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She used to love me and to be extremely perfect to me. Bur things got too much intense and she felt overwhelmed and ran away....eventually she blocked me.

To cut off a long story short: 7 months later after the separation, she betrayed me and humiliated me with a girl who hated me by basically laughing at me and calling me pathetic. She was cruel to me and that was horrible cause it created a contrast to who she used to be with me.

I'd like to know if it is possible to manifest her regret, apologyze and change of behavior, or not.

I tried to manifest dettachment and moving on...i tried to manifest the destruction of our energetic chord. But it didn't work and I started to see many many syncronicities (like seeing her name everywhere and in other women or in movies).

Is it possible? If yes, how can I manifest it?

She was 7 months distant from me and my enemy(which I thought it was my friend, it is a woman and she thinks I don't deserve my FA) showed her some screenshots and she called me pathetic and both of them mocked me and laught at me because of my feelings for her and the suffering I was having for the lack of her. Did she really meant this cruelty or is it defensive? because she created distance from me.

She is married and she was afraid that I was showed conversations of us and talking about us to other people (she needs her husband and she doesn't want anyone to find out she cheated on her husband with me)

The Problem is that when we were togheter, she was the opposite: extremely cute and kind towards me, she flirted with me a lot and vice-versa, she seemed to care about my mental health and etc....

I don't know if she lost all the attraction and feelings for me and now thinks I am a loser, of if she still feels but her self-defensive aggresive mechanism was activated.

Please, FA's (specially women) help me to understand that

I've been separated from my Twin Flame for 7 months, and I've noticed a pattern

During the first two months after the separation, I was doing reconciliation Ho'oponopono fairly often (not perfectly every day, but consistently enough) and sometimes visualizing us being together again. During that period, whenever I checked her social media, I would frequently come across songs, likes, or posts that seemed to describe exactly what we were going through: loving someone from a distance, pulling away despite still having feelings, running away with regret, missing someone, emotional separation, and similar themes.

Then I stopped doing reconciliation Ho'oponopono altogether. After that, these synchronicities seemed to fade away and became much less noticeable.

About a month ago, I started doing reconciliation Ho'oponopono again and continued for around 35 days. During that time, the synchronicities seemed to return.

I started randomly encountering her name everywhere. Her name is Lili, and I would suddenly notice names like "Lilian", "Lily" or other variations of her name in unexpected places. Sometimes I would see profiles, usernames, or people with similar names when I wasn't even looking for them.

I also began feeling her presence much more strongly in my thoughts, as if she became more "alive" inside my mind again.

At the same time, songs and entire albums related to themes that mirrored our story seemed to find their way to me and I listened to them like the album "Negative Spaces" from Poppy or the song "Vale" from Black Veil Brides.

Then Lili and my female ex-friend got togheter to humiliate me and Lili even laughted at me with my enemy for being in pain of being humilliated by her.

Because of that, I stopped doing reconciliation's Ho'oponopono and switched to doing Ho'oponopono focused only on healing pain,, negative memories, and emotional wounds between us to make the pain stop and dettach from her.

Despite that I continued seeing her name and thinking about her in unexpected ways.

Today, for example, I went to see Toy Story 5 with my son. One of the characters in the movie is called "Lilypad" (essentially "Lily" as part of the name). It immediately caught my attention because, once again, there was her name appearing unexpectedly.

I know that some people will say this is confirmation bias or selective attention. Others may call it synchronicity.

My question is: Are these Twin Flames' syncronicity? or just selective attention?

My twin flame had betrayed me by mocking me and humilliating with my ex-friend(who turned out to be my enemy). I told that story before BUT

I have a doubt: should I make ho'oponopono for reconciliation? Or for energetic divorce?

I really want her changed: that she apologyze and really regrett what she did, and come back to me changed and blocking my enemy

But, I really don't believe that is gonna happen: she is very proud of herself and don't accept her mistakes so easily. So the other part of me just wanna make the energetic divorce and end our bond once and for all. I am willing to let her go totally if that's the case

I don't know what to do: which ho'oponopono should I do?

And another question: will she come back? What do you guys think?

Guys, I really need your thoughts and opinions about this:

We knew each other in our worst moments of our lives: she was struggling brutally against a rare disease caused by a doctor's accident and this caused her to stay 3 years without being able to walk and face extreme pain everyday, while I was completely broke and heart broken.

When I saw her and her condition....even before I think "she's cute", I really felt her pain and I admired her courage to face all that and still be positive and trying to help other people who were facing similar problems as hers, and I felt i was being a pussy for complaining about my life and being depressed and I also felt a lot of compassion to her

So I decided to follow her, talk to her and donate for her surgery and we started to talk a little bit. At the beggining (the first 7/8 months) we talked just once or twice per week...sometimes monthly, but those were all good talkings and the more we knew each other, the more we saw we were very similar: both of us were melancholics(temperance), introverts, traumatized, liked animes, RPG games and heavy metal, and both of us believed in Law of Attraction and manifestation as a whole.

Then, after her surgery and after I healed myself from heartbroken and started to manifest more money and started to vibrate more positive: we started to talk more and once she listened to my voice, she loved my english, my accent and when I sang to her at the first time (I dunno how to sing, but I love singing and I wanna learn how to sing someday), she completely loved and call it hot.

She was the first person and girl in all of my life until nowadays that liked my voice and my singing, and after that we started to talk everyday, listening to music togheter, singing to each other, listening to each other's voice messages. Within the next 3/4 months, we got closer and fell in love with each other, despite she is married and had other options (famous model men desired by other women....and also famous and rich men), she completely fell for me in that time and got attached to me:

We shared dreams togheter and life plans and we were very compatible. Our dreams and life plans matched perfectly. And she was the first girl and the girl who got attracted to me the most, she loved my lips, eyes etc....basicly all my body (despite I am a bit fat) and her physical appearance is also exactly what I always dreamed in a woman. Her personality(at least, the good parts of it) was exactly the same I've always dreamed my future wife to have.

And, despite I am poor, single father and still lived with my mom and broke twice: she fell in love with me and believed me and supported me when literally nobody else did, despite she's a famous model with money and living in a first world country (while I am here in Brazil). She healed myself from myself hatred and praised me a lot and kinda took care of me and made me cry relieved or blushing too many times. She supported me in every dream I had.

BUT, then I found out she's FA and started to ghost me, to ask for distance and I acted mature at first....but she did more and more and I started to chase her. To cut off a long story short: she blocked me and we've been 7 months distant from each other.

I tried contact 3 times with 3 fake profiles and got blocked. Then, after my ex-friend(a girl) decided to show her prints showing that I talked about us to this ex-friend and with a lot of bad screenshots and told her a lot of shit about me, and this false friend showed me a screenshot of their conversation showing the she(my TF) called me "pathetic" and they started to mock me and humilliate me in the chat while this false friend kept showing her our messages of how bad and sad I was because my "TF" was basicly humilliating and mocking me with my enemy and acting like if she were my enemy. I used a fourth fake profile and tried to talk to her without hostility, asking if she really thinks that I am pathetic and promising that I would let her in peace forever and that I just needed her answer and to know the truth. Well, she never answered me and blocked me for the 4th time.

This destroyed me.

So, here are the questions: Is she a real Twin Flame or simply False Twin Flame Fearful Avoidant? Will she come back?

because sometimes I think we are Twin Flame, sometimes I think we are not, because she should never humiliate and mock me with my enemy (even if the enemy showed bad screenshots of me and created a whole narrative, my TF chosed to attack me and knew that I was getting very hurt and she surely knew that I would be traumatized with that, because she knew I had a very idealized and pure image of her).

Well, thank you in advance for your comments and sorry for lots of texts.

I just need answers :(

I would like some honest opinions from people who identify as Fearful Avoidant or who have experience with FA attachment dynamics.

I had a very intense emotional connection with someone who identified as Fearful Avoidant. We talked about the future, living together, and both felt there was something unusually deep and meaningful between us. However, after things became more emotionally intense, she became overwhelmed, pulled away, ghosted me, and eventually blocked me multiple times. We've now been in no contact for several months.

Recently, someone I considered a friend showed her private conversations I had about her. According to what I was told, she read them, laughed, and called me "pathetic" while talking to that friend. I felt deeply humiliated, betrayed, and discarded. When I later tried to contact her, she blocked me again.

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My question is not whether she will come back.

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My question is this:

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For those who are Fearful Avoidant, or who have experience with FA attachment dynamics:

If so:

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Or, in your experience, does this level of disrespect usually suggest that the person had already emotionally detached and no longer care and have no attraction anymore?

I'm not looking for false hope. I'm currently focusing on healing, detachment, and my own growth. I would just genuinely appreciate hearing honest perspectives from people who understand Fearful Avoidant attachment.

Hi Guys. First of all: thank you for your answers in my last post and I intend this one to be the last for a good while.

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I am deeply stuck trying to process the end of a long-distance connection that completely shattered me. For a long time, I thought this person was my Twin Flame. The initial bond was incredibly intense—she showed me deep love and support when I had absolutely nothing(being single father, poor, living with my mom, traumatized, but with a lot of dreams). She is the woman the most complimented and praised me(my beauty, voice etc....) in all of my life, and she believed in me, in my dreams and in the man I could become when nobody else(sometimes, neither myself) did.

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She looked like the most perfect woman ever for me. I didn't expect a shit and the exactly my type appeared in my life and did all that.

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Through her, I started to heal my core wounds and became aware of my anxious attachment style.

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To give you some context on her: She is a Fearful Avoidant, works as an international model/cosplayer, and was raised by a severely narcissistic mother. She is currently stuck in an unhappy marriage that she protects for stability, and she spends most of her days isolated due to a painful post-surgery recovery. She always claimed to be a "people-pleaser."

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Things fell apart when she suddenly started ghosting me. My anxious attachment kicked in, and I chased her hard. In response, she asked for space and blocked me. Over the following months, unable to cope with the silence, I tried reaching out to her a few times using fake profiles, but I was blocked every single time.

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We have now been separated for 7 months. During this separation, a brutal betrayal happened. A former friend of mine (who turned into an enemy) showed her screenshots of me venting and making assumptions about our connection.

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Instead of just ignoring it, she teamed up with this enemy to publicly mock and humiliate me, calling me "pathetic" behind my back. When I found out, I created another fake profile to confront her about it—not to cause a fight, but simply to understand why she would say such a thing. Her only response was to block me for the fourth time. Later, she even had that enemy spy on me to see if I still kept screenshots of our old loving conversations.

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When I previously tried to address her behavior, she accused me of trying to "guilt-trip" her, claiming I was acting exactly like her narcissistic mother and that she would never allow that again.

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My questions to the community are: Does a true Twin Flame Runner ever conspire with an enemy to actively mock, humiliate, and crush the Chaser's ego like this?

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Is this a radical divine mirroring of my deepest wounds of rejection and shame, or are these clear indicators of a Narcissistic Bond / Trauma Bond disguised as a spiritual connection?

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How do you differentiate an intense, painful relationship meant for teaching self-worth from a purely abusive cycle?

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Do you guys think is this a false twin flame or is it a Twin Flame?

I would like some honest opinions from people who identify as Fearful Avoidant or who have experience with FA attachment dynamics.

I had a very intense emotional connection with someone who identified as Fearful Avoidant. We talked about the future, living together, and both felt there was something unusually deep and meaningful between us. However, after things became more emotionally intense, she became overwhelmed, pulled away, ghosted me, and eventually blocked me multiple times. We've now been in no contact for several months.

Recently, someone I considered a friend showed her private conversations I had about her. According to what I was told, she read them, laughed, and called me "pathetic" while talking to that friend. I felt deeply humiliated, betrayed, and discarded. When I later tried to contact her, she blocked me again.

My question is not whether she will come back. My question is this:

For those who are Fearful Avoidant, or who have experience with FA attachment dynamics:

• Have you ever seen a Fearful Avoidant act in a cruel, mocking, or humiliating way toward someone they once genuinely cared about?

If so:

• Was it a defense mechanism, anger, shame, emotional overwhelm, or something else?
• Did they later become aware of the pain they caused?
• Did they ever regret their behavior?
• Did they apologize or try to make amends?
• Have you ever seen an FA return later with more maturity, empathy, and respect after acting this way?

Or, in your experience, does this level of disrespect usually suggest that the person had already emotionally detached and no longer cared?

I'm not looking for false hope. I'm currently focusing on healing, detachment, and my own growth. I would just genuinely appreciate hearing honest perspectives from people who understand Fearful Avoidant attachment.

I would like some honest opinions from people who identify as Fearful Avoidant or who have experience with FA attachment dynamics.

I had a very intense emotional connection with someone who identified as Fearful Avoidant. We talked about the future, living together, and both felt there was something unusually deep and meaningful between us. However, after things became more emotionally intense, she became overwhelmed, pulled away, ghosted me, and eventually blocked me multiple times. We've now been in no contact for several months.

Recently, someone I considered a friend showed her private conversations I had about her. According to what I was told, she read them, laughed, and called me "pathetic" while talking to that friend. I felt deeply humiliated, betrayed, and discarded. When I later tried to contact her, she blocked me again.

My question is not whether she will come back. My question is this:

For those who are Fearful Avoidant, or who have experience with FA attachment dynamics:

• Have you ever seen a Fearful Avoidant act in a cruel, mocking, or humiliating way toward someone they once genuinely cared about?

If so:

• Was it a defense mechanism, anger, shame, emotional overwhelm, or something else?
• Did they later become aware of the pain they caused?
• Did they ever regret their behavior?
• Did they apologize or try to make amends?
• Have you ever seen an FA return later with more maturity, empathy, and respect after acting this way?

Or, in your experience, does this level of disrespect usually suggest that the person had already emotionally detached and no longer cared?

I'm not looking for false hope. I'm currently focusing on healing, detachment, and my own growth. I would just genuinely appreciate hearing honest perspectives from people who understand Fearful Avoidant attachment.

I would like some honest opinions from people who believe in the twin flame journey.

I was the chaser and she was the runner. We had a very intense emotional connection, talked about the future, living together, and both felt there was something very unusual and profound between us. After she became overwhelmed, she ghosted me and eventually blocked me multiple times. We've been in no contact for several months.

Recently, someone I considered a friend showed her private conversations I had about her. According to what I was told, she read them, laughed, and called me "pathetic" while talking to that friend. I felt deeply humiliated, betrayed, and discarded. When I later tried to contact her, she blocked me again.

My question is not whether she will come back. My question is this:

In your understanding of the twin flame journey, have you ever seen genuine runner/chaser connections where the runner acted in a cruel, mocking, or humiliating way toward the chaser and later regretted it?

If so:

• Did the runner eventually become aware of the pain they caused?
• Did they apologize?
• Did they return with more maturity and respect?
• Or is this level of disrespect usually considered a sign that the connection was never Twin Flame at all?

I'm looking for honest answers, not false hope. I'm currently focusing on healing, detachment, and my own growth, but I would genuinely like to see your thoughts on my story