hi all! my boyfriend mitch died almost two years ago. his brother has had his phone and hasn’t been able to turn it on until yesterday. none of us are sure what his password was, is anyone able to tell? thank you so much
my bf and i have been dating for about 5 months. my bf has a younger brother who he’s very close with and a younger sister. ive known his family since i was very young and i was best friends with his sister. when i told her me and her brother/my bf were talking, it really upset her (she started telling everyone i used her to get close to him). anyway his younger brother has been dating this girl for about 4 years (we’ll call her bailey). we were pretty decent friends until all of that happened and his whole family completely turned on me. bailey completely unadded me on everything and it got back to me recently that she’s been saying some pretty disgusting, hurtful things about me and my boyfriend, and i’ve shared this with my boyfriend. i asked my boyfriend to remove her on snapchat, he says he won’t because whenever his brother gets drunk he loses his phone and through bailey is the only way he can get in contact with him, however they have each other’s numbers so that’s untrue. we’ve argued about it and it’s still bothering me. i honestly don’t know if i can continue this relationship. i love my boyfriend very much but it’s very heavy that his entire family dislikes me and i also feel extremely disrespected by bailey as well as the fact that he won’t unadd her. it definitely strikes an insecurity in me, because i am not welcome over to their house or events the same way bailey is ever since we began dating.
tl;dr my boyfriend’s brothers girlfriend has been spreading terribly rumors about us, and i’ve asked him to but my bf won’t unadd her on Snapchat bc whenever his brother is drunk he loses his phone and can only contact him through her (but they have each other’s numbers so this is not true!!!) very upset and bothered by this.
i hope i included all relevant information and context in here, if not i will make edits and clarify in comments/replies. advice and opinions welcome. thank you ☺️
my (21f) boyfriend (22m) have been together for five months. i love him very much and we get along good, but i notice something bothering me a lot that i haven’t voiced.
i graduated from college in may, im working a part time job for the summer, and im taking my boards at the end of august.
my boyfriend had a full time job two years ago, but he was in a really bad accident that totaled his car and left him with severe back issues. since then, he hasn’t worked an “official” job though he does work on cars and yard work and other side jobs occasionally, he and his brother have shared a car since this accident.
he’s voiced before that he feels behind in life especially compared to me. he has spoken of different things he wants to do, there’s a bird sanctuary near us that does paid summer internships but he missed the deadline to apply by literally one day because we found out about it late.
i know he can’t help the situation that he’s in but it feels like he’s not doing much to get himself out of it. i do most of the driving, he never takes me out on dates, he can’t even afford to buy me ice cream half the time. which relationships are not at all solely about money but i know that i want to be with someone who is able to provide for themselves and me. i have made an effort to get a good education and secure a career for myself. we were raised very different though, my parents raised me with education and work ethic being important and his parents did not.
after five months literally nothing has changed with him in this aspect of his life from when we first started dating. like i said, i love him, but i cannot see myself in this situation for much longer. i haven’t voiced this before but i know i have to if i want anything to possibly change at all. how do i go about this in the kindest way possible? i dont want him to feel judged. i just know our lifestyles will not be compatible if nothing changes. thank you so much!
my (21f) boyfriend (22m) have been together for five months. i love him very much and we get along good, but i notice something bothering me a lot that i haven’t voiced.
i graduated from college in may, im working a part time job for the summer, and im taking my boards at the end of august.
my boyfriend had a full time job two years ago, but he was in a really bad accident that totaled his car and left him with severe back issues. since then, he hasn’t worked an “official” job though he does work on cars and yard work and other side jobs occasionally, he and his brother have shared a car since this accident.
he’s voiced before that he feels behind in life especially compared to me. he has spoken of different things he wants to do, there’s a bird sanctuary near us that does paid summer internships but he missed the deadline to apply by literally one day because we found out about it late.
i know he can’t help the situation that he’s in but it feels like he’s not doing much to get himself out of it. i do most of the driving, he never takes me out on dates, he can’t even afford to buy me ice cream half the time. which relationships are not at all solely about money but i know that i want to be with someone who is able to provide for themselves and me. i have made an effort to get a good education and secure a career for myself. we were raised very different though, my parents raised me with education and work ethic being important and his parents did not.
after five months literally nothing has changed with him in this aspect of his life from when we first started dating. like i said, i love him, but i cannot see myself in this situation for much longer. i haven’t voiced this before but i know i have to if i want anything to possibly change at all. how do i go about this in the kindest way possible? i dont want him to feel judged. i just know our lifestyles will not be compatible if nothing changes. thank you so much!
tl;dr
how do i bring up the issue of my boyfriend not working in a nonjudgmental way? i can’t see myself with him if nothing changes
my (21f) boyfriend (22m) have been together for five months. i love him very much and we get along good, but i notice something bothering me a lot that i haven’t voiced.
i graduated from college in may, im working a part time job for the summer, and im taking my boards at the end of august.
my boyfriend had a full time job two years ago, but he was in a really bad accident that totaled his car and left him with severe back issues. since then, he hasn’t worked an “official” job though he does work on cars and yard work and other side jobs occasionally, he and his brother have shared a car since this accident.
he’s voiced before that he feels behind in life especially compared to me. he has spoken of different things he wants to do, there’s a bird sanctuary near us that does paid summer internships but he missed the deadline to apply by literally one day because we found out about it late.
i know he can’t help the situation that he’s in but it feels like he’s not doing much to get himself out of it. i do most of the driving, he never takes me out on dates, he can’t even afford to buy me ice cream half the time. which relationships are not at all solely about money but i know that i want to be with someone who is able to provide for themselves and me. i have made an effort to get a good education and secure a career for myself. we were raised very different though, my parents raised me with education and work ethic being important and his parents did not.
after five months literally nothing has changed with him in this aspect of his life from when we first started dating. like i said, i love him, but i cannot see myself in this situation for much longer. i haven’t voiced this before but i know i have to if i want anything to possibly change at all. how do i go about this in the kindest way possible? i dont want him to feel judged. i just know our lifestyles will not be compatible if nothing changes. thank you so much!
hi all!!
my boyfriend and i have been together for about fivw months but we have known each other since we were younger. i cry a lot, i am super emotional. i will mention that i have borderline personality disorder but i have been in intensive therapy and dbt for three years as well as being on medication, so it’s definitely a factor but not nearly as huge. i cry pretty easily. i always cry when we watch a movie together, when that happens he’ll giggle a little because it’s no serious and sometimes hold me.
but today we were in the car and we’d had a small argument a little before and i was still shaken up from it so i went quiet. after some time he asked me what was wrong. i broke down crying and told him. he said “we can worry about that later, right now you just focus on driving and keeping us safe on the highway” and i felt so dismissed. he’s a sweetheart, he’s very caring and thoughtful, but not comforting at all and that is 100% a need of mine in a relationship. im not asking that he’s perfect and knows all of the right things to say, im just asking for a little comfort. we’re in the middle of texting about all of it right now, he’s saying he thinks this is something that can be fixed, but how do i go about that? is this rlly something that can be fixed or are we just completely incompatible ?
tl;dr
my boyfriend is not comforting at all and i am an emotional gal who needs comforting. is this the end of our relationship or can it be solved?
thank you so much
hi all!!
my boyfriend and i have been together for about fivw months but we have known each other since we were younger. i cry a lot, i am super emotional. i will mention that i have borderline personality disorder but i have been in intensive therapy and dbt for three years as well as being on medication, so it’s definitely a factor but not nearly as huge.
i cry pretty easily. i always cry when we watch a movie together, when that happens he’ll giggle a little because it’s no serious and sometimes hold me.
but today we were in the car and we’d had a small argument a little before and i was still shaken up from it so i went quiet. after some time he asked me what was wrong. i broke down crying and told him. he said “we can worry about that later, right now you just focus on driving and keeping us safe on the highway” and i felt so dismissed. he’s a sweetheart, he’s very caring and thoughtful, but not comforting at all and that is 100% a need of mine in a relationship. im not asking that he’s perfect and knows all of the right things to say, im just asking for a little comfort. we’re in the middle of texting about all of it right now, he’s saying he thinks this is something that can be fixed, but how do i go about that? is this rlly something that can be fixed or are we just completely incompatible ?
tl;dr
my boyfriend is not comforting at all and i am an emotional gal who needs comforting. is this the end of our relationship or can it be solved?
thank you so much
hi everyone! i just graduated last week, im taking the summer to study for my boards and planning to take them in the fall. i only have a few tattoos, all of which are covered by my clothes, but ive been wanting to get my ears tattooed as well as my hands. is this something that could affect my chances of getting a job? i know it differs from hospital to hospital, area to area. i live in ohio so pretty conservative area but i know at nationwide children’s in columbus they actually encourage tattoos because the kids like them! i am not looking to work at a hospital, there are a few pulmonary rehab centers i have in mind, not sure if that matters. thank you all!
only recently got into shoegaze and fucking w these songs soooo heavy
happy days are here again - starflyer59
sweet - feeble little horse
undress - pretty sick
jadakiss - they are gutting a body of water
leave - whirr
i love that these songs are “heavier” (idk if that’s the right word) !!! thank you :) <3
hi everyone!!! i’m 21 and getting my tonsils out june 17. i housesit and pet sit pretty regularly and a client asked if i could sit for them june 18. i would stay overnight (basically live there lol) and all it would entail is feeding her dogs and letting them out. would this be too much or would it be feasible ? my parents said if i don’t feel well enough they’ll be over to help me if i decide to sit 🥰 what do you think? thanks so much!