u/armoured_lemon

Sometimes I just want REAL talk. A prefferably young person. Older is fine too- but a frank, honest conversation or story. No unhelpful 'Death is my friend', or 'I found god' kind of stuff or videos by Sadhghuru. If I wanted that, I would look for it.

I've got no problem if someone believes in god and is spiritual but that's really not what I want to hear right now. Especially not when I'm looking on youtube for something that resonates with me or that I can connect with and feel less alone.

I feel especially frustrated with broken record phrases of 'They would want you to move on'/'they would want you to be happy' (implying you're grieving wrong and you 'should be over it by now').

I've heard this from family and I know they mean well, but its' not helpful because of its' implication. Its' kind of repeating hollywood stereotypes of grief, and not centered in reality where your whole life feels meaningless or empty now.

Or the 'grief stages' videos. I think the stages of grief is an outdated model. You don't 'get' over it, like checking a box. You have to live with the burden for the rest of your life, and it feels like you now have a wholllllle life of that ahead of you. Deppressing...

The formal hospital grief procedure videos are also not what I'm looking for.

Maybe it has to do with youtube removing the dislike button so all the filler stuff gets pushed to the first page?

I only found the kind of video I was looking for-- by searching something else- a video of a girl telling the story of losing her mom to ALS (Amytropic Lateral Sclerosis), which is what took my Uncle.

I'm listening to the audio drama of Dark forces and really enjoying it.

At one point at the Academy, Kyle mentions that he lives with his dad on a farm, and contrasting other imperial friends- his dad doesn't like to see people get hurt. Some peers jeer at the idea but he defends his dad. I love the moral grayness that his dad made a sacrifice to send kyle to the academy because its the only option for an 'education'.

Anyways- I was wondering if at any point in the games or Novellas Kyle mentions to his father about becoming a mercenary? Does his father dissapprove? I thought he would dissapprove *but might understand that Kyle did the next similar thing to bieng a stormtrooper- transfering applicable job skills to Merc skills. He might not understand or approve his choice... but understand why he felt he had to do it.

Or maybe underneath all the charm and humor... Kyle is still an angry person for bieng indoctrinated by the Empire-- used to believe 'rebels' killed his father... bieng told to dehumanize rebels as 'rats' etc... but also bieng a realist and seeing Mon Mothma as a morally dubious figure too for needing to make choices like telling Jan to shoot kyle if he turns out to be a traitor- so he wants to hover in the middle of 'blue collar' work for anyone that pays, lol?

I'm curious if other people agree with this?

Not going to name names, but I saw a post in this sub asking an honest question about a situation and I gave an honest empathetic response.

Then I get two comments from the OP of the post saying rude shit like. 'stop talking idiot'. Bro is literally like two-face from Batman comics.

WTF is wrong with some people??

Ya'll need to not just touch grass but *not be on the internet to the extent that it worsens the personality you have- to make you behave like a two-faced ghoul to people in real life.

I know its' not everyone as some people genuinely are in a vulnerable place, and genuinely want empathy and compassion, and some people are happy to give them that.

I sympathize with the issue of male lonelieness and how society unfairly treats men with double standards by putting all lonely men in the same category with... stalkers, school sh**ters, and other scum that give lonely men a bad rep.

Before they get to that extent extent- they DID have a point about male lonelieness and societal expectations being too high. I'm not justifying what awful people choose to do- just saying the underlying overall issues they experienced are a recurring theme.

But what I certainly *don't expect, is people turning around after an honest post reaching out- and acting like a playground bully with no provocation.

I don't get how you can ask for help in seemingly a genuine plea, and then switch into clown mode-just like that.

Subs like these are supposed to be free of interactions like that- in theory. Almost makes me not want to respond to people when they act like that. I've also had this kind of experience in other mental health-bsaed subs that are supposed to be safe places for those in need of support and kinship.

Does it cost you ANYTHING to *not be a totall A-hole? No. Basic respect is not hard.

Nobody said you have to be friends with anyone- but *trying your best bieng friendly enough when possible is not that hard either.