I have a doctors appointment on Thursday and I’m kind of freaking out because I am literally extremely poor. I don’t have any income to book an uber or Lyft to get there to the doctors office. It’s the gastro doctor I’m supposed to see on Thursday. I wonder if that maybe the doctor would allow a telehealth visit? I’m having financial hardship issues but I really need to still try to keep going to doctors office while my SSDI claim is pending so the SSA office doesn’t assume my conditions have improved.

I’ve notified my case manager about my insurance issue and he reassured me that the SSA office is aware people can’t see the doctor due to income issues… I’m still worried about it tho. I do have a reasonable accommodation for stating my disabilities and plenty of medical information on my application.. I just have been having issues getting treatment because my employers silly games like cancelling my health insurance without my permission. The last 6 months have been a literal nightmare for me. I tried to pull from my retirement plan as a source of income to cover my rent, + medical bill expenses but my employer refuses to admit target fired me for being sick and they fraudulently left me as “active” in there systems to manipulate the headcount and hide their decision to fire me & before anyone asks, YES I did try to call the company that handles my retirement to clear up the discrepancy but unfortunately they couldn’t help me because they have to have my employer send a ticket in to say I no longer work there anymore. And based off how my employer lied to TWC saying 3 different stories “she quit.” “She went awol and just stop showing up.” To “Can you come back to office? “

i see my employer is a crooked company.. they’re criminals who have no problem committing fraud and they keep trying to get me to go back to work to cover up their fraud even tho I fought hella hard for my job with my toxic manager, it still wasn’t enough. I guess my manager didn’t document my FMLA leave correctly and instead of them emailing me or calling me while I was out sick, they just lied to the state that I quit because my manager lied to everybody at work about my FMLA status. Anyways I digress. It’s just shitty how I’m actually sick and have no means of income to survive and get my medical treatments because my employer is actively manipulating the system to make it seem like they never fired me .. it’s extremely traumatic, frustrating and very exhausting. I can’t get my employer to change the status as they’re stubborn and trying to save their own jobs from what they did to me but I need treatments. And no I cannot hire an attorney for my firing as I’ve stated, I am already extremely poor. I have 2-3 years to sue the company anyway but I have to worry about my health first not fighting with them about my job status.. even tho my employer keeps gaslighting me as if my termination never happened. It’s insane how far they went to hide they fire sick ppl but whatever.. I’m just trying to move forward and deal with my health conditions

I’m going to call the MAP office on Monday because they still haven’t sent me my card. That’s another issue. My previous job decided me becoming disabled was an issue for them & my previous employer committed a whole bunch of drama and fraud & they cancelled my health insurance on me during medical leave when I was supposed to get my iron infusions. It’s been really frustrating because I don’t feel well but I’m living in poverty and don’t have anyone I know who can drive me or take me to see these specific specialists. I’m also not even sure if the doctor I’m going to see on Thursday accepts my health insurance because I made the appointment when I had blue cross blue shield.. so they may not even accept it.

I’m still going to call & try to make arrangements. I just really needed some second opinions or if anybody knows any programs in Texas that would help me as a disabled person find transportation for FREE. If that’s even a thing..

Anyone can send some links or give advice BASED OFF WHAT I JUST TYPED. Once again, I have zero family support to help me out and I’m a single woman needing help so keep that in mind when you’re answering my questions.

Thank you for hearing me out and hopefully I can find a solution to this shitty situation

I got fired from my job on medical leave, I fought for 3 months for unemployment just to get denied 4 times. I am disabled and I have no family I can go live with. I’m fighting an upper respiratory infection right now and I keep crying about my situation. I even applied for SSDI but they also haven’t contacted me yet and now that I may be homeless very soon, I have no way to sign their paperwork if they send it to my address.

I’ve called 2-1-1. Community centers and even the Salvation Army which they put me on the waitlist for. Most organizations tell me they don’t have any funding for the time being to help me out. Luckily tho I have food stamps still so I can use that for food. I know the situation is out of my control but I just keep crying realizing that I may not recover from this for months. I can’t help but feel anxious and depressed about my situation because I have no money to pay my rent when I’ve fought so hard.. this is unbelievable

Hi everyone: I’m 25F and I’ve recently become disabled. I have been diagnosed with severe anemia, IBS and I have a history of other underlying stomach issues. I first started getting really sick when I got a new manager back in March. I ended up having to go to the ER because I had a cyst rupture. I got a chemotherapy treatment because at the time my stomach issues and bowels were so out of control that I lost 9 lbs. I went for 116 to 108 as of now. I also got a Pap smear while i was at the hospital and that’s how they found a left cyst that ruptured on my ovaries. I was just making sure I didn’t have cancer or anything serious like that, the hospital gave me my results weeks later and everything almost came back fine besides having the cyst. They said it would go away on its on and then they gave me some medicine for my stomach called for your IBS.

I ended up taking medical leave in April unpaid. I requested some accommodations for my conditions when I returned to work which Would be a part time schedule due to my ongoing treatment for IV infusion. I didn’t say all of of this because it was my personal info but I did let my manager know I needed to change my schedule because I worked 5/4/9 which was 9 hours a day and her nonstop demanding of me doing more work, she did a lot.

And even know I’m on unpaid leave. She sent me AWOL as if I abandoned my position because she didn’t want to work with me to accommodate my needs. So yea it’s a much longer story but I’ll leave this right here. Just some context to understand. U don’t have to read all of it if it’s a lot.

Anyway unfortunately my disabilities never improved because of my managers ongoing harassment. She have given me false awol notices, when I filed for unemployment, she falsified my wages, she even lied and said I quit and I never asked for accommodations when that’s all not true. I’ve been so stress that my hair is falling out and I have severe insomnia. But in a way her harassment paid in my favor because late last night, I found a company called mine care.com that applied for disability for you. I thought my symptoms were mostly short term but based off what I uploaded, what I told the operator person over the phone, she ended up telling me i needed to be on long term disability.

So I did the application last night, & we did the application together over the phone and signed everything. I’m just waiting for my attorney to contact me about the status so with me being on long term disability in the future, will I need to hold a job down at all?

I’m also asking because I got hired for an at home job but I can’t work it or claim it because I never worked any amount of hours. It’s an insurance agency at home job $750 per client.

Sooo will I need to decline the offer once my long term disability starts so I don’t commit fraud or anything like that or ruin my benefits?

**long detailed description ** Hi I would first start off to say that I’ve been working at this company for 4 years and working in my previous work position for 2. I have stated since I came to the department that I have stomach issues so I may need to go to the bathroom more. Anyways up until recently, my coworker became a new manager and she’s had it out for me for whatever the reason ever since she got this position in management. For one, she’s lazy. She doesn’t work much but talks and gossips about people on the floor all day. I called her out on it. She also sees how I’m a socialistic person at times with my coworkers, I’m very well liked and I’m the top performer in my work area who also works an alternative schedule. I put in the most hours and she’s not only been abusing the fact I’m good at my job and a top performer, she’s been exploiting me to do unrealistic things and stay past my tour of duty with no pay. For one, as a manager, she’s been coming up to me like I’m HER boss, complaining about certain people talking too much, taking long breaks and etc. I told her that what other people in the office isn’t my business and it’s not my job to enforce rules, as i literally don’t have the power to do so. I told her that I didn’t care about her complaints and she needed to take it up with her supervisor as I’m nobody to enforce rules.

Okay after she couldn’t abuse me that way, she started to gaslight me as if I was performing my job poorly. Not only is she’s abusive, she’s also blantly racist. She got upset at what this black female employee was doing (she was stealing company time and disappearing for hours at a time) and the manager tried to pin it on me like I was doing it. I explained to her “I’m not stealing time. I have a medical condition that I already told you which is why I use the bathroom more frequently. Then the manager says “You need to be sitting in your desk 9 hours for your entire work shift.” I told her that she was being ridiculous and that just because she’s a manager she can’t tell me when to and when to not to a break and especially not to take one at all. I said “It’s in the IRM. You can’t make up rules because you want me to do more work.” Also said, Even then, if im ever gone for an extended period of time i will notify you, or I just won’t come in to work. You need to stop being so reliant on me and ask my coworkers to do more work since im obviously impaired and can’t do more.”

She then started interrogating me with invasive creepy, unnecessary questions regarding my disabilities and says in this rude snarky tone “Well what do you have, why do you keep leaving the desk to go to the bathroom?? What’s wrong with you anyway?!” I told her “TO USE THE BATHROOM! And why are you so concerned about my medical history ? That’s none of your business! If you wanna know why don’t you call the hospital and ask them for yourself since you wanna know so bad??” The manager goes “Oh no it’s okay, I don’t need to call them.” I go-“Well apparently you do because I gave you documentation from the hospital and you’re not even taking my word and getting mad because I’m disabled.”

We went back and forth for a bit, and after that I walked away because she was making me extremely uncomfortable and angry. I went to her bosses office and explained my situation and he recommended that I get a Reasonable Accommodation form to fill out. When the manager came up to me later that day to hand me my form, she for some odd reason kept saying “Hey don’t get the RA form.” She tried backtracking as if she didn’t harass me about my medical issues for MONTHS. I told her “Yea I don’t care about what you have to say. I’m getting it signed because you clearly have an issue with me using the bathroom and you’re trying to get me in trouble for it.”

Anyways after that she kept telling me that I can take FMLA leave because of my health issues. I kept getting sick and going to the doctor because of the stress and toxic work environment she not only created but cause, and I took her advice & my doctor also advised I do so. While in that time before I left office, it took me a month and some change to get my RA form filled out but I told her via text that in the meantime she’s gonna have to stop harassing me about my bathroom breaks until then. I’ve been on unpaid medical leave since 4/27/26-She’s STILL kept it going and even while I’ve been on unpaid leave harassing me through coworkers. All because I said I can’t work full time anymore because I have treatments I need to take care of due to my disabilities. Im severely anemic and couldn’t work the 5/4/9 schedule anymore because I had to get treatments.. anyways I blocked my coworker’s phone number so they couldn’t further harass me and reported it to another manager. The coworker gave up.

But My manager then started to send me fraudulent AWOL notices to my place of residence, trying to make it seem like I just walked off my job when in reality she was discharging me due to my request of reasonable accommodations (requesting a part time position). Not did she send me only one notice of AWOL, she sent me MANY. This was on June 6th. So the next day June 7th, I filed for unemployment because I clearly see she’s not trying to accommodate my needs due to my disability and she’s trying to fire me instead…At first when I filed for unemployment benefits, I got denied because they falsely claimed that I only worked $6 a pay period and didn’t make enough for benefits. Yes they seriously put an extremely absurd amount just to avoid paying me. So then submitted an appeal & because I was so flustered and in a bad headspace, I accidentally submitted the wrong W2 form from 2024. Luckily tho an officer from Texas Work Force realized, they called me and said I needed to resubmit the 2025 W2. I did so but somehow my employer STILL lied to TWC and under reported my wages by like $100. I guess TWC investigated that and I got some paperwork that I’m actually supposed to be getting $485 a week not $305 as originally stated.

This was in June. I had another call with a different officer and I was told that the reason they won’t give me benefits is because my employer claimed that I’m still working and actively getting paid: I explained that was entirely false and that I haven’t gotten paid since 4/30/26. Then they asked me some more information like “Did you try to ask for accommodations?” I explained “Yes that’s what the RA form is for. The manager completely disregarded that form but has been marking me as awol and harassing me. AWOL like i jst left and didn’t say anything. She’s supposed to list me as LWOP if anything not AWOL.” Then he asked “Do u have documentation of your disabilities like hospital records you gave to your employer.” I answered “YES AND EVEN THEN SHE STILL DIDNT BELIEVE I WAS SICK.” Unfortunately he wasn’t a great listener and kept talking over me so it was hard to get my point across but eventually he understood or SO I thought he did. Literally the next day, the manager sends me ANOTHER fuckin AWOL notice. I upload it into my portal.

I get another letter in the mail a few days later from TWC, saying they need to verify my identity again so I can receive benefits. I send in my drivers license and my SSN card. After that they call my employer and this time they come up with a different lie! This time they sent me some mail that said I got denied because my employer claimed that I had actually quit due to my disabilities and that they couldn’t give me benefits because they were told i couldn’t work at all. Not only is that completely false and doesn’t make any sense, if they read what I uploaded, in my reasonable accommodation form, it says NOTHING about me being completely incapacitated from working at all. It says that because I have IBS, I need to use the bathroom more often or take longer bathroom breaks. Asking for accommodations isn’t misconduct or quitting..

Even my damn doctor signed off for it & explained that with her phone number listed at the bottom. Instead of looking at the evidence I sent in, They just took my employer’s word even though i uploaded plenty of documentation for them to review over! Also why come they did not question why my employer keeps changing my income? That’s obviously super suspicious and it’s fraudulent to do so! That just shows they’re obviously trying to cover something up-the fact they illegally fired me.

Anyways I digress. I then submit ANOTHER 3rd appeal and I send in the same evidence. My RA form stating my needs with my disabilities, text message proof between me and the manager who’s been trying to cover up the fact she terminated me for my disabilities, my driver’s license, my SSN, and I even sent a picture of my work badge to show that I never left the company. How is she gonna claim that I quit when I NEVER returned company property?? Good luck to her to explain that… I also explained in my appeal how is it possible to be working there but also quit at the same time? I asked TWC to ask my employer for my employee signature where I signed off or an email or text message claiming that I’m leaving the company. I NEVER signed off on a resignation notice as my manager didn’t give me one, nor did I sign the fabrication of the AWOL letters she keeps sending to my apartment. They have NO proof to prove that I quit but they just went off my employers word not realizing there’s so many lies and contradictory statements they’ve claimed about my employment: also the manager is so incompetent and stupid and incase anyone doesn’t understand, FMLA is NOT the same thing as AWOL or quitting. Your job is supposed to remain protected during FMLA leave. She shouldn’t be giving me AWOL at all actually as she’s fully aware of the exact reason why I’m not at work. The manager was just upset that I reported her for not only being racist but discriminating against me for being disabled and asking for an RA form. She’s so narcissistic and controlling!!

I saw glimpses of the Department falling apart and backed up work load due to the fact we’re short staffed because she won’t leave me the fuck alone, and even now she’s been harassing me this entire time during my medical leave for what?? To come back to work and fix the chaos she created?? Or Because I’m taking care of my health and not doing what she wants me to do? She literally gave me permission to take the time off multiple times, and when I did, she started going crazy and retaliating against me like I just abandoned my team! I am disabled and it’s really nothing she can do to control that or do about it! My reasonable accommodation form states I’m clearly disabled.. so now my hair has been falling out due to the stress, I lost 15 lbs and I’m going to get legal assistance because they keep telling TWC all these different lies and I’m already behind on my rent from going to the doctor and her lies… All because she decided she doesn’t like me and wants to continue to abuse her authority of power. I’m ready for the next phone call with TWC if there’s one or I’m hoping they don’t answer so I can receive my benefits because they’re making a very bad impulsive decision to fire me a bigger legal issue and worse than what it already is. Ugh I’m so exhausted from their bs🙄

I’m 25F and I started having a lot of stomach issues in my early twenties. I’ve been to doctor after doctor & they still don’t know entirely what’s wrong with me yet but my doctor did say my symptoms sounds a lot like IBS. I know that bananas, wheat, rye, and breads seem to trigger me a lot. I’m pretty sure I have undiagnosed celiacs disease. I’ve lost weight the past few months because of my stomach conditions. I also take B12 vitamins because I’m anemic.

Anyways, point of saying is that I’m very transparent about my stomach issues when I become friends with someone so they can understand me better . The only annoying thing is people say they “get it” then they recommend all these greasy foods I cannot tolerate or eat. Or they get personally offended that I don’t eat what they eat…? I’m not hindering these people from eating what they want, I just say I’ll have to pass on that due to dietary restrictions. It doesn’t matter how nice I say it either…

Just last night, I was texting a friend of mine and I mentioned hanging out, as in a quick drink and a maybe catching up. I texted him the day prior that I was throwing up and not feeling too well so i honestly wasn’t quite in the mood for dinner quite yet. Well he then sends me a menu- a restaurant that HE wanted to go check out. I was confused by this because I just said in my previous texts that I wasn’t interested in having dinner, & unfortunately the restaurant he recommended won’t work for me due to my diet. I’ll be honest, the place he recommended looked extremely unhealthy to eat but I didn’t judge his decision of place. I just knew right away I’d feel horrible after eating anything from there so why would I eat there just because that’s what HE wants?? I already stated I wasn’t exactly hungry yet and even if I were, that would not be my go to.

Out of no where, he starts getting offended and says “We don’t have to eat anywhere since you don’t like the same things I eat. I can get dinner and you can get dinner before we meet.” I responded back respectfully-“Um I don’t see why you’re offended?? I already stated I wasn’t feeling well and you know I have dietary restrictions.” Then he starts getting more offended/insecure by me rejecting the restaurant and goes “Well last time we went to so and so you had a problem with that.” Which by the way isn’t true. He just felt so attacked by me saying I didn’t want to go to dinner at that ONE restaurant. I say “No I don’t. I’ve been honest about my stomach issues since day one. I can’t eat EVERYTHING that you eat and again, we don’t have to get dinner I said-I just wanted something chill for us to do.” After that he said he “understood” but I know deep down he’s feeling like I’m judging his food choices or being picky. Well he doesn’t have to walk in my shoes or deal with the consequences of me being sick and the last time we hung out, he kept pressuring me to eat at places I didn’t really feel comfortable with because he was SOO HUNGRY.

God it made me feel guilty for having stomach issues and I know he probably doesn’t mean any harm or understands but it’s truly fucking annoying when people think that because I don’t want to eat where there want to eat that I’m judging their lifestyle choices or don’t like what they pick. It makes me just want to be alone and not hang out with people because nobody TRULY gets me unless it’s others with stomach problems.. anyways anyone else have this kind of problem?

I 25f have, been on FMLA leave since the end of April. I was having severe abdominal cramps and stomach issues. This is a bit long but it’ll make sense the more you read.. anyway At the time, our manager kept harassing me for my excessive bathroom usage. It got to the point where she expected me to not use the restroom AT ALL & then she said “
I digress, while all this is going on, my colleague, let’s call her P, was also being harassed. She’s fully aware about my stomach issues and she KNEW the manager was harassing me to the point my body crashed out. I called P before I took my sick leave and I explained her that “I would be out on sick leave for a few months and that I’ll be going to different doctors to make sure I’m healthy but that’s gonna take time.” As in time I mean 2+ months of treatment. Not only do I have IBS, but I’m, severely anemic (probably from my period being heavy & im also super thin) and I think I may have celiac disease too unfortunately. I feel HORRIBLE waking up in the mornings and I had no idea I was anemic.. I also can no longer tolerate bread or anything with yeast or yeast extract. I’ve lost sooo much weight from all of my symptoms and I feel like I’ve been pretty transparent with P (31F) about my situation.

I haven’t spoken to her since the end of April when I called her and said I’d be out on sick leave for a while but I did notice that she texted me twice within the last week. The first text message P sent said something like “Hey I hope you’re doing okay and I miss you.” I responded back a few hours later and said “thank you.” Now maybe I’m reading too into this but i just didn’t feel the need to say “I miss you back.” Because in all honesty, I don’t. When I was trying to get closer to P, she kept having these lengthy loud conversations with different men and when I’d ask her if she’d be open to lunch. She’d be so busy on the phone talking to random guys and different people that’d she’s COMPLETELY forget about me! The first time she did it, I was like “wow you got food already?? What happened to us going together?” Mind you, i even offered to pay for both of us while she drives because I don’t drive. She agreed to it earlier in the morning then just went.

Okay so I try not to be too offended but i definitely noted that. The next week, once again, she does the SAME exact thing. This time I actually totally forgot about it, then she goes “Oh I’m so sorry I forgot that you wanted to get so and so to eat!” I just kind of shrug my shoulders and then it got awkward. I didn’t really have anything to say back to that but I knew she was definitely being a bit odd. I just start going to lunch alone and ordering DoorDash to the job. I’ll be honest, I’ve fell back from P a lot recently. Not only is she kind of odd to me, I don’t agree with a lot of the decisions that she makes. She also made me super uncomfortable, the one and only time we hung out, she had me on the phone talking to different inmates from prison. I thought that was quite strange it made me very uncomfortable. Especially because I have no interest in changing my relationship status anytime soon and she knows this: why is she thinking it’s ok to push a random guy from jail on me??

Long story short, P doesn’t seem very trustworthy to me. She’s married, both her and her partner cheats on each other, she makes poor decisions in partners and I’ve noticed she’s WAYYY TOO male centered. She also “forgets” when we’re gonna go on lunch but she has no problem calling random people and talking to different men through out the day. Honestly i thought she was cool but one week she sat next to me and her constant talking and “forgetting” about our lunch plus the manager harassing me, it made me fall back a lot. I also just got w weird vibe from her over time anyways…

Last thing I’ll say before I close this post up. Now that I’ve been out of office, why is p double texting me?? She literally texted me yesterday at almost 9pm and said “are you okay??” Like GIRL WTF DO U WANT FROM ME?? You literally kept ignoring me in the office to talk to different people, then you kept leaving me for lunch after agreeing to drive us to a restaurant. I’ve already called you a month ago, explaining to you how sick I was, why does she keep double texting??

I only responded back to her message on Wednesday or Thursday but then she texted me 2 days later. I did not respond to that message.

I just feel like it’s odd how now that I’ve been out on leave for a month now, she wants to check in on me?? She wasn’t stopping by my desk or messaging me when we were at work when I was sick?? She was so busy talking to that guy from jail and being sneaky behind her husband’s back when I was working…Why the hell she texting now I’ve been out of work for a while ?? Especially after I already explained that I would be!

Am in the wrong for ignoring her messages and muting her? I’m not gonna respond back to her messages at all because not only do I feel like it’s fake concern, I feel like she’s just asking so she can possibly report back to management.

1-i was nice enough to respond back to her first message but I don’t feel obligated or really comfortable to update her on my well being because one-This is just my personal medical business and I don’t need to explain that to her.

2-we weren’t even that close and actually grew quite apart before I told her about my medical leave

3-I just honestly don’t a connection or feel obligated to respond back to her messages anymore. I’m on leave. If she GENUINELY cared, she could’ve showed it while I was working. I also already said I don’t like being bothered while I’m out sick and I feel like it’s a bit much..

I’m a black 25F. I have been working at my job for 4 years. I started having serious stomach issues when I was 22 years old. I have been in and out of the hospital and visited multiple and numerous doctors for about a year. Anyways I healed my stomach for a bit but my stomach issues never FULLY went away. My stomach issues are complex to understand. I have experienced multiple forms of abuse from my narcissistic parents and family members including emotional abuse,physical abuse, sexual abuse, psychological abuse and I was exposed to physical violence throughout most of my childhood. I went to therapy for my trauma at one point and then had to stop because I just couldn’t afford it and honestly I should go back but I literally live paycheck to paycheck and I can’t afford to have someone hear me vent about my childhood trauma. I am lucky that I didn’t crash out or anything like that although, I’ve been getting physically ill.

Nearly a year ago, I had a major life event occur. My family didn’t support me but that isn’t anything new! This time around tho, I ACTUALLY had a rude awakening. I saw my family for the sick people they truly were and I got bullied by my narc father EVERY SINGLE morning and afternoon for 2 months straight because of a misfortune that happened to me! I went to my sister for help to only find out that that bitch Is sick in the head too. She told me that i “Needed that” as in implying that our father abusing me was justified because it was my fault that he screwed me over. After that phone call, I just felt extremely uncomfortable and decided she wasn’t a safe person to be around.

I ended up staying up an entire 2 days which was bipolar episode I believe, and I used to have those a lot as a kid that my parent’s never got me diagnosed for. That’s how I knew it was truly time for me to get away from these sick people so to protect my own sanity and peace, I cut them all off! That includes my 2 siblings as well (I’m the middle child). I got harassed for months by numerous family members until I had to change my phone number but I am much happier without those people in my life.

Anyways I know that was a lot to read but that’s just so you can understand that my stomach issues are from the severe trauma and stress from my childhood.

Well about a few weeks ago, my manager talked to me in the office complaining to me about what my colleague was doing. For reference, She’s also a young black female. But this coworker does illegal things on the clock like stealing a lot of company time and not being productive or working. I’m talking STEALING TIME like 1-4 hours but she’s probably been gone more often now that we have more work volume. Mind you, this isn’t the first time I got confronted by a manager or lead for her wrong doings. I’ve already reported her for stealing company time and said to management “THAT IS NOT ME STEALING TIME it’s (insert employee’s name)! Go confront her. I have stomach issues which is why I use the bathroom so much and also have an alternative schedule so I take more breaks than everyone.” Even after saying this NOTHING changed. What the managers have been doing to me for MONTHS is they’ve been telling ME what they really want to say to my coworker but they won’t go tell the actual person who is stealing time!!

We haven’t had a permanent manager in over a year as there wasn’t anyone to fill the position so this said employee has been stealing company time like no bodies business with no real consequences or repercussions!!

Now I have an actual manager, I am STILL getting blamed and treated poorly for her wrong doings even despite me explaining the reason behind why I constantly leave my desk. My manager pulled me into the office a couple weeks ago, AGAIN complaining about my bathroom usage and I explain to her the same exact thing and we went back and forth. Then she asks me “well what do u have? If you’re even actually sick..?” I said “excuse me? Are you saying that I’m falsifying my doctor note?” Her-“No but you’re never at your desk.” Me-“Again, I have an alternative schedule so I’m taking my breaks and lunches and if I’m not at my desk, I’m using the bathroom.” Her-“Well you need to be combining your lunch with your bathroom breaks because we NEED you in your seat at all times!” I asked “So you think I need to be sitting for my entire work shift?” Her-“Yes you’re not allowed to go on break, lunch or the bathroom. You need to be in your seat being productive.” Me-“You can’t tell me to not use the bathroom. That’s literally insane. I’m not a child and I don’t need to update you 24/7 about what I’m doing, but since me leaving the area is a big issue Do u want me to use the bathroom at my desk or move my desk closer to the bathroom?” My manager-“No. You don’t need to move closer to the bathroom.” Me-“Ok so then what would you like me to do? And also why do u keep trying to get me in trouble for something I’m not doing. Are you being racist? I think you’re just being racist is what it is.” Then she gaslights me and says “well everyone in the department is complaining about it!” Me-“really? That’s creepy that everyone is so concerned about my bathroom usage. Me going to the bathroom has nothing to do with my volume because I’m fully successful based off what you said last week.” She lies and says I’m not reaching my number and kept going back and forth. I did not feel comfortable after that conversation.

She also didn’t try to defend herself when I called her a racist and after the conversation, I felt like she was going to further escalate the situation. She only cares when it’s a person of color or some minority besides a white person going on break or lunch. Even if we (Black people and minorities) talk to briefly or to ask a question, she gets annoyed by seeing us talk while she and the lead gossips and talk about me and other employees all day long! And at first, I thought it was just in my head but after that conversation in her office, I see how she feels about me truly. I also won’t tolerate her attempts to bully me and create a hostile work environment. She didn’t have an issue with me up until she was given the manager title so obviously she’s on a power trip of some sort.

Anyways, I took my concerns and reported her to her boss. I asked her boss about a reasonable accommodation form and I explain to him that the reason why I’m asking is because I got in trouble for using the bathroom and was told that I’m not allowed to go on any of my breaks or lunches according to management. I also said that I think the manager is being racist by not addressing the person doing the wrong doing because we just both happen to be black and that isn’t fair to me when I’m not doing what I’ve getting accused of.

He looked at me like I had 2 heads and said that he agrees that I do need an RA on file for the bathroom usage. I guess he told the manager about our conversation because later on that afternoon, the manager comes up to my desk with a totally different tone. “Hey you can go to the bathroom as much as you want. You don’t need to fill out an RA form.” I responded with “I don’t care what you say. I’m going to fill it out because it’s obviously a big issue and I’m tired of being harassed for a medical condition that I can’t control.” Manager -“Oh no no no. You’re allowed to go to the bathroom. You don’t have to fill that RA paper out, seriously.” 😁 I just look at her like 😐, then she gets the hint and walks away.

Now despite that conversation, she STILL has been overworking me or having me do stressful task. I got sick with a bad flare up and I’ve been out of office for 2 weeks with what I presume IBS? Not sure exactly what is wrong with my stomach but I’m gonna find out on Monday, April 27th and have them run tests on me.

My question is, why is it now that I’m trying to protect myself by requesting an RA to keep my job, the manager tells me that me going to the bathroom actually an issue at all?? I’m so confused by her statement because obviously it’s an issue if I keep getting addressed about it ? And now that I reported her and want to get on file my stomach issues, she says I don’t need it?