u/brownniteowl_31

have lived in montreal all my life. Getting divorced and waiting for things to end. Had
my life revolve around the wrong person for 10 years so my social life and friendships have dwindled down to nothing now. No kids but In university right now studying english lit and struggling to make friends or just find people to talk/chat with. I’m a great listener and very patient with everything but things do feel overwhelming helpless or a mix of both for me these days.

if anyone can relate, feel free to say hi.

Has anyone taken these two together at the uni level in quebec or other provinces in canada?
what kind if job opportunities would be available after graduation?

what kind of job opportunities were you able to attain after graduation?
In your opinion what volunteer opportunities help land good job positions?

please provide tips and tricks.

33f 46m
Married in Quebec
married since 2017-2025
Separated from 2025-2026
No kids just marital home car and assets in his name and paid by him as well.
I am still in school and not working.

Haven’t seen him in months and it’s been discussed and agreed upon that a joint divorce would be the best for us both. He is a businessman and out of the country. I am uni student still living in Quebec in the marital residence.

I have my first meeting with the lawyer over zoom.
He didn’t specify time date or name yet.
What can I expect to be asked during the meeting.
What topics will be covered.

Someone please explain the process I have to drop my summer course because of a legal and personal matter ( divorce filing/very bad mental health) and wanted to know what I had to do in order

So far this is what I has done in the last 24 hours

I have already stopped attending class
sent my prof and email that has all the details of attendance and what work I’ve handed in.
I have legal proof that I missed the deadline on July 31st
a personal statement ready as well.

In English

How are you taking notes for this class?
How do you listen to him without zoning out or getting too overwhelmed?
Help please!

Yes he’s passionate talkative energetic and well versed in what he teaches but I am struggling with the material
I read the books come to class take notes but still struggle to understand the material..

So I took Engl 250 in fall 2025 and got a terrible grade of C+ and want to redo this for a better grade
What’s the process?

Or is it wiser to let this go and move on to another course? Would like some insight on this please .

I am a uni student and struggling this semester I took a 3 hour evening class which isn’t an issue more of the time but I’m struggling with my notes for a science fiction class

The prof is very passionate, talks a lot and there is no break
I find my self zoning out after 2 hours
I chew gum to stay awake and take a wellness shot when needed but what else can I do to make this work.

How do you take notes in class or at work when you have the habit of zoning out or lose interest.

33f

Every single time and I usually sleep with the ceiling fan on at the lowest setting.
The only time I don’t sweat is if I have the AC on.
It doesn’t matter when or what time of the day or night I fall and wake up.
A thin layer sweat on my forehead, neck, the chest area, between the breasts, and occasionally my back. I don’t wake up drenched or need to change the covers.
If it’s not that then I feel clammy.

Is this considered as night sweats?

I snore when I go to sleep
I have a high BP on most days
I am diabetic

Couldn’t everything be linked to this?

33f

Every single time and I usually sleep with the ceiling fan on at the lowest setting.
The only time I don’t sweat is if I have the AC on.
It doesn’t matter when or what time of the day or night I fall and wake up.
A thin layer sweat on my forehead, neck, the chest area, between the breasts, and occasionally my back. I don’t wake up drenched or need to change the covers.
If it’s not that then I feel clammy.

Is this considered as night sweats?

I snore when I go to sleep
I have a high BP on most days
I am diabetic

Couldn’t everything be linked to this?

33f
Studying and going through divorce
One of the biggest reasons my marriage didn’t work out was bc I wasn’t able to have a child ( multiple losses) and the person in question was the wrong partner for me (bossy controlling verbally abusive cheap, No actual attraction,attention,affection and respect from this end)

Now that I’m on my own I sometimes wonder if I did the right thing by not having kids with him and there is a part of me that wants a child also because everything is over and I’m away from the disrespect and negligence. Brain says yes but the heart says something else. I never wanted my own children because I feared they would inherit my personal attributes like ( terrible in math and science, overly friendly, sentimental, too gentle in spirit, overly talkative, etc) and later grow up to get neglected or exploited by others and preferred adoption or fostered but now I’m fully confused.

Is this just regret on my part or an actual longing for the future.. already going through so much but cannot figure this bit out.

I have it on my scalp and hairline been over a year and not sure how to control it better
can’t afford a doctor or high end meds right now

I have black/brown curly wavy hair
I wear a hijab so my hair isn’t at its best to begin with and am diabetic as well ( could there be a connection to this? not sure)
I have depression and keep my hair short ( stops at the nape of my neck) because hair washing sometimes proves to be difficult esp on the days i struggle to get out of bed and shaves time off/saves product in general

I use Nirozel shampoo and conditioner
I use selsun blue on the days I don’t use the medicated shampoo
Use a shea butter hair mask 1-2x a week
Don’t oil my hair anymore but used coconut-oil onion oil mix in the past
I change my pillow cases weekly

This has been my routine for many months now (6mos) should I be doing something different or use different
What foods/ingredients should I be including for better scalp health/ hair growth
What should I not be doing right now

Not sure how I will be able to handle it
can’t study for that long in between
Currently not working but always looking

Any good napping spots at Concordia?

Asking out of curiosity and need to take courses for fall
Drop the name, subject and overall feedback
Thank you everyone

Summer 2
Engl 224 the creative process

Will this class be held online every day of the week or twice a week
Is it self paced or just replacing an in-person class

Please provide some feedback
I took it and will also changing homes in August and wanted to know how I can set everything up during the move

33f

Symptoms that have been around for almost a year

Feelings of anger grief sadness numbness and rage one at a time and sometimes evrything all at once
Insomnia/ unable to sleep for years
Crying sometimes uncontrollably usually at night or just randomly
Negative thoughts
Suicidal thoughts but never acted on anything
Bed rotting during the day on the days I have no class or appointments
Feeling weak or constantly exhausted
Exhausted after basic tasks like cooking eating showering and housework
No intrest in doing things I used to be good at or like
Anti-social don’t want to meet people parents or family ( but I have good reasons to avoid family/friends)
Chronic migraines
Aches and pain and lots of joint pains ( elbow knee fingers and toes)
High blood pressure 140/100 most readings

Present situation:
In school uni on a part time basis, looking for work, going through divorce, looking for housing, estranged relationship with parents, learning how to drive (bc this is long overdo)

yes i understand these are factors that contribute to depression but what can I do to manage it on the worst days
No I don’t have friends who would be able to help me out with this and nor do i want to burden people with my issues