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I thought an arranged marriage would be the best bet for me, but screening biodatas feels so superficial.

It’s so transactional, and I don’t blame anyone because the whole process is designed in a way that makes you feel like you’re comparing a checklist of a product, and not a person on the other side.

Dating apps are not for me either. I’m not social enough to go meet random strangers. Plus, the intent is often unclear - is it a date to marry or just random timepass?

At this point, it feels a little hopeless to find someone.

But changing my personality just to meet more people feels exhausting and, honestly, a little desperate. And I don’t think I’m there yet.

Anyone who can relate? Or was in a similar situation and figured out a way around it?

For context: 30F, Delhi based, have a corporate career

Hi! I am planning to visit nainital recently with family for 3-5 days.

Can someone guide on the itinerary/stays?

Cab prices too? Should I book after reaching there or book for all days in advance.

I feel like the protests will escalate. What do you think?

Lost my father recently all of a sudden. Been a few months and I am so fed up with everything.

Firstly It feels so unfair that he has to go so soon n without any warning. Just gone like that. Despite being such a kind person.

With time, I can see how insensitive everyone is. I am surprised by how ignorant some people we have grown up with has turned towards us. His closest friends were found nowhere.

Acquaintances stepped up and random people helped us more than them.

On top of it relatives are a massive disappointment. I don’t understand why do people who owe us money and don’t repay it on their own start flipping the moment you ask them to. What is this entitlement and what’s with people acting like victims even in the lowest phase of our life lol.

On top of it, the stupid rishtas which have started coming in. Every random person just want me to get married lol. And the rishtas are for some abla woman, not someone who has worked hard to build a career for herself.

Just a rant post, not expecting anything. Just wanted to vent it out somewhere.

Hi! 👋

Giving Reddit another shot because you never know.

About me:

30F, based in Delhi NCR

168 cm

MBA, working at a US-based MNC

Financially independent (30% tax bracket)

General category

Pure vegetarian

Want kids

I'm an introvert who prefers meaningful conversations over loud parties. I don't drink or smoke and would ideally like someone with a similar lifestyle. I'm ambitious, career-driven, and value people who are equally serious about their goals. I haven't travelled as much as I'd like, but I'd love to explore the world with the right person.
I value honesty, kindness, emotional maturity, and consistency over grand gestures.

Looking for:

28–34 years old; Taller than me

Based in Delhi NCR or open to relocating here

Educated, financially responsible, and ambitious

30% tax bracket as well

Non-smoker, non-drinker, and preferably vegetarian

Looking for a serious relationship leading to marriage in max 2 years

Emotionally mature, respectful, and a good communicator

Dealbreakers:

Smoking, Drinking

Height (shorter, similar won’t work)

Casual relationships/hookups

Showing off

Chronic people-pleasing

Lack of ambition

Child-free

If this resonates with you, feel free to send me a message with a brief introduction about yourself. Looking forward to connecting with someone who's genuinely seeking a meaningful partnership.

30F. Am I being unreasonable for having a location preference of Delhi while looking for a partner?

My family and career are based here, and staying close to my parents is important to me.

I'm not expecting someone to already live in Delhi, but I'd prefer someone who either lives here or genuinely wants to settle here.

Some people have told me I'm being too restrictive, so I'm wondering if this is an unreasonable expectation or a fair compatibility criterion.

Would love to hear your perspective, especially from people who've gone through the arranged marriage process.

30F. Am I being unreasonable for having a location preference of Delhi while looking for a partner?

My family and career are based here, and staying close to my parents is important to me.

I'm not expecting someone to already live in Delhi, but I'd prefer someone who either lives here or genuinely wants to settle here.

Some people have told me I'm being too restrictive, so I'm wondering if this is an unreasonable expectation or a fair compatibility criterion.

Would love to hear your perspective, especially from people who've gone through the arranged marriage process.

My dad is no more, had a sudden cardiac arrest.

One of his real brothers owes us money and we expected him to come forward to acknowledge and let us know when does he plan to repay.

He didn’t. We called and he acknowledged but the amount is not matching. I didn’t argue much. Post the call, his family stopped calling us for well-being. We had to again remind them after 3 months of silence.

Recently his son paid some amount and we expected more to come. Yet absolute silence.

I am pissed at the number of reminders we have to send them.

If they can’t repay upfront, atleast communicate clearly.

I got to know they are offended by the calls and being sour about it. Am I wrong in it?

For clarity: I have been respectful and gave reminders at regular intervals (2-3 months). It’s been over 6 months with this hide and seek. I have some loans to repay with that money and I was upfront about it.

Additionally, my dad asked him to repay it last year n he dodged then. So it’s not like we have started asking for it all of a sudden.

I feel anxious if I am the wrong here. Is 6 months not a good enough timeline? They are buying flats, cars and don’t seem to be having any financial trouble.

Same as title. I saw a poster on Instagram. Anyone who has been to such events or planning to go?

It is really hard to find someone within our community. Are there any Rajput matrimony groups?

It is really hard to find someone within our community. Are there any Rajput matrimony groups?

I got so overwhelmed by the process in just a few months that I have deleted the matrimony profiles.

I believe the AM process just makes you overwhelmed n leads to burnout. So done with reiterating my basic details to everyone.

Probably will focus on my health n goals n rethink after 6 months.

Anyone else? 🤣

Considering ICICI prudential ismart plus, upto 65 years. Coverage of 2 cr.

Premium: ₹16,873, Age=30F

Any advise? Anything to look out for?

I previously posted about FIRE goals and how much % one has achieved specially for folks in their 30s.

When you say your corpus is XX amount, do you include your networth (assets, PF, everything) or just liquid/invested money?

Curious where people in their 30s stand:

1. What's your FIRE target corpus today?
2. How did you arrive at that number?
3. Roughly how close are you (% of target)?
4. Has your target changed over the years? If yes, what caused it?
5. Anyone here who gave up on FIRE altogether? What changed your thinking?

Not looking for perfect answers or flexes. Just interested in hearing real experiences and whether people still see FIRE as achievable in today's environment.

Curious where people in their 30s stand:

1. What's your FIRE target corpus today?
2. How did you arrive at that number?
3. Roughly how close are you (% of target)?
4. Has your target changed over the years? If yes, what caused it?
5. Anyone here who gave up on FIRE altogether? What changed your thinking?

Not looking for perfect answers or flexes. Just interested in hearing real experiences and whether people still see FIRE as achievable in today's environment.

I don’t drink/smoke and have a similar preference. Some folks just lie about their drinking/smoking habits on the matrimony apps and it’s actually frustrating.

Why would you lie instead of being honest! It’s okay if preferences don’t align. Let the other person take the call.

I was browsing through JS and noticed that many profiles have casual, blurry, or poorly shot photos - side poses, car selfies, and no proper headshots.

If you're looking for a life partner through an app, it’s worth putting a little effort into your profile and photos. Clear, well-presented pictures can make a much better first impression.

Home loan guidance

I have a 50 lakh home loan starting Nov’25 for 15 years. I don’t own a credit card or have any loan or debt so my cibil was 712 at that time. Initially the rate of interest was 7.8%, they asked me to make my dad as co-owner of the loan and the interest rate was revised to 7.6% after a month.

My dad passed away in Dec’25. I was the primary financer so it doesn’t change anything in terms of emi payment.

My interest rate is fixed I believe and won’t change.

My friend told me the current rate is lower and I should now ask for revision. I plan to pre-pay the loan but due to the sudden demise of my father, I think it will take longer time than initially we planned to.

Can you please guide? I have contributed 1.3 lakhs apart from EMI so far.

Question:

1. Should I pay lump-sum or on the go towards loan prepayment?
2. I have exhausted my savings because of all the expenses post my dad’s sudden demise and the downpayment for the house. Should I build a corpus or work towards pre-payment?
3. I have some amount in SIPs and EPF is untouched too. Should I break it and pre-pay?

Context: 30F, 30% tax bracket. Plan to get married in next 2 years (need some funds for that)

Hi! Looking at the bizarre things happening around. I think the bare minimum filter now needs to be to marry someone who doesn’t believe in monetary exchange of any sorts in the name of rituals and marriage.

I am a 30 yo corporate professional based out of Delhi NCR. If our values align, let’s talk over DMs.

Looking for:

Age: 29 - 33
Caste: General
Height: 5’10 and above
Financially sound
Non-drinker or smoker preferred