u/chasing_med

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I’m 21M. I met to her in 2019, when we were in 9th grade. Initially it was just a crush, but over the years it became much deeper for me.

Eventually, one of my friends told her that I liked her, and we started talking. We developed a really good friendship. We had conversations, jokes, birthdays, picnics, photos and a lot of memories together. For me she slowly became someone I imagined spending my entire life with—not just a girlfriend, but a life companion and someone I imagined building a family with.

At one point in 2024, her aunt caught us talking and told her not to talk to me. She initially followed that and stopped talking, but somehow things became normal again after around 4–5 days.

Then, about a month later, she suddenly blocked me and unfollowed me. I later found out through a friend that there had been another family issue. She apparently also told her friend that I had created problems in her life.

That broke me badly.

After a few months, she unblocked me. Eventually we became normal acquaintances/friends again, and recently we've even had some normal conversations.

But here's where I'm struggling.

I cannot emotionally handle being "just a friend" with someone I imagined my whole life with.

I know she doesn't owe me a relationship. I also know I may have made mistakes, especially being possessive and emotionally over-involved. I'm willing to accept my mistakes and improve.

But despite knowing all this logically, I can't let go.

I've started noticing things in myself that I don't like:

- Deliberately checking/stalking her social media and online activity.

- Looking for excuses or ways to talk to her.

- Overanalysing her replies, comments and interactions with other people.

- Getting extremely jealous when I see other guys interacting with her.

- My mood depends heavily on whether she replies to me.

- I've even started influencing my career decisions because of her. For example, she's considering CA, and I've started thinking about CA too, partly because I imagine it might give us another connection. I'm still continuing B.Tech, but I know this isn't a healthy reason to choose a career.

- Most importantly, I've neglected my own studies and life while holding onto the hope that somehow things will become normal between us.

I don't hate her. I don't even want to erase the memories. The time we spent together, the conversations, birthdays, jokes, picnics and everything else will probably always mean something to me.

But I'm exhausted.

One part of me still thinks maybe the family situation was the reason everything went wrong and maybe things could eventually become normal. Another part of me knows that she has moved on with her life and that I cannot keep waiting for something she hasn't promised.

The hardest part is that even 1% hope is enough for me to keep holding on.

I genuinely don't know whether I should completely let go, maintain a normal friendship, or tell her honestly how deeply I still feel and then accept whatever answer I get.

I'm also considering seeing a therapist/psychiatrist because this is affecting my studies, daily life and mental peace.

I'm posting because I want to hear from people who have actually experienced something similar.

How did you cope with loving someone for years when they didn't feel the same way? How did you stop stalking/checking their social media, deal with jealousy and memories, and rebuild your own life?

Please be brutally honest. I don't need "just move on"—I want to know how people actually did it.

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Going through the toughest part of life... From family issues to health issues to love life issues. When I was in 10th in 2021, I had a crush on my classmate; we were not even friends during that time. But after 11th we became friends through a mutual friend and her girlfriend. In 2023 her friend told her that I liked her, and boom, my life changed or became more complicated, I don't know... We spent lot of good time together, latenight talks, memories Everything was going good, but suddenly How her aunt knows about us, we don't know; she took her phone, scolded her, and told her to not talk with me, and even she threatened our mutual friend. She even created a misunderstanding in her family some thing inappropriate. But after some days everything again got Better we started talking again, but in March her replies getting changed. She was not responding well and suddenly She disconnected all contact and blocked me without saying me anything. She told her friend That her parents not want that she even talk to me. From that day till now, she might get out from this, but I got stuck in this loop; I just stalk her on Insta, Snap, and WhatsApp but can't even talk. We only wish each other happy birthday, nothing more... Now it's giving me pain to see this situation seeing her Behaviour, late night online my all happiness is gone. I don't have many things to be happy about. In middle of that my family condition is become toxic; there's no good relation with my father; he always abuses my mom. I am doing my education with money from selling land. Father & society treat my mother like she did a crime to give me money for my education after selling land. Now these things become unbearable; I am not even able to focus on my study, I am stuck between those things...I don't know. What I do know 😭