u/emManuellsen

Hey ich (23/m) komme aus Ecuador und ich studiere in dieser wundeschönen Stadt:) Ich liebe Salsa. Ich bin kein Expert oder so aber ich genieße zu tanzen. Wo kann ich so ein Ort hier finden? Ich suche auch eine Tanzpartnerin oder Leute um zu tanzen.

Hätte jemand Interesse?:)

Remembering conversations with my GF:

In May I just wanted to help emotionally a friend. He was just without motivation for anything. He really likes football and fortunately his football team qualified to the finals. (since 30 years) It was the only thing it would make him happy in that shitty month. He bought me the ticket and I was very excited.

The problem: it was on Sabbath Day. I just wanted to help him to overcome these bad times. I also like football, my favorite sport. The experience includes fun. I took my bible an searched on the internet, verses that supported my interpretation or AT LEAST to validate my good work (helping my friend) on the Sabbath.

I found much verses that support my perspective and I was happy about that maybe, JUST MAYBE I would find some aceptation. But no. Firstly, I discussed with my gf`s friends, bc they are more light. They told me I have to read more an then I would understand. They quote the script, the Truth is this, blablabla.

Days Later I tried with my GF and the same argumentation, the Truth, the usual script. She also told to me that having fun (going to football stadium) keeps me away from God. I told her why she is using the same points as her friends. She answered that It is my problem for not understanding. At the end of our discussion she told me she was very disappointing about me if I took the decision to go with my friend to the match on Sabbbth. I ask her: Would I get your blessings (for the trip)? She answered: Yes, but Im still disappointed.

I dont know what should I more understand as the Bible itself. I read and re-read verses she considers "proving the Sabbath" and the Bible supports my perspective. I also searched the reason of lettters like Galatas, Hebrews, Romans (which she uses also in her argumentation) and they also confirm my perspective. How long I need to understand the Sabbath? I read the Bible every night. On this rythm Im gonna finish the Bible in 2 years. WTF? So much to understand something that the Bible refers as expired? Is it really that hard? Or am I not wise enough? She also advised me to talk about with a pastor, but obviosuly to an Adventist pastor, who 100% is gonna support her.

At the end I went to the match with my friend, losing but he told me "Thank you bro. This time together Im not gonna forget, not bc of the final result but bc I spent time with you" :`)

I feel very well after helping a good friend instead of staying at home observing the SaBbAtH.

PD: Im really sry for my poor English I tried my best:/

I mean, she was racist. I Read much of her quotes and wow is kind of shocking. In my gf's community in Europe there are a large number of people with African roots/dark skinned. We are also not white skinned, she is Asian (adventist since child) I'm Latino (catholic, not active). I also read she didn't support interracial marriage, so theoretically we would be doing bad.

Is it normal the people doesn't see that?

How was your experience with this Topic in your childhood? Since im 23 with my adventist gf 28 i dont Play Football on that day. She told me i can play on other day or just for fun. In my opinión i can play for fun but there are always Moments,when one gets competitive so i would failing sabbath. I proved she failed also last week when we played Badminton and counted the points (it looked Like competitivo right?)
I dont want that for our Future children. They have to enjoy as much they can. If God gives them the Talent for Sports and it is their Dream why would God stop that Wonder just because sabbath? God and me are gonna Support them, no matter the day. God knows how humans work so Ambition and dreams dont stop bc of a Day, but the parents would annoy Gods Plan and im dont gonna be one of them, but my gf maybe if she expects that.

My (23) GF (28) has growing up as SDA. She is from South eastern Asia. We are in relationship for 20 months. We live in Central Europe. In the last weeks i had many thoughts about our Future. But now im doubting. Because she deopped some comments i cannot follow. I dont know if those thoughts are from this SDA church:

-she says men and women are Not equal. Men are superior and they have to be Provider as the bible says.
- she told Feminism implemented that bs of 50:50 (refereing to the 1st Point)
- she denies Evolution ( she studied nurse)
- she says sabbath exists since God created the Earth (maybe yec?)

I love her but i cannot follow those thoughts. There is other philosophy in Europe, which i dont want to give up, bc i learned at secular school. (Im Christ) I am afraid if she would expect i gonna Share that with our children bc men are the Head of the Family.

How would you rate her? Conservative or more than conservative?
Thank you for the answer. I prepared myself for a Future discussion between us:)

Sry for my Bad English. My GF (F 28) and me (M 23) have a relationship for 1.5 years. We love each other but recently there is something I dont really like.
Im worried bc of a guy (M 29). Both are friend before me and her ever Met. Both went to the same university and were Not official in a relationship but she told me he loved her, she Not really. When my GF went abroad (to Europe where I live) he came here too (she asumes bc of work but also bc of her). He lives in the same country like us but in another City. I dont live with my GF bc of my study.
Now Im with her but I dont feel his feelings for her are Not finished. He Texts her, he calls/VC her. I told her to do whatever she wants (i have her the Freedom), I mean it is her right to Talk whoever she wants. What annoys to me is the Fact that he still loves my GF. My GF told me he sometimes asks her if we already broke up, once he commented in her Story like „Fagot😂“ to me just bc I cut my hair. She says to me his just a friend She Sees him as „best“ friend. I Trust her but I dont Trust him. I know Most of her Friends but that guy refuses to know me (Even if i didnt ever Talk to him or say something about him) I feel like a resentment to him is growing in my inner, Even if i dont want. I also dont want to forbid her bc it would just show insecurity and i would not like to cut her Freedom. I just Trust her but Not that guy.
Thanks for Reading:)

My GF (28) and me (23) have a relationship for 1.5 years. We love each other but recently there is something I dont really like.
Im worried bc of a guy (29). Both are friend before me and her ever Met. Both went to the same university and were Not official in a relationship but she told me he loved her, she Not really. When my GF went abroad (to Europe where I live) he came here too (she asumes bc of work but also bc of her).
Now Im with her but I dont feel his feelings for her are Not finished. He Texts her, he calls/VC her. I told her to do whatever she wants (i have her the Freedom), I mean it is her right to Talk whoever she wants. What annoys to me is the Fact that he still loves my GF. My GF told me he sometimes asks her if we already broke up, once he commented in her Story like „Fagot😂“ to me just bc I cut my hair. She says to me his just a friend She Sees him as „best“ friend. I Trust her but I dont Trust him. I know Most of her Friends but that guy refuses to know me (Even if i didnt ever Talk to him or say something about him) I feel like a resentment to him is growing in my inner, Even if i dont want. I also dont want to forbid her bc it would just show insecurity and i dont like to cut her Freedom. I just Trust her but Not that guy.

Also Materialien von der Fahne und Stock und wie womit es gemalt wird. Ich wollte es für mich privat einen gestalten:) Danke im Voraus

Sry for my Bad English. I‘m (23) in a relationship with my gf (27) for 1.5 years. I think I have implemented many things she likes. One of them was turning my hair straight, my natural hair. Before I learned her I used to make my hair permanent Curly and i liked bc my whole Family have curly hair except my mom, Dad and me. It Sounds like i had a complex. So I felt very comfortable with my new curly hair for the First time in my life. So when i learned her i Stayed with my curly hair for 6 months. Then she Said she likes my straight hair (I showed her some old photos). She told me she rather prefer straight. So I did and my natural hair were back. In the First months i feel some awkward. My Friends and Family told to me that they prefered my curly hair (deeply me too) because I looked better but I listened to my gf, I mean she likes them so I change them. I also discovered that my gf‘S Straight hair were Not natural, she had curly hair and i love curly Girls. I felt more in love in her. I communicated my wish for her natural hair but every time she refused to listen to me. Unfortunately she comes from a Culture where curly people are treated like witches, so i can understand if she has a trauma. Fortunately we dont live there so I told to her to be confident with her natural appareance Nobody will critizes you here. And I could understand if she refuses to change her hair because of scary BUT:
2 Weeks ago we had a conversation about that. I told her my wish again. She refused again. So I ask her why bc I changed my appareance for her. So she TOLD ME i should pay for her hair every time if this is my wish, products, Salon etc. I was very confused because I did mine bc of love. I didnt ask her for Money to get my old hair back, no i did it bc i love her (althought everybody Said it was a Bad change). Those words made me very unconfortable because I couldn‘t understand why she Cannot implement a tiny thing just for love. I dont eat pork and seefood, Drink alcohol, just like she wants (pointing some implemented things in my life with her), but me? And I dont want to Talk about the Bad effects of straighting her hair every time (Bad Smell, weak hair, etc). I tried to convince her in that way but nope.
I feel Not understood as she wants from me…