u/Working-Bottle6598

Just wanted to ask if theres other communities here in doha that I can join? Ive had cosplay,music,gaming and skateboarding before (due to depression I stopped).

Now recently im more focused about mental health and support groups as ive also been recently discarded.. Feel extra lonely. Maybe theres some people out there?

Can someone also help a bit of financial assistance? Im really losing my mind with no support..

**One month after my ex discarded me — I feel completely lost**

I’m posting because I genuinely feel lost and need an outside perspective. My ex and I were together for about 6 months.

We met while working at the same salon, and in the beginning we were genuinely happy, close, affectionate, and loving. I really believed we had something real.

About a month ago, everything fell apart and I feel like I was discarded.

He eventually told me that we were **only friends** and that he didn’t want a relationship. He said he wouldn’t marry me and might marry someone else. But emotionally I couldn’t accept that. I continued giving him my time, attention, emotional support, financial help, and we even had sex a few times.

For me, none of that was casual because I still loved him and hoped we might get back together.
What makes this even harder is that **his affectionate behavior can be completely opposite to his words**. There are times when he hugs me, kisses me, is very affectionate, and calls me by our old pet name, **“bebito.”**

Those moments feel completely different from him saying he hates me or doesn’t want me.
That’s why I feel so confused. If he were consistently cold and distant, maybe I could accept that the relationship was truly over.

But he can be loving and affectionate one moment and then tell me he hates me or wants me to leave him alone another time.

I don’t know whether those affectionate moments mean he still has feelings, whether he is emotionally conflicted, or whether he can be affectionate with someone while genuinely only wanting friendship.
I know I’m also at fault for crossing his boundaries.

I kept contacting him even after he told me to stop, and I understand why that would push someone away. I also went around his workplace because I was desperate to be near him. I’m not trying to make myself completely innocent.

But I also feel like he has made me feel as though **everything wrong in my life proves that I’m a bad person.**
He has told me that he hates me and has said things about how bad or “shit” my life is because I’m not financially stable, I’m not living in the best conditions, and I’ve lost jobs before.

He helped me financially in the beginning of our relationship, and I’m genuinely grateful for that. But I also tried to support him in my own ways. **I helped him find a new job** when he was looking for work and tried to support him with opportunities and things I could do for him.

That’s why it hurts when he makes everything sound like he was the only one giving and I never reciprocated. I admit I’m not good at handling money and have made financial mistakes, but I also did my share and helped him when I could, including lending him money even when I needed it myself.

**The money situation**

Money became a major source of conflict.
Recently, when I was struggling and hungry, I kept telling him I needed help. He said he didn’t have money and that I didn’t do enough to help him. He also said that the money he owed me had to be paid back and wasn’t “for free.”

He eventually sent me 100, but I returned it because I knew he was also struggling. Now I actually need it, but I’m blocked and can’t reach him.

This made me feel even more trapped because I was already struggling financially while also desperately missing him.

**The workplace situation**

There was also an incident involving his workplace. I had been sitting outside because I had originally planned to work there too, but ultimately didn’t continue.

**My ex contacted me about it.**

He told me people at his workplace had been talking about me because they saw me sitting outside and staring, and that they thought I looked “crazy” because I wasn’t even saying hi as I supposedly should have.

I understand that repeatedly being around someone’s workplace could make him uncomfortable, and I accept that I crossed his boundaries.
But during the argument, he became extremely angry and made a frightening comment about whether he should kill me.

He has also previously threatened to hurt or punch me if I continued contacting him.
There was also a time when he ditched me and went home while I was there. I was extremely distressed and kept trying to contact him afterward.

**The date situation**

He also told me recently that he was going on a date. When I asked him to show me, he said it wasn’t my business and that I didn’t need to know.
I became terrified that he was replacing me with another woman.

Later I saw him leaving with a male colleague, so I don’t know whether the date was real or something he said because he was angry.

**The salon situation that makes me question myself**

Another thing that weighs heavily on me is an incident from a previous salon job.
I shared a client’s number with an ex-therapist/colleague. I didn’t personally benefit financially from it, but I understand that sharing a client’s information was wrong and could have consequences.

Because of this, I was called a **thief**, and my ex also used this situation when talking about my character.
What confuses me is that after he moved to another workplace, I later found out that he had apparently done something similar after leaving.

I’m not saying that makes what I did okay. I know I made a mistake and should take responsibility for it.

But I don’t understand how one mistake means I’m fundamentally a thief or a bad person, especially when I didn’t personally benefit from it.

**How badly this has affected me**

This is where things have become really serious.
I’ve been struggling to eat and sleep. I keep waking up thinking about him. I constantly wonder where he is, whether he’s with another woman, whether he misses me, and whether he’ll ever come back.
I became so emotionally overwhelmed that **I couldn’t even properly start my new job**.

I skipped work after I had only recently joined because I was mentally and emotionally falling apart.
I’ve been feeling sick, exhausted, lost, and unable to function normally.

I’ve also resorted to **self-harm and taking too much medication/overdosing** because I felt like I couldn’t cope with the pain.

I tried looking for mental-health support because I knew I needed help, but I felt like I couldn’t access the kind of support I desperately needed and felt very let down by the mental-health services available to me. I felt completely lost.

I don’t say this to make my ex feel guilty or to manipulate him into coming back. I’m saying it because I genuinely don’t know how I got to this point.

I feel like I gave him everything I had—my love, time, support, money, affection, and myself—and now I don’t know who I am without him.

Sometimes I think:
*Maybe he is right. Maybe I’m a terrible person.*
*Maybe that’s why people abandon me.*
*Maybe I’m not financially stable enough, successful enough, or good enough to be loved.*
And then I wonder whether I’m just blaming myself for everything because I’m desperate to understand why he stopped choosing me.
**I don’t know what to believe anymore**
Some people have told me he might be dismissive-avoidant and that the blocking, pushing me away, and then contacting me could mean he still has feelings.

But I’m starting to wonder whether I’m just using that explanation to keep hope alive.

Because objectively, he has told me:
He doesn’t want a relationship.
We’re only friends.
He doesn’t want me contacting him.
He says he hates me.
He has told me to move on.
He has said he won’t marry me.
He may marry someone else.
He has blocked me repeatedly.
He has shouted at me.
He has told me to stay with my cats.
He has made threatening comments when angry.
And yet there are also moments when he calls, unblocks me, asks where I am, hugs me, kisses me, acts affectionate, and calls me **“bebito.”**
I don’t know whether that means he still has feelings or whether I’m desperately searching for signs that aren’t there.

I also know I crossed his boundaries by continuing to contact him and being around his workplace. I take responsibility for that and I know I need to stop.
But I don’t think making mistakes means I’m inherently a bad person who deserves to be hated or abandoned.

**I still really miss him.**
I miss who he was when we were happy. I miss our relationship. I miss being loved by him. I feel completely lost without him after giving so much of myself to this relationship.

I’m not looking for advice on how to get around his blocks or force him to talk to me. I know I need to respect his boundaries.

Does his hot-and-cold behavior mean he still has feelings, or am I interpreting intermittent contact and affection as hope because I desperately want him back?

Could he genuinely come back, or should I accept that when he says we’re only friends and the relationship is over, he means it?

And how do I stop believing that all my financial problems, mistakes, job losses, and relationship mistakes mean that **I am a bad person and that’s why I was abandoned?**

I know I need to work on myself regardless of whether he ever comes back. I just don’t know how to let go of someone I still love while also trying to rebuild my sense of who I am.
I feel completely lost. I feel alone. A part of me still want him back.

One month after my ex discarded me — I feel completely lost

I’m posting because I genuinely feel lost and need an outside perspective. My ex and I were together for about 6 months.

We met while working at the same salon, and in the beginning we were genuinely happy, close, affectionate, and loving. I really believed we had something real.

About a month ago, everything fell apart and I feel like I was discarded.

He eventually told me that we were only friends and that he didn’t want a relationship. He said he wouldn’t marry me and might marry someone else. But emotionally I couldn’t accept that. I continued giving him my time, attention, emotional support, financial help, and we even had sex a few times.

For me, none of that was casual because I still loved him and hoped we might get back together.
What makes this even harder is that his affectionate behavior can be completely opposite to his words. There are times when he hugs me, kisses me, is very affectionate, and calls me by our old pet name, “bebito.”

Those moments feel completely different from him saying he hates me or doesn’t want me.
That’s why I feel so confused. If he were consistently cold and distant, maybe I could accept that the relationship was truly over.

But he can be loving and affectionate one moment and then tell me he hates me or wants me to leave him alone another time.

I don’t know whether those affectionate moments mean he still has feelings, whether he is emotionally conflicted, or whether he can be affectionate with someone while genuinely only wanting friendship.
I know I’m also at fault for crossing his boundaries.

I kept contacting him even after he told me to stop, and I understand why that would push someone away. I also went around his workplace because I was desperate to be near him. I’m not trying to make myself completely innocent.

But I also feel like he has made me feel as though everything wrong in my life proves that I’m a bad person.
He has told me that he hates me and has said things about how bad or “shit” my life is because I’m not financially stable, I’m not living in the best conditions, and I’ve lost jobs before.

He helped me financially in the beginning of our relationship, and I’m genuinely grateful for that. But I also tried to support him in my own ways. I helped him find a new job when he was looking for work and tried to support him with opportunities and things I could do for him.

That’s why it hurts when he makes everything sound like he was the only one giving and I never reciprocated. I admit I’m not good at handling money and have made financial mistakes, but I also did my share and helped him when I could, including lending him money even when I needed it myself.

The money situation

Money became a major source of conflict.
Recently, when I was struggling and hungry, I kept telling him I needed help. He said he didn’t have money and that I didn’t do enough to help him. He also said that the money he owed me had to be paid back and wasn’t “for free.”

He eventually sent me 100, but I returned it because I knew he was also struggling. Now I actually need it, but I’m blocked and can’t reach him.

This made me feel even more trapped because I was already struggling financially while also desperately missing him.

The workplace situation

There was also an incident involving his workplace. I had been sitting outside because I had originally planned to work there too, but ultimately didn’t continue.

My ex contacted me about it.

He told me people at his workplace had been talking about me because they saw me sitting outside and staring, and that they thought I looked “crazy” because I wasn’t even saying hi as I supposedly should have.

I understand that repeatedly being around someone’s workplace could make him uncomfortable, and I accept that I crossed his boundaries.
But during the argument, he became extremely angry and made a frightening comment about whether he should kill me.

He has also previously threatened to hurt or punch me if I continued contacting him.
There was also a time when he ditched me and went home while I was there. I was extremely distressed and kept trying to contact him afterward.

The date situation

He also told me recently that he was going on a date. When I asked him to show me, he said it wasn’t my business and that I didn’t need to know.
I became terrified that he was replacing me with another woman.

Later I saw him leaving with a male colleague, so I don’t know whether the date was real or something he said because he was angry.

The salon situation that makes me question myself

Another thing that weighs heavily on me is an incident from a previous salon job.
I shared a client’s number with an ex-therapist/colleague. I didn’t personally benefit financially from it, but I understand that sharing a client’s information was wrong and could have consequences.

Because of this, I was called a thief, and my ex also used this situation when talking about my character.
What confuses me is that after he moved to another workplace, I later found out that he had apparently done something similar after leaving.

I’m not saying that makes what I did okay. I know I made a mistake and should take responsibility for it.

But I don’t understand how one mistake means I’m fundamentally a thief or a bad person, especially when I didn’t personally benefit from it.

How badly this has affected me

This is where things have become really serious.
I’ve been struggling to eat and sleep. I keep waking up thinking about him. I constantly wonder where he is, whether he’s with another woman, whether he misses me, and whether he’ll ever come back.
I became so emotionally overwhelmed that I couldn’t even properly start my new job.

I skipped work after I had only recently joined because I was mentally and emotionally falling apart.
I’ve been feeling sick, exhausted, lost, and unable to function normally.

I’ve also resorted to self-harm and taking too much medication/overdosing because I felt like I couldn’t cope with the pain.

I tried looking for mental-health support because I knew I needed help, but I felt like I couldn’t access the kind of support I desperately needed and felt very let down by the mental-health services available to me. I felt completely lost.

I don’t say this to make my ex feel guilty or to manipulate him into coming back. I’m saying it because I genuinely don’t know how I got to this point.

I feel like I gave him everything I had—my love, time, support, money, affection, and myself—and now I don’t know who I am without him.

Sometimes I think:
Maybe he is right. Maybe I’m a terrible person.
Maybe that’s why people abandon me.
Maybe I’m not financially stable enough, successful enough, or good enough to be loved.
And then I wonder whether I’m just blaming myself for everything because I’m desperate to understand why he stopped choosing me.
I don’t know what to believe anymore
Some people have told me he might be dismissive-avoidant and that the blocking, pushing me away, and then contacting me could mean he still has feelings.

But I’m starting to wonder whether I’m just using that explanation to keep hope alive.

Because objectively, he has told me:
He doesn’t want a relationship.
We’re only friends.
He doesn’t want me contacting him.
He says he hates me.
He has told me to move on.
He has said he won’t marry me.
He may marry someone else.
He has blocked me repeatedly.
He has shouted at me.
He has told me to stay with my cats.
He has made threatening comments when angry.
And yet there are also moments when he calls, unblocks me, asks where I am, hugs me, kisses me, acts affectionate, and calls me “bebito.”
I don’t know whether that means he still has feelings or whether I’m desperately searching for signs that aren’t there.

I also know I crossed his boundaries by continuing to contact him and being around his workplace. I take responsibility for that and I know I need to stop.
But I don’t think making mistakes means I’m inherently a bad person who deserves to be hated or abandoned.

I still really miss him.
I miss who he was when we were happy. I miss our relationship. I miss being loved by him. I feel completely lost without him after giving so much of myself to this relationship.

I’m not looking for advice on how to get around his blocks or force him to talk to me. I know I need to respect his boundaries.

Does his hot-and-cold behavior mean he still has feelings, or am I interpreting intermittent contact and affection as hope because I desperately want him back?

Could he genuinely come back, or should I accept that when he says we’re only friends and the relationship is over, he means it?

And how do I stop believing that all my financial problems, mistakes, job losses, and relationship mistakes mean that I am a bad person and that’s why I was abandoned?

I know I need to work on myself regardless of whether he ever comes back. I just don’t know how to let go of someone I still love while also trying to rebuild my sense of who I am.
I feel completely lost. I feel alone. A part of me still want him back.

Hi guys. Ive recently worked as a Reception in one of the barbershop/salons for men. Been wondering if theres more vacancies like this with a better pay? That offers commission/incentives structure.

Had an observation and passed an interview with 1847 but after observation just ghosted me with no updates despite constant following up (really want to work with them).

Does anyone know any work/that works and is looking for a receptionist? Please do DM me. 😊 Thank you

Extremely depressed.. still jobless.. i dont know how to pay my bills or even eat.. not much support from loved ones.. tried to contact the mental health hotline 16000 but its always closed… is someone kind enough to help in any sort of way? (Dont ask me for sexual services).

안녕하세요.! Wanted to learn more about the culture and to teach more about the language 😊💗 as I plan to move to SK one day. Anybody here?

Phil

28

4 years of experience in the field

Family visa

Can join immediately

Not limited to front desk can also do events (facepainting,bubble artist etc.)

Need to work to pay for my rent and food plus support my 12 furbabies.

If you know please comment or send me a DM. Thank you