u/fancyypantsyy0

When I tell you I probably filled out somewhere around 5,000 applications over the course of this time period I am not exaggerating. I tried getting referrals from people I’ve worked with in the past and that didn’t work. I tried fighting with ats, revising my resume hundreds of times, even paid for professional services to help. I interview really well honestly. Like I’m able to self reflect and self assess pretty well. I know it wasn’t that because every time I would get an interview I got to the fourth or fifth round and got cut, so if I was a bad at interviewing there’s no way I’d get that far.

But I only had 4 interview pipelines I got offered out of all that effort and every single one of them came from a recruiter who just so happened to be a black woman. The final round for this job i just got was an executive interview with another black woman and i received an offer the next morning.

This is a reminder that we really do need to stick together because it’s very hard for black women in corporate right now. I truly feel like we are being iced out because of the current administration and I would still be unemployed if not for these women.

My last job really impacted my mental health and confidence. Now that I’m about to start a new one I’m very nervous about potentially ending up in a toxic job again, though nothing about the interview process gave me that vibe. I just have this feeling of doom like it’s all gonna happen to me again. I will say I learned a lot in the legal battle I went through, so if i can do that I know logically I can do this job. It’s just a hard feeling to shake.

I used to basically live at this sushi restaurant near me, like multiple times a week I was in there. So much so that it became a running joke with my mom because often times when she’d call me I would be leaving that restaurant or heading to it. The craving was the most intense during my period when I would lose a lot of blood due to the fibroids. Its like I could never get enough of it.

But then I finally had surgery back in October and I haven’t eaten it since. When I see others eating it now it looks alright but I don’t want any, the craving just isn’t there.

I just thought this would be something interesting to share here and am wondering if anybody else noticed changes in food cravings after surgery.

When I talked about this on Threads everybody gaslit me and told me this never happened. There’s no way I imagined this.

I went to a school where they had something like a tantrum room. If a kid was highly upset they would physically remove them from class, lock him/her in a designated empty room, and just let them scream at the top of their lungs and punch the wall. This went on for however long it took for them to get tired. Usually a teacher would be sitting outside the room. From there they got suspensed or maybe just sent home for the day.

What phases did you all go through before you figured out what you truly like, and what are your costly regrets?

I’ll start.

I was once dead set on having a bunch of glass everywhere. Glass coffee table, glass shelves, glass desk, glass tv stand., mirrored furniture. I was very much going for this hyperglam 70s inspired thing that was very poorly executed and made no sense. Like people would walk into my place and be visibly confused. And excessive glass doesn’t feel very cozy so my place never felt comfortable to me. It was also very high maintenance, I was constantly cleaning.

Another mistakes was not being honest about my true level of commitment to keeping plants alive. I spent a lot of money on plants and expensive planters, and they just kept dying. I even managed to kill several cacti which are known for being very low maintenance. Now I just stick to buying or foraging flowers and making arrangements.

I also went through an atomic space age phase but never actually had the money to commit to it in a way that made it obvious what I was trying to do. For those who don’t know this, that space age stuff is very expensive, like people who commit to that have f-you money or something.

To be honest though I would say the worst was the grey phase, but I’m not talking about the millennial grey circlejerk. I’ve seen grey decor that’s beautiful and looks really put together and cozy, like a really neutral palette where the person just prefers lighter colors. I’m talking about everything I bought was grey. Grey bathroom towels, grey Dutch oven, grey throw blankets, grey rug, grey art, grey shower curtain, bedding, and even plates/bowls. This was when I was afraid to have some sort of pov or direction because I was scared of making any mistakes, so I just bought everything grey to be on the safe side. One time this guy came over and was like “is your favorite color grey?” 😂

I’m looking for really specific antique furniture. Like think Asian/Indian, Turkish, Morrocan, Afghan antiques.

Include an extreme amount of detail. Like think of every possible question somebody would ask. Even if you think why would somebody ask that, trust me, somebody will. I include answers to like 10 questions I think people might ask, a ton of photos and a video, and at the end of the title I always put STILL AVAILABLE.

So at that point I can assume anybody asking me pretty much anything is wasting my time and I ignore them. Now I get way fewer messages. I’m talking like maybe 5, but it’s clear that all of those people actually want the item. Before when I listed the information you woud assume is more than enough id still get like 40 messages asking tons of questions just to go back and forth with people all day and nobody would buy the item in the end.

You really do have to give off a certain vibe in the listing. Facebook marketplace is not like other seller sites and I sell stuff on three different ones besides this. It’s not about being rude, you just have to write it in a way that reminds people you are in fact there to sell something and not talk to them all day, even if you think you’re coming across very intense.

The funny part is, I also stopped getting those supposedly accidental messages asking if the item is still available. Like the common explanation is that the button is right there and they didnt mean to click it, but I changed the way I write my listings and now nobody does that anymore.

The only people I give any grace to are really old people because they tend to be more cautious about getting robbed or taken advantage of, so sometimes they just wanna make sure you’re not a weirdo.

I’m in my 30s and am thinking about making a career switch to radiography. For context, I got extremely bad grades in college, like a 2.4, and I failed several classes, including anatomy and chemistry. This was before I realized I have ADHD and got on medication, so I figure I’d be fine now a decade later. I’m specifically interested in nuclear medicine as a modality, so I’d have a long way to go.

According to a lot of the websites for these programs, none of my grades from back when I was in college even matter anymore because all the programs say the pre recs have to have been taken in the past 5 years. So to me this reads like I get a fresh start and and so long as I ace those courses I have a decent shot at getting into a program somewhere.

I’m just trying to figure out if this is something I can pull off before I invest time and money into attempting this.

I attempted a hot dog like situation using merguez sausages and puff pastry dough. I thawed the puff pastry for two hours in the fridge, wrapped it around the sausage like a hot dog, brushed egg wash, and added everything but the bagel seasoning.

Cooked at 375 for 20 minutes then 400 degrees for 10 minutes.

Everything seemed fine until I bit into it and discovered the inside of the dough did not puff at all. I figured 15 minutes in the oven again at 400 degrees would solve the issue but it didn’t. Same deal, I took it out and the outside was more brown but the inside of the dough still did not puff.

The sausage cooked fine, no issue with that.