AITAH for telling my wife that I wouldn't have to play video games if she actually spent any time with me?
Ok, so my wife and I (both mid/late 40s) have been married for 20 years and together for 25. Our bedroom has been dead for the past two. Not just dead. Cremated and spread at sea. Practically 0 affection at all. I can count how many times she's kissed me during that time one one hand, and they were all like the kind of kiss you'd get from your mom. 😕
There's also an issue of us not spending much time together unless it has to do with the kids. Well, today the kids are all gone for a class trip, so I asked if she wanted to come along to the race track where I sing the National Anthem. I don't insist that we stay for the whole time, or even 1 race, but the pre-race is cool. I have full access to the facility, so we're able to check out a lot of cool stuff. They also feed us, and everyone is usually down for a free lunch. She said no. Not that she had other things she needed or wanted to do, because there wasn't. She just didn't want to go.
Well, I just got back from the track. National Anthem went off without a hitch. But as soon as I walked through the door she starts griping at me about a new video game I bought. I'm not a super huge gamer or anything, but I like to play racing games sometimes and that's what I bought.
She started going in on me about spending money on something like that, saying the game is for children and that I need to find grown up hobbies. I just told her that if she actually expressed interest in spending time with me I wouldn't have to resort to video games.
That was enough for her and she left.
AITAH for basically telling my wife that I had to resort to childish hobbies because she basically abandoned me?
Also, this is not a financial issue. Will live pretty comfortably and buying one game isn't going to come close to breaking us.