I'm having to move back into my childhood where I was sa'd for years. Need advice.
I'm almost 40 and unfortunately, despite the fact that I'm making the most money I've ever made, I can't keep up with bills any longer and my mom was saying I could move back into her house along with my 13 year old daughter. This is going to save me about $2,000 a month which I will be able to put towards paying off my card which still has $16,000 on it and allow me to build up savings. Furthermore, she's letting us have the entire basement and we can paint it and put carpet in it and everything because due to a flood 10 years ago, the basement has been sitting empty with no carpet. I'm actually incredibly excited about this as I've always rented and have never been able to paint or make any of my own decisions and it will be nice to no longer have to worry about hiding my pet and neighbor's doors slamming constantly and all that.
However, when I was in elementary school, my older brother and all of his friends did some horrible things to me in that basement that I actually repressed to the point that I didn't remember any of it until I was about 30 in one day the memories hit me like a truck. I keep breaking down crying at not only the thought of having to move back into that room, but my daughter would be living in my brother's old room. She has no idea about it. And is honestly pretty excited to get to paint and decorate her room as well. I'm sure once I'm actually there and everything looks different I will feel better and mostly forget about things. But I know that at night when I'm trying to go to sleep it's all going to hit me randomly. I'm not super spiritual or anything because I've had somebody say to burn some sage down there and I'm going to do that but I just need a way to cope. Therapy is not an option due to money. And honestly, I've tried therapy in the past and simply talking about my feelings does not work.