u/devil_nthedetails

Context: This weekend, I (34m) am hosting my best friend (32f) who has traveled from out of province (BC to AB) to attend the funeral services of a her friend who recently committed took her own life. Her boyfriend of 2 years(40m) has traveled with her to "support" her during the funeral services where she's expected to give a eulogy for her friend. During their stay, he has consistently shown blatant (previously unseen by me) disrespect to my best friend culminating in 2 incidents last night where he has demonstrated a clear lack of decorum and basic decency to a person clearly in mourning that went as follows:

1.) While out at dinner with friends (34f & 32f) who were commiserating over the loss of their departed friend, he and I stepped outside for a cigarette while waiting for our meals to arrive. While outside, he stated "All these high strung emotions are such feminine bullshit and I can't stand it, move the fuck on with it already" (bare in mind they have yet to even attend the funeral services)

2.) While out on my balcony enjoying the heat of the evening, best friend was venting her anguish and frustration about her departed friends choice to end it all, her boyfriend told her to "Shut the fuck up about it" to which she quickly replied "please don't tell me to shut up" of which he repeated himself in telling her to silence herself about the sentiment and that he'll "speak to her how he pleases" to which I abruptly chimed in with "Not in my house, you can speak to her with respect and sympathy or not speak to her at all". He responded by saying "i don't give a fuck, I'll go sleep in my SUV if that's the case" and promptly went inside to fetch himself another beer (8th or 9th of the night)

My best friend was not present for incident #1 but after he stepped inside after #2 she quickly told me to "not worry about it" of which I could only shake my head and begin a different conversation with another guest

AITAH for deciding to wait to discuss this with best friend until *AFTER* the funeral services and their return trip home as to avoid extra anguish on her already full plate of emotions and to inform her that "As long as he insists on being disrespectful and maintaining the emotional depth of a teacup, he won't be welcome in my home" ??? TIA for taking the time to read