u/beskesky

Do high performers end up quitting more jobs or quitting sooner because of toxic workplaces?

as a high performer, my performance in my current job was rewarded by my narc boss hiring an incompetent technically unfit person above me into a role I should have been promoted into. I’ve been on this job for 2 years now. the new hire was brought in 7 months ago and was protected during their probation but is now slowly being reeled into work. access to top projects involving senior management are now being routed to him, when I was carrying out that work all this time. I’ve quite quit for sometime now, slowly switching off. I have landed another role but feel anxious about switching jobs right now because of how the market is. if you’ve been a high performer in a similar situation, how long did you quite quit and stick around for until you really quit?

My performance in my current job was rewarded by my narc boss hiring an incompetent technically unfit person above me into a role I should have been promoted into. I’ve been on this job for 2 years now. The new hire was brought in 9 months ago and was protected during their probation but is now slowly being reeled into work. Access to top projects involving senior management are now being routed to him, when I was carrying out that work all this time. I’ve quite quit for sometime now, slowly switching off. I have landed another role but feel anxious about switching jobs right now because of how the market is. If you’ve been a high performer in a similar situation, how long did you quite quit and stick around for until you really quit?

My performance in my current job was rewarded by my narc boss hiring an incompetent technically unfit person above me into a role I should have been promoted into. I’ve been on this job for 2 years now. The new hire was brought in 9 months ago and was protected during their probation but is now slowly being reeled into work. Access to top projects involving senior management are now being routed to him, when I was carrying out that work all this time. I’ve quite quit for sometime now, slowly switching off. I have landed another role but feel anxious about switching jobs right now because of how the market is. If you’ve been a high performer in a similar situation, how long did you quite quit and stick around for until you really quit?

have we gone back to things getting worse?

i work at a large stable semi government company that has a reputation of being a “great place to work” but ended up being super toxic for me. i feel like my experience here in my team is different to the rest of the company who probably love it here and are having a great time. it’s an old large scale company in an established industry. the works are predictable and great but the toxicity comes from the poor management in my team, hiring incompetent senior managers and undermining capable talent or micromanaging them to destroy their visibility. has anyone else experienced this?

for people who received job offers during this time, did you take them? are people switching roles during this time? how to know when is a right time to make a switch? the situation does not seem to be getting better anytime soon so there’s no clarity on what to do

I’ve been interviewing with a company for sometime now. I finally got an offer which I signed and sent back to them. I don’t think it’s the right time for me to make a move right now so I will need to decline this. Has anyone ever turned out a good role before because the timing didn’t work out?

I’ve been hearing about some people who resigned but their role at the new employer got frozen or they lost their job during probation. Is this true? Is now a good time to change jobs in the middle of the war? Or is it better to stay where you are and leave when things are better? I’ve been feeling very anxious about resigning.

How long do you think this situation is going to go on for? If it lasts the whole year, are people still planning to switch jobs this year? I am worried about what happens if the role gets frozen or if the situation changes while I am in probation because of the war.

i’m at a company where i love the business, the work and projects i have. i have excellent visibility, a sponsor at work and strong relationships with senior management. my problem is my dept head. she’s hired someone above me into a role i should have been promoted into. he’s technically incompetent so i’m still doing all the work while he gets a senior title.

i’ve received an external offer with a 45% pay increase and a title change. don’t know if I should take it. i have a lot of anxiety over leaving what I have built here and trying to rebuild elsewhere. i genuinely have leverage and have built social capital in this role, but my progression seems blocked at least for the next 1-2 years. i have a feeling my dept. head will promote me but in 1-2 years (not anytime time). i’ve been struggling to figure out whether to stick around and play the long game or make a move.

has anyone ever taken a counter offer and stayed? i like the company and the projects i work on, but don’t trust my boss, she hired someone technically incompetent above me into a role i should have been promoted into and switched my reporting line to him, i am still doing all of the work while he gets the title and pay of a senior manger. i am resigning this monday and have a strong feeling she’s going to counter, should you accept if like the company, the culture and the work but not your boss? my company is a huge brand in the niche i operate in. the offer i have received is a smaller but stable place.

i’m supposed to resign on monday but have been having a lot of second thoughts. i absolutely love the company i work at. it’s a market leader in my industry. i have access to quality work, visibility, sponsorship and strong relationships with top management. my concern is my boss. she’s warm and kind one day and cold the other. she hired someone above technically incompetent me into a role i should have been promoted into. the new hire does nothing all day, meanwhile i’m still doing all of my the work for my boss. despite this setback, i like where i work and have a lot of second thoughts about leaving. what should i do?

if you’ve been in a company for 15-20 years, how did you learn to detach and cope with toxic personalities or politics over the years? i’m rejoined a company i used to be at, have been here 2 years now but the politics and culture is toxic because of my boss, it’s honestly a great place to be long term but i feel like the longer i stay here the worse my mental health would get. how do people end up staying in a role for so long?

i’m about to resign from a toxic workplace with a narc dept head. my dept. head who was my “unofficial” boss for 2+ years hired an incompetent senior manager above me into a role i should have been promoted into. this person was hired solely to downgrade my role and limit my scope. i have excellent visibility in the company, strong relationships with senior management and senior sponsorship. the narc boss’s move to hire someone was out of insecurity. despite the new hire now in, the narc boss continues to get me to do all her work and works closely with me. when i resign, should i speak to her first and then inform the new manager? i’m worried she’s not going to react well if she finds out through someone else.

i’m about my resign, considering how important my role is in the company, i am confident that my narc boss is going to make a counteroffer. i am tempted to consider because i genuinely like what i do and the company, my only issue with the narc boss and the incompetent senior manager she’s hired above me into a role i should have been promoted into. if she attempts to counter, i don’t trust that she’s going to change her whole personality. has anyone ever fixed their relationship with a narc boss?