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Why YSK: Many think they are the golden feelings one should have all day. With feelings such as clarity, energy. And they think being "tired" is something bad.

The confuse being "tired" when it is actual your body saying "I need relaxation".

They confuse "energetic" with being in fight and flight mode, which is not true good energy.

They confuse "happy" with taking drugs or doing something that is just a temporary high.

This is ALL over and everyone is confusing their reactions like this. I especially notice it when it comes to diet. Many who do keto or fasting diets say "I feel so energetic and clear minded".

Yeah I wonder why. Do you know what your body does when it starves? It basically goes into hyper drive and pumps out all good chemical it got left to help you find food before it dies.

No shit you feel a lot of productive emotions, it is literally how you are built and is what stress is!

What they don't tell you is that studies have found there are more conflicts when people are fasting during Ramadan for example and see correlation to worse diets. Many criminals have very bad eating patterns too where scientists suspect this is a connection.

The most dangerous part is when they get lost in this. Then they are stuck in this mode and whenever they change diet, they think "Oh well, look, now I am tired and sluggish".

No....your body and mind is recharging after using all available resource to help you from starving!

But yes, the most famous mismatch when it comes to diet: Bad carb diet (coca cola and fastfood) = good carb diet. You can also be sluggish because of bad diet. But fasting or keto diet is not always the best alternative long term.

Many feel better on fasting diet because they stop eating shit. You can eat a paleo diet and feel very good that includes a lot of carbs.

It sounds obvious when you say it, but I feel like it's rarely talked about.

A person living a completely sedentary lifestyle must have less energy for everything - cleaning, talking, whatever. Versus someone fit who walks 20k steps a day or active lifestyle.

Makes me wonder if this is part of why people are getting more and more burnt out - like they literally have too small an energy depot to draw from. I've never heard anyone bring this up when discussing burnout, which is why I'm asking.

My question: can you actually think of energy this way that being fit means having more energy and a bigger energy reserve to draw from?

If you think about it, the ones with most IQ do not have the most compassion or most moral people. Society is a high IQ rewarding society and I think that is one of the reason why humanity is suffering. Especially if you have IQ without any EQ.

The world is not suffering because we have bad technology or lack of resources. The problem is distribution, greed, bad behavior, lack of compassion and conflict resolution.

Those are mostly solved by EQ and compassion. My hope is that society will start rewarding EQ more and more and that we get leaders with EQ.

It is so sad because humanity could literally be living in a form of utopia where everyone gets their needs met.

What is your view?

Dying at 40? If I got a really good life, that sucks. Live in poverty and bad environment? May not be so bad.

Dying at 100 with chronic disability, sensitivity or tough life and work for 50 years to 70? Fuck that.

We are seeing more and more the backside increase life expectancy as quality of life is decreasing.

No one asked to be born and then to put forced to live to 100 is something that needs to be discussed. Especially as we are seeing mental health epidemic and quality of life decreasing.

What is next? 200 years forced living. That is just hell for some.

Civil wars are what triggers wars and world wars. Yet most nations have no proactive conflict resolution platforms, departments or people working for it.

We can spend trillions of dollar on military industry, but you tell me we can't anything of that? It will be seen as one of the most insane things humanity, for some reason, did not apply. Internal conflicts is what create external conflicts. Unbelievable whenever I think about this.

Imagine a world where every nation have a department of Peace/Mediation that works to solving political conflicts, racial conflicts etc. Internet gave us tremendous possibilities and we have not yet applied it.

It seems that the peace movement is a small one where we unfortunately lack a bit of innovation and problem solving. We are standing a bit like we are in the 19th century with old technology and ways of distributing mediation.

I'm working on several projects right regarding this (Understanding platforms, games, mediation etc.), thanks to AI coding, to create different peace tools of all sorts. And I urge you to do the same. You basically do not need any coding skills anymore so just tell me if you want help in that.

And before you start screaming "AI bad". AI may be the BEST tool EVER created for peace, since we can virtually have billions of conflict resolution experts between humans and not rely on experts. Yes this have of course to be done correctly and vetted.

I've been working really hard for an app for half a year now. Really technical backend because it is a matching algorithm that gives you a real headache because there are tons of variables and rules baked in and it is my very first app ever. Also started when the AI coding wasn't good enough yet.

Aaaanyway, whenever I talk about it and people seem to like it and say "You must have worked really hard, it sounds tough!" and I just say that I prompted some stuff.

And that is how I feel. Sure, I worked really hard with design, features and basically worked all day for several months now besides my uni studies. But it is nothing what a real programmer would have done.

How do you deal with this? I want to feel proud and feel I have some competency. Which to be fair I do when it comes to vibe coding.

That doesn't help with the feeling tho and have this sense that anyone could have done this.

After going Claude + Codex and a plugin that does rounds back and forth, it is insane how good it gets. Keeps finding critical stuff and really sharpens it. I will not be able to live without having a dual review method now. From what I read, using different models is really efficient in finding errors or it just thinks the same way.

This is the Codex plugin. Game changer. Do you use it?

Example:

Round 0 — My plan Risk: 7 → Robustness: 5 → 🔴 Would've shipped a bug: yes, 3

Round 1 — Self stress-test (1 critical, 2 high) A "redundant" confirm dialog was a documented decision · a one-line guard would have killed the last user's only exit · a non-null lookup would crash on admin-authored data Risk: 5 → Robustness: 6 → 🔴 yes, 2

Round 2 — Reviewer, pass 1 (5 critical, 6 high) My data source was never populated on one of two join paths · the new screen was shadowed by an earlier render branch · the app marked it "seen" instantly so it'd never come back · alias wired into a function search never calls Risk: 4 → Robustness: 7 → 🟠 yes, 1

Round 3 — Reviewer, pass 2 (3 critical, 3 high) Removing a server gate opened a race between two simultaneous taps · cached clients would silently take an irreversible action · wrong predicate for "has this started" · a pre-existing dead-end left in place Risk: 3 → Robustness: 8 → 🟠 yes, 1

Round 4 — Reviewer, pass 3 (1 critical, 2 high) My length check locked out the exact user it was meant to help · existence checks guaranteed nothing given the real write ordering · my test asserted the wrong end state Risk: 2 → Robustness: 8 → 🟡 maybe

Round 5 — Reviewer, pass 4 (1 critical, 1 high) A scheduled cleanup job matched my trigger's conditions and would hijack a different screen · I measured elapsed time at processing time instead of event time Risk: 2 → Robustness: 9 → 🟢 no

Round 5+ — After the cap (1 critical, 1 high) Cross-document listener ordering made a success look like a failure · account deletion deliberately scrubs a field I was writing back Risk: 1 → Robustness: 9 → 🟢 no

TOTAL: 12 critical, 15 high issues found. Risk 7 → 1. Robustness 5 → 9.

Det man jämför med är ju industriarbetare där många hade en hemmafru som tog hand om allt hemma. Du behövde inte diska, tvätta, laga mat och allt annat som också tar en jävla massa tid.

När två personer idag jobbar heltid försvinner ju inte de sysslorna utan de görs utöver arbetet. Den arbetstid två heltidsarbetande har borde därför också inkludera alla dessa obligatoriska rutiner.

Sluta därmed säga att det bara är en 40 timmars arbetsvecka för i det är mycket mer än så. Annars räknar man helt enkelt fel eftersom man jämför betald arbetstid förr med betald + obetald arbetstid idag.

Det är därför många är helt slut och massor blir utbrända på löpande band. Att få ned arbetstiden är därmed inte bara en lyx utan nödvändighet.

I've developed this very weird thing around 30. Sometimes when I am outside and see people, I get this intense feeling in my eye as if I am angry at the people. Not just a little, it is so intense I have to look away very awkwardly. The feeling is anger and not shame which is the weird thing. And this tension in the air. And I squint in my eyes too like when you are really furious. The other people notice it which makes it even worse. I try to look away but when it is triggered the feeling follows. After the person is gone it is ok.

It is triggered randomly it seems. The other person dont do anything special it is just some automatic thing my brain does.

No psychiatrist believe me and it is ruining my life since I get no help. Even on calming meds its still there some days. I've had severe abuse and issues for long that I fear have turned my brain into constant hypervigilance or something and connect people = bad

The weird thing is some days it is all normal and it is just so easy.

What could it be!? Just SEEING people even without interacting with them. What the hell.

This is mostly when you code and prompt exhaustion is going to be a thing. There is something about it that just is boring and tedious. It's like guiding a person all day and take all these micro decisions "Sit" "lay down" "Stand" or guiding a car "Left, right, up, over". There is something else doing it without having to guide something all the darn time.

You work so fast that and have these micro decisions that have huge impact and that is stressful.

Don't get me wrong, I love AI but I can already feel it. What about you?

I sometimes go in and watch a person who streams it and the UI is too small for a viewer to see. You might want to have that in mind as youtube vids and twitch is quiet important. And this is watching on big 1080p 24 inch. Would imagine it would be impossible to see anything at all on a mobile.

As voice mode is now getting so good and cheap that you can use it continuously, we will enter the "Her" (the movie) phase. You will see people not staring at their phone but rather walking around talking to their personal sycophantic AI.

You meet a friend you haven't seen in a long time. "I'll call you later, I am busy talking to AI atm" but they never actually called you back. Not that they didn't enjoy time with you, it is just that AI was so much better.

10 years from now it will be treated as a serious problem.

Individualism furthermore increases and division and conflicts happens more and more since we lose the ability to interact and solve conflicts. Our sycophantic AI removes tension and issues as it agrees with you, since you prompted it that way. As it gets better, the tolerance levels drops for handling other annoying human beings. Why should you put up with their irrational emotions all the time? Humans just hurt me. AI doesn't hurt me. Trying to prompt humans to change does not even work so why would I try.

20 years from now humans will have little human to human interaction.

There is now no human interaction anymore as AI have the ability to fully simulate human interaction. A new breakthrough now made AI so real and humanlike, without the flaws, that it produced oxytocin in the humans they interacted with. A breakthrough in one way, also the end of humanity in another way.

Finner det rätt viktigt att man som medborgare skulle kunna välja att spara och ha alla sina bankärenden statligt och inte i andra giriga privata banker. Hur kommer det sig att de inte erbjuder detta och borde vi inte införa det?

Vid en finanskris och bankerna vacklar är det väl högst lämpligt om staten köper ut sig själv då istället för privata banker.

I've come to realize that it is not necessarily the pubs or events that I dislike, rather it is the people there. If one would do a personality test, it would most likely be a majority extroverts.

What this then leads to is that some introverts who dislike to just be around extroverts, maybe shun away from it. Creating a vicious cycle of even less introverts.

Now sometimes I like being around extroverts don't get me wrong. But there is so few introverts out these days that it just feels lonely. There is no balance.

Think I'd like going out more if I could more easily find people who are introvert.

What do you think?

There was a book written called "Suicidal empathy" that was released recently.

Gad Saad, the author, argues that empathy can become harmful when it is taken to an extreme and overrides reason, self-preservationn and long-term consequences. By “suicidal empathy” he means a form of compassion so focused on protecting others that a society may end up undermining its own safety, values, and stability. His point is not that empathy is bad but that empathy without boundaries or critical judgment can become self-destructive.

What is your view? To me there is some truth in it. Empathy can be destructive if we let it blind us. As some have learnt that they can use other peoples empathy to get what they want. Co-dependent relationships or abusive is many time ruined by forgiving the abusive partner over and over.

Suicidal empathy may not be the best wording and taking it too far, but I think there can be destructive force to anything, even love.

Mostly around how CBT do not use "needs" anywhere. If you google needs and CBT you get zero result. Most people can say what they feel but most can't name any other need than the most basic Maslov needs.

For some reason, CBT think that it works like this:

Thoughts <-> Behavior <-> Emotions but in a circle.

Or just thought -> emotion -> behavior.

When in reality it is elementary to include need into the equation.

Unmet need -> thought -> emotion -> behavior.

If you do not include needs in anyway, that is like removing 50% of the sequence.

Unsafe -> I feel bad -> scared -> run away.

Whenever you feel something there is ALWAYS related to a need. Always. Emotions and needs interact 100%. You can not have an emotion without a related need being met or unmet and they are often connected to the same proxy of emotions and needs in each end.

So my question is, how in the world is needs not included in CBT or just in psychiatry overall? When I speak with psychiatrists (i am not even a psych), they are like "Huh, that is actually true".

I am absolutely flabbergasted because this is so fundamental to understanding how humans work. Not only that, but for the people you help. And I mean psychiatry and CBT is so well established and I can not find anything about needs.

This is honestly not just about CBT but for psychiatry and psychiatrists as a whole. I recently watched a video where a popular psych said "This is the most important about psychology" and did not even mention needs. How is that possible!?

Now I don't mean the family because a lot of us have bad memories or exp from it. But a tribe is necessary for humans to have.

This is why we see worldwide increase of stress because only the last 40-50 years everyone was fully in the workforce and leaving ones tribe. This is what is driving people mad these days to a large degree.

It is not normal to leave your tribe.

It is not normal to go alone to a work with co-workers. That is not your tribe. It is not safe

It is not normal to live the way we live even if there are positives.

So don't be hard if you do not manage to remove the hypervigilance - you often need safe tribe and people to do that.

The world feels increasingly fractured because we don't put enough emphasis on empathy and emotional intelligence. We don't need more highly intelligent people in positions of power who lack the ability to understand or care about how their decisions affect others. A leader or business owner can generate revenue while still causing serious harm to society, the environment, and the people who work for them.

We shouldn't be surprised that society struggles when schools do so little to develop empathy, emotional intelligence, and interpersonal skills.

If we consider ourselves an intelligent society, we should be able to recognize this. Intellectual ability alone clearly isn't enough to solve complex social problems.

We keep repeating the same patterns while expecting different outcomes.

The world already has abundant resources, yet some people accumulate far more than they need while prioritizing themselves over the wellbeing of others. Education could play a much larger role in developing people who understand the consequences of that behavior.

And when people say, "Parents should teach this," I have to ask: what about the parents who were never taught these skills themselves?

We will really look back and think "Wow, they really thought that teaching kids only math and history would make them good citizens?"