u/flohogamer

Yesterday, a fellow trans women made a post in which she, clearly speaking from trauma, asked this subreddit to exclude trans men from discussions. Lots of other people, trans women included, called her out because her views weren't suitable for this intersectional community. While I agree in the logical sense that trans men are oppressed and need an intersectional space to talk about their issues, I felt called to defend OOP because too often I have witnessed my sisters experience harassment every time they talk about negative experiences with men. To that extent, I said some very much non-intersectional things about trans men and transmasculinity in the comment section, left the community, and later deleted my posts in shame. I later unblocked this sub in a fit of regret. I don't want to be the kind of person who is not intersectional.
The major roadblock I find in this path is, simply, that I am scared of men. I don't want to say I have trauma because I was never physically or emotionally abused by a man or men, but I have always felt uneasy around men even before I realized I was a woman, and have frequently witnessed men engaging in harassment, illogical behavior and cultural machismo, which hasn't helped their case on my end. Furthermore, experiencing testosteronized puberty for six years before beginning my medical transition, which literally felt like a disease, has reduced my positive feelings on anything related to maleness and masculinity. And I'm scared of talking about the tribulations men, be they trans or cis, face because I'm scared that if we give these tribulations an inch, they'll wrest all the rights us women have obtained over the past century right out of our hands and prevent us from talking about our own issues.
I know this feeling is illogical and oppression doesn't work like that, I know that intersectionality means that everyone is included and has their issues talked about in ways that ensure everyone receives sufficient airtime and/or help, but my instincts tell me that oppression is a zero-sum game and that if trans women's tribulations aren't the center of every discussion on oppression, they'll be completely ignored. Which, I'm realizing, is similar to how trans men have been treated in society - ignored both by the oppressive media and the people who are out to help trans people.
To that end, I would like to learn more about intersectionality and how it relates to transness. Are there any resources that would be recommended to train my intuition to be intersectional? To train myself to understand that trans men experience oppression and acknowledging this fact doesn't take away from the oppression trans women face? I wish to learn and better myself, and I understand if you won't forgive me. But thank you for reading this.

I was talking with a friend about how the new XC2 speedrun meta utilizes Zeke to get faster times, and I pointed out that I believed Zeke was considered to be one of the weaker of the five Drivers in the game because his kit is primarily based around attack and I have heard people in the past call Zeke one of the weakest Drivers. My friend countered by explaining that Zeke can have some of the highest potential damage in the game and is used by postgame players who don't need to utilize the stutter stepping technique. So my question is: in high level XC2 play, is Zeke deployed over Rex, Tora or Morag? Is he a mainstay of high level XC2 teams?

A couple years ago, I was in the ER due to severe chest pain (turned out to be nothing serious but still sucked). Everything about that visit was horrid, except the beds. Having the head of the bed up at a 45 degree angle was so comfortable for me and I felt like I could really relax. Compare that to a regular bed, where you're lying horizontal. It's so uncomfortable for my back and neck unless the pillow is puffy just right. Even if you like sleeping that way, the good thing about hospital beds is that they're adjustable so you can sleep at a 0 degree angle, 45, close to 90 even if desired. Probably the biggest factor preventing these things from being commonplace is the cost. The cheapest hospital beds cost the same as the most expensive single beds according to a cursory Google search. I genuinely believe that if these beds were to be marketed as regular beds and made and sold in an affordable manner, they would become the default beds in richer nations.
Edit: Thank you all for notifying me about the existence of wedges. I didn't know they were a thing, and I'll be looking into getting one. Hopefully it'll improve my sleep quality...