r/TeenHerIndia

Not actual therapy, just those little things that help you reset after a bad day. I'd love to hear everyone's answers

So guys, here's the situation.

My friend has been in a situationship with this guy for the past four months. He recently flew to Delhi just to spend three days with her.

Tomorrow he's going back home, and after that he'll be moving away for college.

Today, right before leaving, he confessed his feelings and proposed to her.

She hasn't given him an answer yet, and here's why.

There's a certain gap between them that's making her uncomfortable. He literally took a flight from another state just to spend three days with her (he's a teenager too). They went on a few nice dates, and at one point he told her, "Next time I come to Delhi, I'll increase my budget."

I think( ACTUALLY WE) he said that because he felt bad that he couldn't spend more, and honestly, that made my friend feel a little guilty.

The thing is, she really likes him. I can confidently say she's very much into him. But she's also a little skeptical about getting into a relationship.

She can't travel to another state to meet him.

He's about to start college, so their lives are going to change a lot.

It would be a ldr.

He's genuinely a sweet guy, but he's a bit insecure, and she doesn't want to unintentionally make that worse.

Everything is happening so fast.

She doesn't want to reject him, and she definitely doesn't want to hurt his feelings. She just needs a little more time before committing to a relationship.

The only thing she's worried about is whether asking for time will make him feel insecure or think she's not interested, because that's not the case at all.

How can she explain this to him in a way that reassures him without giving him the wrong idea?

im about to let go of my teenage in about 3 months and i am so unhappy about how it went- i havent had a boyfriend yet, in fact, never even touched a guy, no sweet romantic experiences from school and the way college is going i might not have one here either. i have literally zero romantic experiences to speak of. idk why is that

My unhappiness is not entirely out of fomo but also out of the fear that since i didnt date enough when i was growing up, i would not take prudent decisions in my adult dating life (if that ever exists, lol). i mean, you got to have some experience to know if a guy is lovebombing you, gaslighting you or manipulating you?

is my concern stupid? idk. but i feel its a little unfair that i never got to experience young love like other people did :'(

Hey girls of Teen India, genuine question.

Would you ever date a guy who's straight but likes dressing up as a girl sometimes? Like full feminine outfits, makeup, wigs, etc., just because he enjoys it. Not as a joke or for content, just because it's something he likes.

Would that be an instant no for you, or would it not matter as long as he's a good person?

As for me, I have a pretty gender-neutral body type, so when I dress up I can pass as a girl pretty easily. I enjoy dressing in feminine clothes from time to time, and it's something that makes me happy. But I'm still straight and only interested in girls.

I'm just curious how Indian girls see this. Is it something you'd be comfortable with in a relationship, or is it a dealbreaker?

Please be respectful. I'm genuinely interested in hearing different opinions.

I feel like I've moved on from him. After everything I did for him, he still chose to ghost me not once, but twice. I don't want him back anymore, and honestly, I hate what he put me through.

But even after 15 days, I still feel bad for myself. Sometimes I randomly cry, and I don't even know why. I miss him, or maybe I just miss what we had. It was a long-distance relationship, and I miss having someone to tell about my day, sharing little moments, and having that "couple goals" feeling.

The confusing part is that I don't feel like talking to anyone, yet at the same time I wish I had someone. I don't know if I miss him or just the comfort and routine we had.

Has anyone else gone through this? How did you overcome it? Does this feeling eventually go away?

Hii! I recently started going to the gym and need some outfit recommendations since I have no idea where to shop 😭

Looking for:

- Baggy tracks/joggers that are comfortable.

- Loose workout tops that aren't body-hugging or clingy.

- Leggings (or any alternative) that I can wear under shorts.

- Breathable fabrics only if possible. I don't really like polyester because it gets too sweaty.

- Also looking for a nice body mist/body spray for the gym -something light, fresh, and summery that isn't too strong.

I'm a student, so I'd really appreciate budget-friendly recommendations. Thank youu 🤍

So, for starters i met a guy about two years ago through online friends. We hit it off and get together cause we were literally just dumb teenagers, i had no idea what real relationships are or how long distance works and it was one hell of a relationship. 16 year old me faced the worst of my fears in a relationship, 17 year old me hated herself because she believed she was too dramatic and finally learnt her self worth and decided to leave. A few months before my 18th i broke up with him.

He reached out and i kept responding cause i genuinely love him and i spent my most important teenage years with him. That's not the issue. He convinced the 18 year old me that he has changed and is a better person and he wants a chance. Out of love i gave him the chance. And he really has changed. He has become a whole different person i don't have to beg him for basic decency and he honestly learnt to process his emotions, he says i made him a better person and he changed cause he hated to see me cry.

The problem is, even though i love him, i can't accept this relationship anymore. Idk if its a trauma response or what but every time he does something sweet i just think about the past ehat he did to hurt me and why he couldn't be the person i wanted him to be at that time. It's like, me last year would be fawning over this side of him but me right now? I just feel very numb. I don't get hurt, i don't feel happy, I'm really emotionally checked out. But at the same time it's really hard for me to leave again and to explain everything to him because I don't want him to stop growing and improving as a person and i don't want him to make more bad decisions.

All this is really fucking up my mind because i want him. I really do. But i don't want to be with him anymore.

Some idk advice or insight would be great honestly

I’ve recently been talking to a girl for about a month, and we are in a sort of long-distance relationship. We have never met in person, but we share pictures online. I really like her, and she often tells me that she loves me.

However, we have only talked on the phone 2 or 3 times, and even then, it was very brief. Because of this, I'm having a hard time figuring out if she is genuinely in love with me or if she just views this as a casual relationship. What are some signs I should look out for, or what advice do you have to help me figure out her true feelings?

I compare myself a LOT with other girls especially those whom others tend to be attracted to a lot.

I have a friend whom I will call A, we are the only out-of-state students along with one other friend whom I will call B. Naturally, we got closer. I am aware of the fact that i am not attractive either in looks or personality. On the other hand, A has this attractiveness about her. She's not the prettiest but of course definitely pretty. I'm not bashing her looks or anything. I'm just stating what I think. Her outgoing and bubbly personality and her ability to stand up for herself, speak confidently and at the same time being respectful is what I really really am jealous of. She is not afraid of calling out disrespect and bullshit which again I am jealous of. I will admit that through her i have gathered the courage to call out crap. I do stand up for myself but sometimes I ignore it.

When others give attention to her and when I realize that others talked more or get energetic more when they talk to her, I feel small and negative. Thoughts like "am i boring?" "why can't I even do small talk?" comes into my mind and it stresses and impacts me a whole lot. I am really really jealous of her intuition to pick up on things or hidden agenda though I don't understand why myself. When we take photos i only compare myself with A, am i standing or sitting properly? Did my assymetrical face look even more distorted? Do I look old? Do I look weird? And all these questions comes because our mates always says she looks younger than me even though she is 4 years older than me. She's also very smart and literate, even though she did not study a lot for the exam, she gets higher marks than me. And I know she doesn't study because we're roommates. She's quick witted and the teachers praise her a lot for her composition of the answers because it had the meaning and the values while I'm praised for being structural with my answers. I am never praised for my looks so when everytime they see her she gets pretty and stuff, there's a knot in my stomach. She has a pear body shape and when others say they like her body shape constantly, I get jealous. She's what I would call "quirky" different from the rest of the girls in my college. She's confident in herself.

With B though, it's like I don't consider her as a "threat". While writing this i realized I'm one-sidedly competing with A, that too, in an unhealthy and hater way. To compare with her, i keep on looking for her negatives. At some point I even started hating her for the way she speaks, acts around people and small, small things. "She has that flaw so I'm better than her in this regard".

Also, I'm noticing the fact that I am a close friend of those kind of persons who is attractive. Even in my school days, I distanced myself from two other friends that were attractive, not exactly like A but still. I knew that if I continue to be friends with them I would compare myself with them and I absolutely hate that i am like this. I want to have friends of a long time but this toxic trait is taking me nowhere and only destroys the relationships I have.

Some days ago, we were introduced to another out of state student who came here and the parent of that student talked to me in particular. But when I learnt that he called A because I didn't pick up and that they had a conversation, that also an extremely short one, I got scared that they would like her better instead of me. I was so paranoid that I texted them to ask me if there's any help with things they want. It was in the spur of the moment but I hate and despise that sinking feeling I get when i get anxious.

I hate myself for this because why can't I just be happy. The only thing I think when someone new meets me is will they think I'm ugly? I have an asymmetrical face and that's why I hate taking pictures and that's another thing I'm jealous of A again. Because she is really photogenic.

I don't want to fake my personality, being fake and acting all bubbly and extroverted when in fact I'm not. I reckon my body language will show that too. I will come to terms that not all people are same and that her being quickwitted is because of the experience she has. I just need to learn more. But I'm still jealous and that anxious feeling I got when she talked with the parent is still not sitting right with me. I don't want to be this type of person where all I can do is hate.

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My mom just caught me reading yaoi(that too uncencored) on her phone. She is super pissed and idk what to do😭😭.I am shit scared tbh, plus she aint talking to me. How do I save myself???

I hate KV, the students are so gawar the girls they are always cussing and fighting and talking how that guy was looking at them the boys thry fight like animals why KVians are like that I am a new admission and I can't stand them

My sis is 18 and hasn't had her period for about 2 months. She's really scared, and I'm worried about her too.

I searched online, and I saw that it could be related to PCOS, thyroid problems, stress, or other health issues, but Google isn't always reliable.

Has anyone experienced something similar? What was the cause, and what did you do? Is this something that can happen, or should she see a doctor as soon as possible?