u/collectingminds

I’d love to hear other people’s experiences and thoughts on this because I’m feeling more and more frustrated with peers/clients and providers misunderstanding what my job is and what I can and cannot do. I’m not a case manager, I’m not a taxi and I’m not a crisis line and yet I feel like this continually is an issue of restating and explaining what I thought was already clear. I’m new to this field so maybe it’s just that I need more experience and time before I’m not hitting this wall but damn it’s frustrating for now.

What led you to leaving peer work and how do you feel about it after stepping away?

My lover and I were chatting about going to a play party together, then that weekend rolled around and they invited someone else. I made other plans and had a good time. It hurt but whatever. We talk about another party coming up, I expressed I was back and forth after the last time and when they asked I agreed. The I found out they had asked someone else who turned them down and that’s why they asked me because they had a second ticket. Idk just not feeling good about the situation and not sure if I’m overreacting

Hello! I’m 23, AFAB and queer in gender and sexuality, living in the HV area and I travel to Upstate (Syracuse/Binghamton/Rochester) often enough. I’d like to connect with people local for the most part but I am also open to meeting people living in upstate :) I’m currently single, figuring out what kind of non-monogamy works for me and enjoying time exploring myself. We can talk more if you reach out, but I’m kinky and starting to get more involved with the kink scene/play parties in my area and in NYC.

I enjoy hiking, doing anything in nature really, road trips to explore new towns / museums / restaurants, painting and crafting, horror movies, sharing music. I love to do things that the people I care about enjoy!

What I’m not looking for
- Sexual relationships / FWB
- Long term romantic connections
- Long distance / online relationships

What I AM looking for
- Poly friends! Tell me about your interests :)
- Cuddle buddies, I absolutely love physical touch, it’s my love language
- I’m open to new play partners after a friendship is established and we share the same interests
- Friends / play partners to go to kinky events and play parties with
- This is a bit more niche but I am actively looking for penpals! I need more motivation to continue writing / journaling and sharing my 2am thoughts

Today was so bad, and I feel so deeply alone. I feel like my nervous system is failing and I’m in pure terror. I have no idea what to do

I'd like some insight on how often and for what reasons you communicate with someone's care team? As a new community outreach peer this is something I haven't gotten a feel for yet and I'm not sure if I'm over communicating with providers or not. Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated :)

I am in disbelief. I have never, ever had this quick of a medical evaluation, new medication and then an actual change. I feel human today. Is it possible that I haven’t had debilitating anxiety for years and it’s actually just been my body in extreme distress without me knowing. I have been moving around, climbing flights of stairs, driving, making food today and it’s now 10pm and I still have energy, my chronic pain is at a 2/10. What the fuck

To add context - I was pushed past my breaking point with my anxiety/panic attacks and talked with a doctor who prescribed me this to help with the physical symptoms of my anxiety which is more main issue (it's a beta-blocker) but I found out after that the medication is also used to help people with POTS, which I just recently found out I have.

I'm curious to here why that was, how the decision was made and how you went about it?

Hello! I'd love to hear from peers who have worked both outreach jobs where you're out in the community and also peer jobs where you're in one location. How did you find the differences? What worked/what didn't?

I'm sure it's dependent on what type of work you do and who you're working with but I'm curious what you generally give details about?

I'm 23F and lately I've realized how tired I'm getting, physically and emotionally from feeling so isolated. It sucks how often I hear that this is the "best time of your life" and hearing about all the ways my life should be, when it's just not. If anyone wants to chat tonight I'd love to, tell me about something you've been interested in lately, about a show/book you've enjoyed, tell me about yourself, if you'd like

I know this may seem like a silly situation to be this upset about, but to preface I have some mental health issues that cause me a lot of distress, and I do a good job at keeping them to myself but my feelings can be really intense handling alone. I'm currently renting my first place for the first time alone, and my landlords are currently renovating a new, larger space I'm moving into soon. As they've been renovating we've talked about some of my wants in the space, we talked about the kitchen a while back and they mentioned it will have a mini fridge. I communicated that a mini fridge wouldn't work for me, as I cook all my meals and the current medium sized fridge in my current space has worked and I wouldn't be able to go smaller than this. They agreed, and found a spot where they could put a bigger fridge. Fast forward to today and I go to look at the space and there's a mini fridge, and also only kitchen appliances like a hot plate and other things. We talked, I let them know we had talked about the fridge and reminded them of the convo. They remembered the opposite of me saying I never really cook and that'd be fine. Which really fucked with my head because I didn't say that. We reached a compromise and they're going to look for another fridge so I'll temporarily work with the mini fridge. I have a really hard time with confrontation and was having pretty severe anxiety after when I overheard them whispering "What the fuck. We talked about that with her. I don't want to sink more money into the place" and then a whole bunch of other stuff I couldn't understand. Idk why but this is freaking me out so bad and upsetting

wondering if anyone knows of ways to rent for short term stays outside of vrbo/airbnb, maybe i'm out of touch with pricing but i can't find properties for less than $500/600 for one night, which seems kind of crazy. just looking for a weekend rental

The longer that I've been more or less alone socially, I find it harder to have fun and be relaxed around people. Socializing is a skill, and I'm very out of practice. This leads me to being in a loop where I get more anxious when I am with people, and judge how I am. Then it continues to become a mental battle the next time. I'm sad today because I sometimes convince myself it's better to be mostly alone so I don't have to deal with the pain of my social anxiety and shyness, possibly neurodivergence too, but I know this isn't true. I need and want to be around people and to have close connections. But I feel so different, and I do think I just connect with less people in general. I don't know, it's a lot. I'm 23F too so this idea that I should be out there doing all these fun things eats away at me.