Kind of what it says on the tin. Friend and I are trying (and at least in my case kind of fumbling through) the forest for the first time blind, and our crash site is next to what I’ve determined from a Google search to be geese lake. Any thoughts? We had three big uglies storm through our camp destroying our stone walls. Is that because we’re on a patrol path or just a bit smoothbrained?
Hey, I’m ftm and not from the UK, but I have a trans girl friend who has been trying to get on HRT. She needs to get a blood test done and to my understanding there are several mechanisms to get a blood test done in the UK all for exorbitant prices (at least for me coming from South Africa). She told me that she can’t for whatever reason do it through a GP since she’s getting on hormones cheaply and privately (?) and there isnt really a centralised private company that allows you to do blood tests for under 80£. Home test kits that she has looked at are also all quite expensive.
She is 18 and has partial support from her family, though I’m not sure if they are financially supporting her transition. I saw someone talk about annehealth, but this all sounds really convoluted to me lol.
Uh, bonus question: are there any decent groupchats or communities for trans feminine people in the UK? I know it’s oddly specific. The trans ftm community here isnt ginormous so we have a nice dedicated WhatsApp group and it has been overwhelmingly useful down to helping me get on hormones without having to wait a million years on the government health insurance. Thank you!
So, I’m kind of with this dude (cis queer). I don’t bottom because the last two times I tried with someone else it made me cry really hard. Normally non penetrative stuff is totally fine but this morning I got really overwhelmed with insecurity and dysphoria and burst into tears. We were literally just mutually jorking it. I can jork it in private idk why I got so overwhelmed doing so in the presence of someone else
Whenever we do sexual stuff I’m almost always doing things to him. To be honest I’m kind of just scared he’s secretly freaked out about the trans thing so the idea of him touching me makes me a bit frightened, even though I also really want it.
Can anyone relate? I used to be able to do non penetrative stuff perfectly fine with other people. I’m wondering if it’s a testosterone thing but it sort of can’t be, I’ve been on T for longer than I’ve even known him.
I pass okay ish irl. I’m 5 months on T (technically 8 cuz I stopped for a while due to family and financial reasons) but I’m not sure if I pass very well in photos. My voice and the way I carry myself tends to help, though my flatmate says my voice is still in the androgynous region, so. Plus it actually helps that I’m studying something typically masculine. I had someone at a friends birthday party a few months back ask me what my gender was after I told them what my degree is.
Sorry for the weird photos chosen! I had a lot
more just general face a few months ago but my face has changed a bit since then
Good evening kings and company,
I’m like five ish months on T and I have this friend. We’ll call him Thabo. We started kinddddd of fucking about around 2 weeks or so ago, and it’s been a lot of fun. He’s cis and pan, but has been in sexual relationships with other guys before, both as a bottom and a top. He knows that I’m basically a stone top since we were pretty much best friends before we started the buggery (I’ve tried bottoming before using the bonus hole with other people and it really wasn’t my thing at all both from because it just didn’t feel great and it made me intensely dysphoric).
I’ve never really felt like just a queer guy while I’m doing anything sexual with a guy, cis or trans, since I always get caught comparing his masculine body with my lackluster one. Sex with woman has always been more validating as a result.
I like this guy though. He kind of makes me forget that I’m trans a lot of the time. He loves that I can pick him up and throw him around despite being a bit shorter than him. Hes told me that he likes that I make him feel “small”. He likes to sit in my lap. Our friends joke that even before we were sexually involved, Thabo has always acted like a bratty bottom around me.
I’ve never really felt this validated in my identity, and this guy by his own admission knows very little about trans people. I feel like I’m being seen as in control, as a “top” I guess. I don’t know what was missing in my previous endeavours that Thabo can uniquely make me forget just briefly about my gender dysphoria. I’ve never been involved with the typical “guy who claims to be bisexual but really just humours you when you say you’re a man” kind of thing. There’s just something with Thabo. He gets this balance between both not treating me like a woman or a weird third thing and also not seeming put off by what I have (…granted it takes me a sec to warm up to the idea of people touching me, but that’s a mute point).
Aaaaand then the other day, I had him straddling me and whining and basically leaking pre, and literally *begging* me to fuck him.
(If you’re wondering, yeah, that may have been the hottest thing to ever happen to me, and no, that memory does not leave my head even when I desperately need to study for my chem exam.)
TLDR: involved with a subby bottom cis guy who I am determined to fuck mechanically.
Essentially: how to strap?
I know wetforher has some pretty decent options for trans men and there are grinders you can get etc. But that can be tricky since I live in the ass end of Africa and I would prefer the simplest most basic kind of options available. Feel free to send me links regardless though, since I can always just save up. I’m gonna be checking out my local sex shop too.
Is strapping someone difficult? Core strength? Can you “feel” it as the top?
Is it awkward the first time? How do I get over the slight embarrassment at the silliness of it? Is the technique different when you’re penetrating someone anally vs vaginally?
And how on the same earth as pedro pascal can I find a strap that isnt a THONG?
Much to consider, all responses appreciated, even just personal stories so I know I’m not alone in my quest.