You know what happened today? Today I realized something, and I don't know whether it's right or wrong. I think I'm attracted to my boyfriend's best friend. What should I do?
I'm a 23-year-old woman, and I've been dating my boyfriend, Sam (23), for a while now. He's a genuinely good person—caring, loving, and always there for me. He listens to me, supports me, and treats me well.
About two months ago, I met his best friend (22). What drew me to him wasn't his looks, but his personality and intellect. I find him incredibly thoughtful and intelligent. It's not that my boyfriend isn't intelligent, but his best friend stands out to me in that way.
Recently, I found out that his best friend is still in contact with his exes, even though they cheated on him. When they came to him crying, he comforted and consoled them instead of being bitter. That made me admire him even more.
There was another incident too. One day, I casually told him that he should come meet us despite having a hectic schedule. He actually came, not just to see me but to spend time with both me and my boyfriend. He even said, "If you call me, how could I not come?" That gesture stayed with me.
Now I'm confused. Is it normal to feel this way? Am I just overthinking and admiring someone's personality, or is this becoming something more? Should I work on overcoming these feelings and stay emotionally devoted to my boyfriend? I really don't know what to make of all this.