u/blackwhite0000

I posted yesterday, and some people mentioned that my features look masculine but that I should change my hairstyle cause it's 'feminine.' Ik some people mean well and think that to appear more masculine, I must cut my hair. but honestly, sometimes I feel like it's completely okay for a trans man to have a feminine side/style without automatically being labeled gay or bisexual. I feel that some people get angry and rebel and attack me, saying that I'm not 'really trans' or that I don't wanna pass. u can't just play the role of excessive masculinity, it makes you uncomfortable and it's obvious when someone is putting on an act. the constant fear of losing your masculinity just means you don't feel internally stable.

What do you guys think?

I’m Ashton. I tend to look at the world through two lenses: a logical, analytical one, and a deeply creative, artistic one. I’m a man who values deep conversations over small talk and empathy over ego

What I bring to the table:

Artistic Identity: Art isn't just a hobby for me; it’s my language. Whether I’m sketching or creating, I’m always looking for the deeper meaning

Straightforwardness: I don’t believe in mind games. I value respect and direct communication.

Dedication: When I care about someone, i lead with empathy and a lot of genuine attention.

The partner I’m looking for:

I’m inspired by women who are independent and have their own world. I’m looking for an equal, someone i can grow with, share ideas with and build a real connection based on mutual respect

A bit of honesty:

I believe in transparency, so it’s important to share that I’m a trans guy and haven’t started hormone therapy (HRT) yet. If that’s something you’re comfortable with, I’d love to connect

Age isn’t a number to me, but emotional maturity is. If you’re someone who values art, honesty and a slowburn connection, send me a message and tell me what’s currently on your mind.

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I make music late at night instead of sleeping and spend too much time inside my own head.

I’m planning to move to Canada in the future, still figuring life out slowly instead of pretending I already have it together.

I’m into art, quiet conversations, weird thoughts at 2am, psychology, indie/alt music, and people who feel honest without trying too hard.

I’m not really into traditional masculinity. I’m small, calm, emotional in a controlled way, and more focused on presence and personality than trying to look intimidating.

I like people who are soft without being fake. People who can be thoughtful and a little funny at the same time.

Not looking for anything rushed. Just seeing who’s out there, I guess.

I make music late at night instead of sleeping and spend too much time inside my own head.

I’m planning to move to Canada in the future, still figuring life out slowly instead of pretending I already have it together.

I’m into art, quiet conversations, weird thoughts at 2am, psychology, indie/alt music, and people who feel honest without trying too hard.

I’m not really into traditional masculinity. I’m small, calm, emotional in a controlled way, and more focused on presence and personality than trying to look intimidating.

I like people who are soft without being fake. People who can be thoughtful and a little funny at the same time.

Not looking for anything rushed. Just seeing who’s out there, I guess.

Hi.

I’m Ashton. I’m planning to move to Canada in the future, so I thought I’d start talking to people before life fully changes.

I’m a trans man, still pre-T. quiet person. I make music, draw sometimes, spend a lot of time inside my own head.

I like conversations that don’t feel forced. the kind where hours disappear without noticing.

I don’t really know what else to put here without sounding fake.

If u think we’d get along, message me.

Hi.

I’m Ashton. I’m planning to move to Canada in the future, so I thought I’d start talking to people before life fully changes.

I’m a trans man, still pre-T. quiet person. I make music, draw sometimes, spend a lot of time inside my own head.

I like conversations that don’t feel forced. the kind where hours disappear without noticing.

I don’t really know what else to put here without sounding fake.

If u think we’d get along, message me.

I’m Ashton.

I’m finishing my studies and planning to move to Canada in a few years. I’m just starting to meet people early instead of waiting until everything is already set.

I’m a trans man, still pre-T. I’m quiet, observant, and usually in my own head more than anything else.

Music is a big part of my life. I make it as well, not just listen to it. It’s something I spend a lot of time with when I’m alone.

I also draw and write sometimes. I notice small details more than I probably should.

I’m drawn to women who are easy to talk to, who like depth but don’t overcomplicate things. Just someone normal to talk to, really.

If you feel like we’d get along, u can message me.

i produce / write everything and i’m building a long term project, not one-off songs or anything commercial. still early stages but i’m serious about the direction

sound is more on the calm side — indie rock mixed with some darker / atmospheric elements. not really loud or traditional rock

some references for the vibe:

the neighbourhood / tame impala / early arctic monkeys / the strokes (slower, more minimal tracks)

looking for:

- male vocalist (calm / emotional delivery, not aggressive)

- someone comfortable recording clean takes + adding layers if needed

- bonus if you play bass or drums (not required but welcome)

remote is fine. mainly looking for people in north america / europe / uk / canada just for timezones and workflow

send some demos if you’re interested

deep, calm voice preferred. slow atmospheric delivery fits the sound

i handle writing, production, instrumentals, visuals, basically building the whole sound world. looking for someone experienced with vocal recording, control, and clean takes. not really looking for first-time singers or pure experimenting

influences: shoegaze, dark indie, cinematic rock, slowcore

remote collab only. mainly looking for people based in north america, europe, uk, canada, australia (timezone/workflow reasons)

send vocal samples if interested

deep, calm voice preferred. slow / atmospheric delivery fits the sound

i handle all writing, production, instrumentals, visuals etc — just looking for someone who can actually record vocals properly and take it seriously

influences: shoegaze, dark indie, cinematic rock, slowcore vibes

remote is fine. mainly looking for people from north america, europe, uk, canada, australia

send vocal samples if you’re interested

deep, calm voice preferred. slow, atmospheric delivery fits the sound best

i already handle the writing, production, instrumentals, visuals, etc — mainly looking for someone experienced with recording vocals and comfortable working seriously on long-term music projects

influences are shoegaze, dark indie, cinematic rock, slowcore type stuff

remote collaboration is completely fine. preferably looking for people from north america / europe / uk / australia

dm with vocal samples if interested

i make indie rock / alternative under the name BLANK BOLO. i handle writing + production

looking for someone comfortable with recording vocals with good control, consistency, and ability to follow direction. not just experimenting — someone who can deliver takes that are usable in final tracks

influences: shoegaze, dark indie, cinematic

remote collab only. dm if interested

i make indie rock / alternative under the name BLANK BOLO. i handle all writing + production myself

looking for a voice that fits a darker, slow, atmospheric sound

influences: shoegaze, dark indie, cinematic stuff

remote collab is fine. dm me if you're interested

i make indie rock / alternative stuff under the name BLANK BOLO. i already do the writing + production, just looking for the right voice for it

kinda influenced by shoegaze, dark indie, cinematic stuff etc

remote is fine. dm me if interested