u/_littleweirdgirl_

What happened is that I was with a person who (probably) has bpd. Their illness causes abandonment issues,HUGE ones,and last year they completely crashed out when I got close to an old friend of mine. After that I got scared to make friends again,and there was also the fact that every time I felt bad (mostly cuz of my depression) they were affected A LOT,which ended up in me taking care of them more then myself.
So two weeks ago,I broke up with them. I didn’t want to tbh but I thought it was for the best and now I deeply regret it because I love them,I love them more than anything. I was at the mental hospital when I broke up with them so in two weeks my mental health really improved and I now think I can handle their mental health. But I’m just scared to get back with them and find out that no I can’t handle that. Idk what to do.
If y’all want to tell me what you think of this,go ahead cuz I’m fucking lost

I’ve been with my gf for more than a year now and had to break up with her two weeks ago,her mental health was impacting me way too much and because of her abandonment/jealousy issues I was now scared to make friends because I was scared of how she’d react. I was also scared to communicate my emotions to her,once again because I was scared of her potential reaction. I also truly believe that she doesn’t want to get better and I just can’t live with someone who keeps on getting worse.
I feel guilty but also free in a way,I don’t know how to feel about this whole situation.

I’m tired of this shitty life,tired of feeling empty all the time,I’m just tired of everything. I’ve been trying to get better for years but nothing seems to really help. I wish I could just end all this now

I’m gonna start this by introducing every person I’m gonna talk about in this thread, me(16F),my girlfriend (Robin 16F) and our best friend (Marin 15F)

We’re all mentally ill and unstable,that’s a fact. But recently my girlfriend and I decided to get our shit together to finally REALLY get better. We obviously told Marin to get better with us,which is totally normal. She told us that yes she was going to try recovering,start getting real help too because she does NOT see a therapist. But after she promised to try on recovering,nothing. She didn’t even try to see a therapist,she kept being on the worsts sides of the internet (especially TikTok).
And after that ? We told her to recover with us 7 times,and 3 times she gave us a long speech about getting better,that she was being selfish and shit. And of course she never bothered getting some kind of help,not even by talking to the psychologist at her school,talking to her parents or anything like that.
In fact,she kept on getting worse,getting a “weight loss friend” , drinking alcohol,not eating at all for days and going on her TikTok vent account every day to watch and repost sad stuff.
About a week ago my girlfriend was about to attempt because of all that,she ended up not doing it and she told Marin about how she was feeling. Marin promised to get better once again.

And today me and my girlfriend wanted to check Marin’s vent account to make sure that she was being honest with us for once. We went on her account and it told “unavailable user” or something,so at first we were happy and thought that she deleted it,but just to make sure we checked with our other accounts to find out that she had just blocked us on our mains to keep watching depressing shit. After that we gave her a chance to tell us the truth by asking her if she had delete the vent account. She lied. She said “yes,it’s a huge step” that was just too much for us.

So now my girlfriend and I are clearly ready to stop talking to her because it’s getting too hard for us.

What do y’all think of this? Any advices?