u/bluehedgehog7

I’m 23. This year, I’ve lost my dad. My mom was diagnosed with a heart aneurysm. My cat died. I got broken up with by the woman I was going to marry. I’ve been struggling financially and it seems like any time I try to save money, something happens. And going with that, yesterday was one of the worst days of my life. My state has been experiencing flooding these past few days, and yesterday, I drove my car through a huge puddle (I couldn’t tell how high the water was) and upon doing this, the car completely stalled and died. This car is my pride and joy because I paid for it outright when I was 20 years old and in a much better financial situation. It’s also been nice not having a car payment on it. Literally last week, I had just replaced the radiator, which basically depleted my savings. And now, since I’m poor, I have the most basic car insurance, meaning insurance probably won’t even cover the damage. Which means, I’ll probably have to say bye to my car. It feels like another death. And not only that, but now I don’t know what I’m going to do for another car and how I’m going to work, since I used that car heavily for work.

This is all just too much. I was being so proactive about my mental health; I’m medicated, in therapy, and going to the gym. I’ve tried so hard this year. But despite my efforts, it feels like I’m only met with resistance. I think this is the straw that is going to break the camel’s back. I’m so tired of feeling this way. The constant pain, worry, anxiety, and sadness. I can’t even sleep. It feels like my body is in constant fight or flight mode. I don’t want to die, but I don’t want to live THIS life anymore. I’m so lost and confused and hurt and angry and at this point it’s starting to sound like my only option is to just go into a permanent rest. One person can only handle so much, especially in such a short amount of time. This year has been absolutely cruel to me, and I don’t even know where to go from here.

It’s been such a challenging life, and this year especially. I lost my dad this year, and have had to help my mom through some serious health issues. My cat also passed away. I’m having financial issues. I feel so alone in life. There’s no spark. Every day just feels the same. What’s really bothering me at this current moment is I’m missing the love of my life so incredibly much. We broke up about a month ago because she feels like she doesn’t deserve to be loved due to past trauma. I told her I love her so much and I would never do anything to hurt her, and yet she built her walls up and won’t talk to me at all. I tried reaching out but haven’t heard anything. I am devastated. I’m so tired of working all of these hours just to barely make ends meet. I’ve put in so so so much work into my physical, mental, financial, and spiritual health, but it feels like I’m not going anywhere and I’m just getting so discouraged. I’m struggling to realize what the point is. Why would God make me feel this way? I feel like I’ve been running on a hamster wheel since 2014, but this year especially just feels so brutal. I’m about to give up. Please pray for me, brothers and sisters. I would especially really like a reconciliation with my (ex)girlfriend at this moment. I’d love to marry her one day. I pray that whatever trauma is bothering her, that she can work past it and come back to me and we can reconcile. I think that would do wonders for my soul right now, since she made me the happiest I’ve been in a long time. Thank you.

I’ve been trying to manifest communication with my no-contact SP for the past 5 weeks. Things were going great between us, until she told me that we need space because “things weren’t going to work out between us”. Haven’t heard from her since.

My self concept is fine. I’m always affirming that I am her boyfriend, that she loves me, I am the best option for her, etc. And I genuinely believe these things. In regards to the communication, I’ve done every technique I can think of; SATS, affirmations, robotic affirmations, meditations/sleeping with subliminals, guided meditations, visualizations, I even tried the O method a few times.

The 3D has been showing some contradictions. She liked one of my posts. She also opened up an old conversations. But she also unsaved my playlist and left a groupchat involving me. I also manifested a date with a completely different person.

It’s been 5 weeks and I was genuinely expecting SOMETHING by now. Specifically what I’ve been manifesting is for her to reach out and ask if we could meet up in person to talk things out/go on a date/hangout. Also, we had made plans a few weeks ago for tomorrow (August 28) which is also why I was manifesting for some communication, so that I wouldn’t have the added anxiety about a “time sensitive” manifestation.

At this point, I’m just feeling discouraged and am seeking some motivation. If this goes on much longer, I’m just going to call it a loss and give up.

I wrote a song about you. Highlighting how much I love you, and what I love about you. You left me no choice when you asked for space. I couldn’t talk to you, so I wrote it in a song. I hope you find it. It’s not hard to find. It’s on all the streaming platforms.

I wrote it to tell you that you deserve to be happy. You should allow yourself to be happy. I know you have past trauma from relationships and you’re scared to let your guard down. You’re scared to open up. You’re scared to get hurt again. But I promise you, I would never hurt you. I would never break your heart. The second things got real between us, you pushed me away and broke my heart. I know it was just a defense mechanism, but I love you. And because I love you, I would never do anything to hurt you. You can trust me.

Just text me you fool. I see you watching me on social media. You’re the one that initiated no contact, so you’re gonna have to be the one to break it. But just know, I am receptive. I am not mad at you. I want to be with you and only you. Why are we wasting time?

I wrote a song about you, like I told you I would. It’s on all of the major streaming platforms. Don’t worry, I kept your identity discreet, obviously. It’s just a song outlining how much I love you. I wanna send it to you so bad. I couldn’t tell you I love you, and that’s why I put it in a song. Maybe you’ll hear it and know it’s about you. Maybe you won’t. I don’t know.

Hey, I know it’s been a few days since we’ve talked, but every day that goes by makes me realize something. It makes me realize how much I love you. And I never got to say it to you before, so I’m saying it now. I love you. I love your beautiful smile. Those perplexing eyes. Your hair that somehow smells like a mix of coconuts and watermelon. I love your flirty banter. The way that you playfully shove me when I do something stupid. I love the way that your lips feel on mine. I love the touch of your skin, and your fingers through my hair. I love how when you would lay your head on my chest, you would tease me about how fast my heart was beating (yes, I was nervous).

I love your intelligence. Your insightfulness. I love that you’re not afraid to be yourself.

I’m gonna marry you one day. I know that sounds asinine given the current circumstances. I know you said you needed space. I know your walls are built up high because your heart has been broken by others in the past. But I promise, I will never break your heart. You don’t have to fear commitment with me, because I would never hurt you. I love you. And one day, I want to propose to you.

And I miss you. The space is soul crushing, but I want to respect your boundaries. Just know that I love you, and I care about you, and if you ever need anything, I am here for you.

You asked for space, and I want to be respectful of that. But I want you to know:

The trauma from your past, it does not define who you are. You deserve to feel loved, cared for, and happy. I’m sorry that so many people in your past failed to give that to you.

Despite you breaking my heart, I do still care about you. I am always here for you. I want to see you happy.

Why? Because I love you.

I would never tell you that at this moment. Because I know you don’t want to hear it. Or you’re not ready to hear it. I don’t know.

But I do. I love you. I care about you a lot.

And that’s all that I wanted to say.

I hope you’re doing well. And I hope you don’t forget about me. I hope that I cross your mind the way that you cross mine.

And I pray that we can end up together, in the long run. I have a feeling we will. I hope that I’m right. But for now, take your time, and know that I do love you, a lot.

My (ex?)girlfriend and I are going through a rough patch. There was no fighting, no arguing, no animosity. We always had fun together. She told me that she is scared about commitment/relationships because she has very bad relationship trauma from some of her past relationships/experiences. It caused her to completely stop dating for years.

I told her I would never do anything to hurt her, and I know she believes me, but I think she is pulling away as a trauma response.

Please, if you could pray for her healing and that we could reconcile things, I would much appreciate it. I love her and I want to take care of her. I plan to marry her one day. I am heartbroken right now.

Hey guys! I just wanted to share a small little success story that happened to me today.

So I like to write down 10 different manifestations every day. Yesterday I wrote “I saw a purple Corvette as a sign that everything will work out between [SP] and I”. (I chose the color purple because that is SP’s favorite color, and chose a Corvette because they’re not *super* common, especially in the color purple)

Little backstory on SP: we were hanging out all the time not too long ago. She told me she liked me, and I reciprocated. We went from kissing, cuddling, seeing each other every day, to basically nothing at all. She totally flipped the script. At this point, when I wrote down this manifestation, I had not heard from her in 4 days, and it was actually starting to make me concerned for her wellbeing.

Anyways, I was out driving earlier, kind of on autopilot. Suddenly, I snap out of autopilot mode just in time to see a purple Corvette drive right past me! I actually screamed when that happened lmao. A few hours later, guess who texted me! (SP ofc)

I was actually mind blown by this and really wanted to share this story.

Now here is the part where I need help:

I texted back a little over an hour later asking if she’d want to hang out when she’s done with work. I kept affirming that we did hang out, kept visualizing us hanging out, but I haven’t heard from her since and I know she’s off of work now. It’s been about 8-9 hours since we last messaged. I even got dressed up because I was so certain we would hang out, and I even offered to pick her up.

It’s hard not to get a bit discouraged sometimes. Why the hot and cold behavior from SP? Hanging out tonight isn’t completely off the table but it is starting to get a bit late. Even if we can’t hang out, it’s the not texting part that really matters to me. If she’s busy or if she doesn’t want to see me, I’d rather her just tell me. Anyways, what advice can you guys offer to me? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

I don’t even know what to use for the flare. Lovers? Ex’s? Friends? Crushes? All of the above.

Yes, I said it. I love you. I haven’t even said that to you in person yet. Why? Because I’m afraid of what it will do to us.

How could I not love you? You’re gorgeous. Beautiful. You have a smile that melts my heart. The way you put your hair in a ponytail, it short-circuits my brain. You’re so kind. Intelligent. Empathetic. You’re a good listener. You’re also hilarious and just fun to be around.

I was ecstatic when you told me you had feelings for me. The way my heart was doing summersaults in my chest. And things progressed quickly. I was able to kiss you. Hold you. Cuddle you. Spend time with you. Everything felt so right.

…until it didn’t. You told me we were moving too fast. And I understand, you have a horrible dating history. You’ve been hurt so many times in the past when you didn’t deserve it. You told me it was so bad to the point where you couldn’t date for years, and now you have commitment issues.

I understand you’re afraid of getting hurt again, but I promise I would never hurt you. If you let me, I could love you with every fibre in my being. I’m not the guys from your past that did you wrong. I’m not with you for just one thing. Let me love you. Let me take care of you. Let me help you.

Or is that not possible? You told me we should just remain friends. Are you scared of what could happen? Are you scared of getting your heart broken? Because I promise I wouldn’t do that to you.

And I know you also said you’re scared of hurting me, too. Well, it’s too late for that. I could feel my heart drop to my stomach when you said we should just be friends for now. And now what? What am I supposed to do? How am I supposed to fix this? Am I even able to fix this?

I don’t know if I should give you space to let you figure things out, or if I should still show up for you, showing you that I am there for you, that I do care about you, and that I do want you to be happy.

Obviously I care. How could I be this upset over someone who was never even technically mine?

I really hope things work out for us. I know taking a chance is risky, but with high risk comes high reward. If you’re seeing this, I’m asking you to take the chance. I will do whatever I can to make you the happiest you can be, and I know you’d do the same for me since you’ve already shown me how much you like me. We could be something so great, we could be so happy, only if you would open your heart up a little…

This is going to be SP focused. I (23M) have been on many dates with many different women this year. At first, everything is going great, but then it always ends up failing, like a day and night switch. What’s weird is that, in the beginning, they will be borderline obsessed with me. Constantly wanting to see me/spend time with me, kiss me, cuddle me, etc. We have deep conversations. And then suddenly, it just… stops. It’s like they lose interest suddenly. They either want to just be friends or cut contact altogether.

I’m not sure what the problem is, because I would like to think my self concept is pretty good. Years ago, my self concept was horrible, but now I think it’s good. I’ve spent a lot of time on my mental, physical, spiritual, and financial health. I go to therapy, I go to the gym, I work my own schedule, I leave time to do the things that I enjoy. I believe that I would be a good partner to have, especially compared to some of my competition (i.e guys that are players, cheaters, no personality, etc). The only thing that may be off about my self concept is I don’t think I’m “model-status attractive”, but objectively I have to know that I’m at least somewhat attractive because I am able to attract women (I have body dysmorphia, so I don’t really know how I’m perceived).

So why does this keep happening? It’s almost as if things move a little *too* fast, and then it just gets shut down suddenly. Do I just attract people with avoidant attachment styles? How do I stop this? I currently have an SP that I’m trying to fix things with as well, because I really like her, so any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

So I (23M) have been on dates with a few women this year, ages ranging from 20-24. Every single time, the beginning is always amazing. I try to move at the same speed that they set, so that I don’t move too fast or too slow. In the beginning, they always want to see me, be with me, kiss me, cuddle me, etc. But then out of nowhere, the whole vibe just completely shifts. They lose interest and either want to remain just friends or cut contact all together. This has happened multiple times this year, and I’m the type of person who gets very emotionally invested in one person at a time, so to keep forming these bonds and having them suddenly disappear overnight feels like it’s doing damage to my mental health and my nervous system. I’m to a point where I just want to give up on dating altogether, because I can’t keep dealing with this emotional whiplash.

I always try to get to know these women on a deeper level and make them feel comfortable. They’ve always expressed being comfortable with me because they will share with me some very personal and private information, and I am always there to listen. So I’d like to think that I am emotionally intelligent and available. I always try to do nice gestures (buying roses, giving compliments, taking them on dates, etc). If they ever express that they are uncomfortable with anything or something needs to change, I respect it and act accordingly. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. Could you please help me figure it out so that I can break this cycle?

Things that have happened to me (23M) in 2026 alone, in chronological order:

Dad died. Started a great connection with a woman, and then she called it off. Had to sell my car. Cat died. Went on another date with a different woman, who after seeing me in person, said that she didn’t feel any romantic feelings. I’m probably going to lose my health insurance, which means no more therapy or medication. Mom had to go in for a heart procedure, and is going to need open heart surgery, which is causing a lot of stress.

Things were really starting to look up recently when I reconnected with someone I went to high school with. She told me she liked me, we went on dates, everything was amazing. This was the happiest I had been in a long time. and then she broke it off with me. This and my mom’s upcoming surgery are causing me the most grief right now since they are currently ongoing.

Every day I just wake up and go to work, trying to work extra hours to keep up with bills and car repairs and all of life’s expenses. Going to the gym and exercising used to be something I loved, but has become such a chore lately. Everything is a chore. I don’t enjoy anything anymore. I don’t want to eat, I don’t want to play video games, or work on hobbies. I don’t want to sleep, I don’t want to be awake.

And this has just been this year. This doesn’t even scratch the surface of the years of trauma and depression beforehand.

I’m just starting to question what the point is anymore. I’m just not happy. I keep getting knocked down this year. Every time I think it’s going to get better, the rug gets pulled out from underneath me. Every day is just gym, work, sleep, repeat. I’ve stopped eating well. I’m physically hungry but I just don’t have an appetite for anything. I just hate this constant cycle.

If this has to be life, I don’t see the point in living it. I know emotions are high right now since I just got “broken up with” last night, but it’s just the straw that broke the camels back. I’m just done. I’m so done. I don’t feel loved or cared for by anyone. I’m not happy at all. The harder I try, the more I am met with resistance. I’m starting to think things won’t get better, and I’m getting close to just giving up.