I have a lot of them and I’m not even 30 yet. They are bubbling around in my awareness but I can’t bring myself to face them yet. I don’t know if I could survive them to be honest.
How did you survive serious regrets? Especially at an early age? Is there anything in particular that helped you the most with this? Did you experience a form of post traumatic growth from surviving them?
Im a 28 year old male and I want to take this part of my history out of the shadow and work through it with my therapist and other people who are struggling with this in their history as well.
I don’t think that this can effectively be done alone and although a therapist is part of my journey, I find it to be vital to have others to talk to about this who also want to work through the shame and guilt so I can eventually outgrow it and put it behind me.
I’ve already encountered a few people who are doing this work and it’s such a relief to talk with them about it, to realize that I’m not all alone. There are many actually. It would be better if we didn’t, but we did and we need to grow from it.
Feel free to dm me about it.
Im a 28 year old male and I want to take this part of my history out of the shadow and work through it with my therapist and other people who are struggling with this in their history as well.
I don’t think that this can effectively be done alone and although a therapist is part of my journey, I find it to be vital to have others to talk to about this who also want to work through the shame and guilt so I can eventually outgrow it and put it behind me.
I’ve already encountered a few people who are doing this work and it’s such a relief to talk with them about it, to realize that I’m not all alone. There are many actually. It would be better if we didn’t, but we did and we need to grow from it.
Feel free to dm me about it.
Im a 28 year old man who is mostly dependent on my parents, neurodivergent and who has been living a lot of my life in my head, in my own fantasy or projection of the imagined future.
I realize that my parents both struggled with this, especially my mother, and as a sensitive Intuitive child, I was overprotected and never had to accept that my actions had consequences. I think both of my parents suffered from this condition but it was more prominent in my mother.
Im now at a point where I’m starting to see it more clearly as being a real condition as opposed to a condescending remark.
I feel like a deer in the headlights when I realize how much time has passed and how much I need to grow in order to be a healthy and well adjusted adult and I think it would be most relieving to see the neutral reality of it- this is wasting my time and I’d rather build a life i dont want to escape from as I think that this condition can be hard to confront because there so much underlying fear that is amplified through this imaginative lens.
How did you overcome it? Did you just see it for what it really is, realize it’s wasting your time, understand why you had it, forgiving yourself and moving forward?
I find this question to be appropriate from Jung sub because people here have a strong imagination and can likely relate.
I think people who were on the spectrum, had a developmental disorder or faced overwhelming bullying or abuse, especially when they are more right brained- to retreat into the imagination.
Im just starting to realize how serious this condition is, and how hard it may be to go through a necessary “ego death” to be able to break out of it. Ive been a dependent person into my late 20s and although having dipped my toes into the real world, I’ve never had to fully immerse myself into it, and thus I still have false expectations that need to be overcome.
Did you suffer from maladaptive daydreaming too and managed to outgrow it? The imagination can be such a potent tool but also a very confining prison if one is hiding in it.
Im in my late 20s and Im starting to accept that I’ll probably be in my early to mid 30s before I have become an adjusted adult who no longer lives in a distorted reality. If you have suffered from this- I feel for you. It’s really scary to come to reality.
I find it so difficult to accept my warts and my loss of innocence. I was such an innocent child and I was so vulnerable. Im now a man who has committed many sins and Im trying to reconcile with that. I know it’s a really important part of my individuation. Is there anything that made it bearable or maybe even preferable ?
I am not going to share what it is, but I had a compulsive habit in childhood and adolescence. I realized that behind my ego defenses and my addiction habits, there’s not much left.
I have corrupted myself beyond what I currently consider to be redeemable, but I am holding hope that there’s a way through this, as dark and as lonely as it is.
I think that part of the issue is that I haven’t really accepted whatever price is available for me to pay if I want to continue to move forward with life, if there is one, to be able to grow and heal my soul.
I really don’t know if I have the strength to keep going. I don’t know if I have what it takes to become emotionally sober and to bear my crosses.
I usually reserve these kinds of posts to other subs since the rest of Reddit is pretty fear driven and judgmental, but I’ve seen a similar post here before that was made a number of years ago with interesting replies, so I’ve decided to give it a try.
This may or may not be directly jungian but I find it to be an incredibly important discussion. I realized for the first time, that when I look beneath the surface of myself, there isn’t much left, other than a bunch of defensive and addictive behaviors. Im essentially a hungry ghost and thats most of what I am right now. I know this is a very personal question but I have to try asking it- how did you snap out of it?
I think it’s necessary to be understood and to have this problem to be brought to the light with others as opposed to having it remain in the shadow. Im not a therapist but I know what you are going through. If any of you don’t want to work through this alone then feel free to dm.
M28. If any of you don’t want to work through this alone then feel free to reach out. I think it’s necessary to be understood and this problem to be brought to the light with others as opposed to having it remain in the shadow.