Hello! I'd love to hear from peers who have worked both outreach jobs where you're out in the community and also peer jobs where you're in one location. How did you find the differences? What worked/what didn't?
I'm sure it's dependent on what type of work you do and who you're working with but I'm curious what you generally give details about?
I'm 23F and lately I've realized how tired I'm getting, physically and emotionally from feeling so isolated. It sucks how often I hear that this is the "best time of your life" and hearing about all the ways my life should be, when it's just not. If anyone wants to chat tonight I'd love to, tell me about something you've been interested in lately, about a show/book you've enjoyed, tell me about yourself, if you'd like
I know this may seem like a silly situation to be this upset about, but to preface I have some mental health issues that cause me a lot of distress, and I do a good job at keeping them to myself but my feelings can be really intense handling alone. I'm currently renting my first place for the first time alone, and my landlords are currently renovating a new, larger space I'm moving into soon. As they've been renovating we've talked about some of my wants in the space, we talked about the kitchen a while back and they mentioned it will have a mini fridge. I communicated that a mini fridge wouldn't work for me, as I cook all my meals and the current medium sized fridge in my current space has worked and I wouldn't be able to go smaller than this. They agreed, and found a spot where they could put a bigger fridge. Fast forward to today and I go to look at the space and there's a mini fridge, and also only kitchen appliances like a hot plate and other things. We talked, I let them know we had talked about the fridge and reminded them of the convo. They remembered the opposite of me saying I never really cook and that'd be fine. Which really fucked with my head because I didn't say that. We reached a compromise and they're going to look for another fridge so I'll temporarily work with the mini fridge. I have a really hard time with confrontation and was having pretty severe anxiety after when I overheard them whispering "What the fuck. We talked about that with her. I don't want to sink more money into the place" and then a whole bunch of other stuff I couldn't understand. Idk why but this is freaking me out so bad and upsetting
wondering if anyone knows of ways to rent for short term stays outside of vrbo/airbnb, maybe i'm out of touch with pricing but i can't find properties for less than $500/600 for one night, which seems kind of crazy. just looking for a weekend rental
The longer that I've been more or less alone socially, I find it harder to have fun and be relaxed around people. Socializing is a skill, and I'm very out of practice. This leads me to being in a loop where I get more anxious when I am with people, and judge how I am. Then it continues to become a mental battle the next time. I'm sad today because I sometimes convince myself it's better to be mostly alone so I don't have to deal with the pain of my social anxiety and shyness, possibly neurodivergence too, but I know this isn't true. I need and want to be around people and to have close connections. But I feel so different, and I do think I just connect with less people in general. I don't know, it's a lot. I'm 23F too so this idea that I should be out there doing all these fun things eats away at me.