u/chayton_02

Some background. I have been seeing a girl for about 7 months atp. We have had our fights and almost broken up a few times, but we try again and do still love each other. We are not official, but we are dating exclusively. She had mentioned to me that she had cheated on a past boyfriend, saying he just wouldn't break up with her, so she had no choice. She doesn't feel much remorse. To be fair, she has never given me any reasons to believe she has cheated with me, which is partly why I have looked past it. Until now

So she goes on a cruise for spring break with her family and some family friends whom I have never met or heard about. I had to stay home since I couldn’t afford it, and I also had an internship starting. But I told her to have fun since she had been working hard and did need a break. She left on a Saturday, and from then till about Wednesday, we are texting now and then, and it's going fine. On Thursday, she goes radio silent. She calls back on FT Friday for about 3 minutes, basically telling me she's been drinking that whole time. I ended the call kind of annoyed that she didn't at least send a text. Later that day, I look on Instagram and see she's blocked me. I ask her about it, and she says it was an accident, which I find hard to believe since you need to press at least two different confirmations to do. We then don’t talk until Sunday after she gets back to her apartment. She has been telling me that part of the reason she hadn't texted me the second half was that other people were on the wifi network on the ship, which cut her off since only one person can use it at a time. I have never heard of wifi like this, but I could be wrong

All of this hasn’t sat right with me, and to this day I truly don’t know if I am overreacting or not

Hi guys

I’ve (24M) been dating a girl (22F) exclusively for about 9 months now. It hasn’t been a very stable relationship but we do love each other. There is one thing that has me feeling off however. She hasn’t told her family about me. Like at all. They don’t even know my name. I haven’t told my family much about us but they at least know her name and what she does etc… basic stuff. I understand people have different timelines and whatnot, but I do feel like 9 months is significant.
I have brought this up and explained why it feels wrong at this point but she merely says not everyone has to have the same timeline.

Do you think I am overreacting? Or is this a legitimate concern

I’ve been dating a girl exclusively for 9 months. We’ve had a tough time about it tbh, we’ve almost stopped seeing each other multiple times. But we do love each other and care about each other a lot. Around the 7 month mark I had asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend officially. She said no, mainly because her and my best friend/roommate had been fighting recently. I told her I understand it’s not ideal timing but also that’s separate from our relationship. I want to move forward with us. It’s been about a month and a half since then but thinking about it again I’m not sure if I should be concerned about the fact that she said no. Is it a serious problem that she doesn’t want to be official even after nine months of dating?

Hi guys

So something happen a few days ago that has made me feel guilty. I (24M) have been seeing this girl (22F) for about 8 months now and we are dating exclusively. It has been a rocky relationship but we do love each other deeply. I had asked if she wanted to be my gf and she declined due to other reasons so technically we are not official

A few days ago I was on an app called Wakie where you can talk to random strangers about hobbies, politics, whatever. I was on it for a bit talking to both men and women about specific interests, like film history and such. I took a call from a women (didn’t even have a pfp) and for about 6 minutes it was pretty normal, just talking about tv shows. At around minute 7 she started to become flirty, calling me things like “good boy” (I know, cringe). I was kinda shocked but also didn’t end the call right away. I said things like “why’d you call me that” or “my voice changes when I get nervous” and stupid things like that, playing along. This lasted for maybe 1-2 minutes and then I hung up, realizing that it wasn’t right for me to be doing that. I blocked her and deleted the app and everything, but honestly I still feel guilty for even entertaining the flirt.

I understand people have different standards for what they consider cheating and all, but me and the girl I’ve been dating haven’t gone into those things in depth. Despite that, it definitely felt wrong and I feel awful. I’ve barely eaten since it happened. I think I’m just going to be up front with her and tell her what happened so she knows. I suppose my question is mainly, how serious of a transgression is this?

TLDR: I entertained a very brief flirtation and feel guilty since I am exclusively dating a girl

Hi guys

So something happen a few days ago that has made me feel guilty. I (24M) have been seeing this girl (22F) for about 8 months now and we are dating exclusively. It has been a rocky relationship but we do love each other deeply. I had asked if she wanted to be my gf and she declined due to other reasons so technically we are not official

A few days ago I was on an app called Wakie where you can talk to random strangers about hobbies, politics, whatever. I was on it for a bit talking to both men and women about specific interests, like film history and such. I took a call from a women (didn’t even have a pfp) and for about 6 minutes it was pretty normal, just talking about tv shows. At around minute 7 she started to become flirty, calling me things like “good boy” (I know, cringe). I was kinda shocked but also didn’t end the call right away. I said things like “why’d you call me that” or “my voice changes when I get nervous” and stupid things like that, playing along. This lasted for maybe 1-2 minutes and then I hung up, realizing that it wasn’t right for me to be doing that. I blocked her and deleted the app and everything, but honestly I still feel guilty for even entertaining the flirt.

I understand people have different standards for what they consider cheating and all, but me and the girl I’ve been dating haven’t gone into those things in depth. Despite that, it definitely felt wrong and I feel awful. I’ve barely eaten since it happened. I think I’m just going to be up front with her and tell her what happened so she knows. I suppose my question is mainly, would you all consider this cheating?