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I think there is enough going on with things on and in the shelf, so have no idea how to decorate the space above console. I wanna catch the harmony without making eye tired. Please help me with ideas

Maybe mirror in the center? And arts around? What color of arts? I am so indecisive:/

This is my living room. I dont know how to make these areas look not too colorful but very cozy and welcoming. For reference, I cant put TV stand in the middle because I have sofa right in front of it, and if I push it more to the middle, it will be uncomfortable to watch tv while lying on the couch. And the second part is wall above the sofa. I dont wanna add bunch of colors, but more so harmonious look. Help me please

I have never used “Wilder Now” piercing that I got from Golden Edge Piercing during my trip to Hawaii and I checked so it is originally from Pupil Hall. I changed my mind for not getting piercing for my body so not going to use it. I paid it around 600$. What portals I can resell it? Its 14k gold with diamonds. Please help me. Attaching pictures for reference.

Dinner: whole loaf of banana bread🫩

I am 25 and yes, I dont own a car. I started making my own money and build my life late. I was 21 when I left my abusive family and started life of my own with 200$ in bank account at the time. Today after 4 years, finally I am in the good position to provide for my life. I recently moved in to my own apartment too. I know my next goal is to get a car. I have been saving up for it and before winter is the goal to get one. But the pressure has been crazy on me at work. The other day I was at work event and was talking to company people and few of those asked me where I live and I said i live in the city(event was at suburbs). They were like how do you commute to work and I said I take train or bus. Sometimes uber(after train walk to office is far so sometimes bus doesnt come on time). Then one of them was like oh I have seen you taking buses multiple times (giving me the face look🙄😏). And as in like I am dying of poverty or smth. And after my senior manager was like when are you getting a car. Like too much talking about me getting a car. Now I am feeling ashamed to walk to the bus station and my worst nightmare is seeing my coworkers passing me with their cars. It makes me feel like failure in life. As i grow old I really understand the power behind the sentence “ people welcome you by your look”. I feel so much judged and them behaving me like a petty. Idk I cried the second I got home today🫤 why should taking bus or train be ashamed??

I just recently repotted them and watered. Now they started turning yellow🥺. Is there any chance to save it?

It gets very good indirect light too.

Is this 2 plants? Should I separate them? Please advise!! I want them to go up instead of to the sides

I bought The Roxburgh Salt and The Christina bags(for spring/summer), and the leather is absolutely gorgeous. Its super soft and feels so luxurious! Both bags are incredibly spacious, and my 13-inch laptop easily fits BOTH! even The Roxburgh. I'm definitely planning to use it as my go-to work bag on casual office outfit days. Would be amazing to take this Gorg Roxburgh to happy hour with team🫠😍
Now waiting on the Chancery Medium Dark Oak and small burgundy(for fall/winter)!

I recently got this gorgeous Monstera! 🌿 As you can see in the picture, it has two vines growing in different directions. I'd love some advice on how to safely split it into two separate pots.
I'm also looking for general care tips. I bought a plant fertilizer that you mix with water. Would you recommend using it? How often should I water it, and are there any other tips to help it thrive?
I'd really appreciate any advice from experienced Monstera owners. Thank you!

Dinner: Breakfast for dinner- homemade style potatoes with bacon and egg😋

I have been together with my bf a year now. He recently changed his hairstyle and lemme tell you, he looks soo handsome and the way he treats me, I want to be pregnant right there and give him babies😭

Last night he came to my place to surprise me. We started having such a deep, affectionate conversation together. Sat in the balcony for hours and talked. Then we started kissing. His affectionate kisses and touches omggg. We started making love and thenn I had my strongest first penetrative orgasm ever. 2 Times!!! BACK TO BACK😭 I didnt even know having one is ever possible for me ( it is superrr hard for me usually and when I get it, mostly it is from clitoral stimulation). It elevated the love making sooo much. Now I am sitting here, thinking about it😭 I love him sm.

Lunch: tea and brownie bar

I think I finally realized how toxic our family friends are.
For context, I moved across the ocean a few years ago. One of the reasons was that many of my relatives (not my mom or sister) were extremely invasive and way too involved in other people's lives. Personal questions, unsolicited opinions, constant judgment, you name it.
When I moved here, this family was the only group of people I knew. They spoke my language, helped me when I was a broke college student, and we celebrated holidays together. Because of that, I used to visit them almost every month. I hadn't seen them in about 8 months, so I decided to spend a weekend with them.

The family consists of a husband, wife (I'll call her Anna), and their three sons.

Now buckle up!!

Within 10 minutes of arriving, they started saying things like, "Oh, you don't care about us anymore because you have a boyfriend now." It was said half-jokingly, but there was definitely some truth behind it.
Then came the marriage questions. My boyfriend and I haven't even been together for a year. We love each other, but we're not rushing into marriage. We want more time together and want to be financially ready before making that decision.
I explained that, and Anna immediately started talking about how she got married at 24 and had her first son by 25. Then her mother joined in and told me I'm already late for marriage. I'm almost 26F.
A few minutes later her mother asked how much I weigh and started telling me I should be careful to maintain my figure.
At that point I was already tired and exhausted😭
Later Anna and I went to a store together. On the drive she asked if I was planning to buy a car. I told her yes, I've been saving and I'm thinking about getting a Toyota.She immediately started asking why I would want a Toyota and telling me I should be looking at Mercedes-Benz instead.
The thing is, they currently drive a Nissan because they had financial difficulties and had to sell their Mercedes. Yet somehow I still ended up feeling judged for wanting a reliable and practical first car.
I brushed it off. Later that day I was having tea outside with her husband, who is honestly one of the sweetest people I've met. We were having a great conversation that had absolutely nothing to do with cars. Anna joined us and somehow brought the conversation back to Mercedes. She started talking about how much she wants another one. Her husband gently reminded her that they had only recently started recovering financially and that buying a luxury car wasn't a priority. Her whole mood changed instantly.
Then she asked me whether I got money back from taxes or owed money this year. I never answer questions like that directly because I don't think it's anyone's business.
She told me how much they owed and then said I probably got money back because I "don't make much." That comment honestly annoyed me.
She still sees me as the broke college student she met years ago. Back then, yes, I was struggling and they helped me a lot. I'll always appreciate that.
But now I work in IT, earn a good salary, have no debt, invest every month, and make very deliberate financial decisions. I don't feel the need to prove any of that to anyone. What bothered me wasn't even the money comment itself. It was the fact that she always seems to find a way to make me feel small, unsuccessful, or behind in life.
Then during dinner one of her close friends came over. She started asking about my relationship and whether my boyfriend and I planned to move in together. I told her no. Our relationship is still relatively new, and after years of living with roommates, I'm about to get my first place completely on my own. That's something I've wanted for a long time.
She asked to see photos of the apartment. I showed her. The first thing she said was, "Wow, that's really small.” It's 645 square feet!!!
I told her it was more than enough for me and that I didn't see the point of paying significantly more for space I wouldn't use. Then she started asking why I wasn't just moving in with my boyfriend to save money.
And then she made a comment that honestly made me sick. She said, Oh, I could sleep with him, give him my vagina one time to trick him into moving in together. If I give it a second time, he could propose to me, and with a third time get married. If I do before, he might lose interest in me. I was completely speechless. She and Anna started laughing as if this is something funny. ( I never told them, I already sleep with my bf).
After Anna asked, if my bf is the type of person limits me to go certain places and I said absolutely not. As I was talking about this, her bestie cut me off and started talking how her husband changed after moving to this country and became more open minded( her husband limits her sm and she always complains about it)
For context, they're very conservative religious people. They don't know that I no longer practice the same religion. I respect everyone's beliefs, but religion was never something I personally chose for myself. The whole conversation just felt bizarre and uncomfortable.
I came home feeling drained, numb, and honestly kind of sad. What struck me is that every conversation revolved around judging someone's relationship, finances, appearance, marriage timeline, living situation, or income.
I know they helped me when I was struggling. I know they meant a lot to me when I first moved here.
But I also realized that gratitude doesn't mean I have to keep people close forever.

Every time I leave their house, I feel worse about myself. I feel guilty for wanting to distance myself because they're family friends and they're one of the few people from my culture that I have here. But I also think I've reached a point where staying connected out of guilt is doing more harm than good.
I feel numb😣 my family still wants me to continue seeing them

Dinner: homemade ramen with pork ribs

I think I finally realized how toxic our family friends are.
For context, I moved across the ocean a few years ago. One of the reasons was that many of my relatives (not my mom or sister) were extremely invasive and way too involved in other people's lives. Personal questions, unsolicited opinions, constant judgment, you name it.
When I moved here, this family was the only group of people I knew. They spoke my language, helped me when I was a broke college student, and we celebrated holidays together. Because of that, I used to visit them almost every month. I hadn't seen them in about 8 months, so I decided to spend a weekend with them.

The family consists of a husband, wife (I'll call her Anna), and their three sons.

Now buckle up!!

Within 10 minutes of arriving, they started saying things like, "Oh, you don't care about us anymore because you have a boyfriend now." It was said half-jokingly, but there was definitely some truth behind it.
Then came the marriage questions. My boyfriend and I haven't even been together for a year. We love each other, but we're not rushing into marriage. We want more time together and want to be financially ready before making that decision.
I explained that, and Anna immediately started talking about how she got married at 24 and had her first son by 25. Then her mother joined in and told me I'm already late for marriage. I'm almost 26F.
A few minutes later her mother asked how much I weigh and started telling me I should be careful to maintain my figure.
At that point I was already tired and exhausted😭
Later Anna and I went to a store together. On the drive she asked if I was planning to buy a car. I told her yes, I've been saving and I'm thinking about getting a Toyota.She immediately started asking why I would want a Toyota and telling me I should be looking at Mercedes-Benz instead.
The thing is, they currently drive a Nissan because they had financial difficulties and had to sell their Mercedes. Yet somehow I still ended up feeling judged for wanting a reliable and practical first car.
I brushed it off. Later that day I was having tea outside with her husband, who is honestly one of the sweetest people I've met. We were having a great conversation that had absolutely nothing to do with cars. Anna joined us and somehow brought the conversation back to Mercedes. She started talking about how much she wants another one. Her husband gently reminded her that they had only recently started recovering financially and that buying a luxury car wasn't a priority. Her whole mood changed instantly.
Then she asked me whether I got money back from taxes or owed money this year. I never answer questions like that directly because I don't think it's anyone's business.
She told me how much they owed and then said I probably got money back because I "don't make much." That comment honestly annoyed me.
She still sees me as the broke college student she met years ago. Back then, yes, I was struggling and they helped me a lot. I'll always appreciate that.
But now I work in IT, earn a good salary, have no debt, invest every month, and make very deliberate financial decisions. I don't feel the need to prove any of that to anyone. What bothered me wasn't even the money comment itself. It was the fact that she always seems to find a way to make me feel small, unsuccessful, or behind in life.
Then during dinner one of her close friends came over. She started asking about my relationship and whether my boyfriend and I planned to move in together. I told her no. Our relationship is still relatively new, and after years of living with roommates, I'm about to get my first place completely on my own. That's something I've wanted for a long time.
She asked to see photos of the apartment. I showed her. The first thing she said was, "Wow, that's really small.” It's 645 square feet!!!
I told her it was more than enough for me and that I didn't see the point of paying significantly more for space I wouldn't use. Then she started asking why I wasn't just moving in with my boyfriend to save money.
And then she made a comment that honestly made me sick. She said, Oh, I could sleep with him, give him my vagina one time to trick him into moving in together. If I give it a second time, he could propose to me, and with a third time get married. If I do before, he might lose interest in me. I was completely speechless. She and Anna started laughing as if this is something funny. ( I never told them, I already sleep with my bf).
After Anna asked, if my bf is the type of person limits me to go certain places and I said absolutely not. As I was talking about this, her bestie cut me off and started talking how her husband changed after moving to this country and became more open minded( her husband limits her sm and she always complains about it)
For context, they're very conservative religious people. They don't know that I no longer practice the same religion. I respect everyone's beliefs, but religion was never something I personally chose for myself. The whole conversation just felt bizarre and uncomfortable.
I came home feeling drained, numb, and honestly kind of sad. What struck me is that every conversation revolved around judging someone's relationship, finances, appearance, marriage timeline, living situation, or income.
I know they helped me when I was struggling. I know they meant a lot to me when I first moved here.
But I also realized that gratitude doesn't mean I have to keep people close forever.

Every time I leave their house, I feel worse about myself. I feel guilty for wanting to distance myself because they're family friends and they're one of the few people from my culture that I have here. But I also think I've reached a point where staying connected out of guilt is doing more harm than good.
I feel numb😣

I love the shape and i feel like i can wear this with so many things