on my mind at all.

But 2 weeks ago, anxiety just hit out of nowhere. And now my brain is stuck in a loop that I can't seem to break.

I keep catastrophizing about things that don't make logical sense:

"What if something happens in the future?"

"What if they somehow harm me even though they haven't contacted me in a year?" And fear of somebody come and find me..

"What if one mistake ruins my peace forever?"

I obsessively replay old conversations in my head. I seek reassurance from people around me, and it helps for maybe 5 minutes before my brain starts doubting again. I check for "signs" that something bad is about to happen. It's exhausting.

Here's the thing I've realized: the actual mistake isn't the problem anymore. I already fixed it. I was immature, I learned, I took action, I moved on. That part is done.

The real problem is the anxiety loop itself. My brain knows logically that the situation isn't dangerous. But emotionally, it keeps insisting something is wrong. Reassurance doesn't help—it just feeds the cycle.

I'm 17. About 9-10 months ago, I overshared online with people I shouldn't have (location, school, personal stuff). I deleted everything and cut contact. For 9 months, I forgot about it completely.

Two weeks ago, anxiety hit hard. Now I keep catastrophizing: "What if they find me and harm my family?" Even though logically I know there's no real threat.

The problem: The more people reassure me, the worse it gets. I keep seeking "evidence" I'm in danger (checking Google, etc.). It's a loop.

My situation: Just got top grades, healthy, safe. But can't enjoy anything because of guilt and fear about this past mistake.

Question: Is this anxiety disorder/OCD? How do I stop the reassurance-seeking spiral? How do others break rumination cycles?