u/augustfire420

So baby girl is 11.5 mo and just got done being pretty sick. Like multiple nights of burning up fever (don't worry Dr checked her out she's fine). During that time I just gave her as much boob as possible since it adapts to what she needs. During this little 3/4 day window she randomly decided she hates bottles now, idk if it tasted off cause she was sick or what but she refused to put it in her mouth. I tried 2 different bottles, two different sippy, and breast milk, formula, cows milk with no avail.

Normally this wouldn't matter but tonight is one of the 4 nights a month that I work so I needed hubby to be able to feed her and I finally cracked. I put just a dab of chocolate syrup on the nipple of that bottle and that did it. Now she's back to sucking down the bottle like she forgot that screaming meltdowns she's had all morning. Whatever a win is a win lol

Edit: my mom did contract Lyme disease between my second and first born and her brain fog and cognitive function has really suffered. She much slower to make connections these days. I'm every other way she measures up as a caring loving grandma who spoils and accommodate her. This one incident is just bugging me.

My mom took both babies for my birthday in March and they were 3yo and 9mo and I just found out she never gave the 9mo a bottle once through the night despite her waking up every 90 minutes. It's sickening because I know she knows better for one, my first was ebf till a year and she had taken him overnight a few times before he was a year. Second, every time she calls she asks how the baby is sleeping and every time I say she's up every 2/3 hours to eat. What's worse is how did you have my 9mo all night who kept waking up crying and not once think well maybe I should see if she's hungry? She also came back with a slight diaper rash after I told my mom that she needs to put on the diaper cream after she poops cause her skin is sensitive.

Now I'm fighting with myself, I was always my mom's least favorite child I mean she's explicitly said multiple times "how are you the one who ended up with her life together" my older sister my mom gave up primary custody to so she was always trying to buy her love and she adored my little brother. She's your typical "I'm just one of the guys idk why girls hate me". Now part of me wonders if the neglect (kinda a strong word but accurate) had to do with the fact that my second born is a girl and my first is a boy. She doats on my son and I NEVER had an issue with her watching him. My mom keeps saying that my daughter is just like me and she's my penance for the "wild child" I was. I feel like she's subconsciously taking out her old frustrations from me out on her.

TLDR: who the hell keeps a 9mo overnight and despite the baby waking every 90mins doesn't try to feed them once.

It's always funny to me how men are more open to ideas when they come across them naturally lmao. My husband stumbled across a video today about how hard it is to be a mother and how we're not biologically designed to be raising children in single family homes. Part of the video said that having a father that steps up more to actively support their wife drastically improves the quality of life for the mom and children (I know shocker).

This isn't anything we haven't fought about before (in fact just a couple days ago). He works I don't so I do 90% of the domestic stuff which is fine until I'm doing the domestic stuff and left to tend the kids as well. I've asked him to help in those situations before I'm overstimulated and bitchy but he always just says "why don't you just ask".

I guess this video made it click for him the whole "proactive" part of helping at home. Oh well I don't care if he learns it from YouTube I'm just happy it's finally sinking in. After that convo he then offered to take me for coffee and plants later because "what baby wants baby gets" 😂❤️

My brother, my dad, and I were all sitting around talking about weight loss and calories counting. Calorie deficits, dieting, getting in shape. My dad asked me if I was doing anything and I said well I'm unintentionally in a pretty intense calorie deficit, I'm not a hungry person in generally then add to that I ebf and there's another 500 calories a day I'm burning. He had the audacity to laugh and say "what no, you're not serious how the hell does breastfeeding burn that many calories" my brother jumped in (ever the fact King) to comment that "damn that's like walking 5 miles every day" and I told my dad where the hell do you think the calories she eats come from? And to add to that fun fact that if I don't get enough calcium my body will take the calcium from my bones and teeth to make her milk, just ask my cavities lmao. He rubbed his face and apologized and said he never thought about it and didn't realize how much went into it. Hopefully he has a new appreciation for mother's 😂