u/gamerinagown

I was curious to know if anybody had any info on the people who sell produce at the Sunday Farmer’s Market next to Petco.

Sometimes I have noticed them selling fruits or veggies that aren’t in season, claiming to be locally grown. The other week I asked them where they sourced their honey and they gave me a vague answer. I also saw one person at a table next to their truck literally pouring blueberries from what looked like a grocery store plastic container into their display cups.

Does anybody know anything about them or whether or not they are legit? Are they really working with local growers or are they just repackaging?

I’ve been a Marketing Manager at my current company nearing 5 years now, and I can’t help but feel like I’m hitting a plateau. Lately I’ve found myself fantasizing about leaving, but I am feeling incredibly conflicted.

There are several pros within the company: I adore the small team I directly manage (a very close knit team of 2). The company is privately owned and Europe based, so mass layoffs have been less of a risk (although my dept covers our American territory). Comfortable pay and benefits. My boss isn’t a micromanager and I have a stable relationship with her. Hybrid office model and generous PTO.

But as somebody who has always thrived connecting with my coworkers, our culture is literally the worst I have ever experienced in my entire career — both within our department and the company itself.

There are only a handful of people who will interact within our 30 person department. If I try to make small talk or ask a question for the team to get to know one another, it is uncomfortably silent. If I ask how people are doing in a Teams call, nobody replies. Trying to plan something like a team lunch or happy hour is like pulling teeth, both because my boss doesn’t believe in “mandatory fun” and the team doesn’t want to go. I try to plan thought leadership events or brainstorms or opportunities to learn something new, and am met with nothing but resistance, bitching, and complaints. The same thing happens when I try to challenge the team to create work a little outside the box or explore something that requires a smidge more effort than the generic approaches we have always used.

It would be one thing if we worked in a different department, but we are literally an in-house advertising agency… the entire purpose of this industry is to be creative, collaborative, and try new things.

Add onto this a C-suite who is uninspiring and doesn’t believe in marketing and management peers who are so cold, lazy, unsupportive, and delegate so much to their teams that it’s no wonder so many our ICs are checked out…

I’ve been feeling the itch to pursue greener pastures, but I’m having a hard time due to my fear of layoffs/the external job market and immense guilt I would feel screwing over my direct team (I have somebody starting in late Q3 who specifically said she applied for the job strictly because she wanted me as her manager).
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I’m not quite sure what I am searching for here… I know several of you will say the way my dept is being run is ideal and that I am the problem. But I’m sorry… in a “creative” industry environment it shouldn’t be unheard of to expect the team to get to know each other as people and be excited to learn about industry trends.

For fellow managers who thrive in strong culture, have you ever been on a team like this? What did you do? How did you stay sane?

For those who left, is the grass truly greener on the other side, or is this just how the modern workplace is trending nowadays?

I am a fairly active person, specifically a massive cardio gal. I love going on long walks daily, going to indoor spin classes, and hiking regularly. I could do all this for hours without getting bored or frustrated.

Conversely, I absolutely DESPISE strength training. When I try to do a ST workout I am completely miserable, angry, and bored the entire time… to the point where I could confidently say I’d rather watch paint dry than lift weights.

I’ve tried strength training at a gym and absolutely hated it - especially the anxiety of navigating around the crowds and trying to share equipment. I’ve tried strength training classes and feel absolutely miserable the entire time. I’ve tried strength training at home and lack the discipline to make it through because I get so bored and over it very quickly.

Now that I’m entering my mid-30s I’m getting served more and more content around the importance of women strength training to protect their bone density, which has me feeling panicked. I need to strength train, but it literally feels like a miserable punishment and I can’t get myself to do it.

Are there any creative ways to strength train for those who hate the traditional, structured style of this workout? Almost like an equivalent to going on a hike if you hate the treadmill?

Me: 33 F, Him: 34 M, 12 year relationship

My husband is normally a very positive, kind person. However, a few days ago he messed up his back while building some furniture for our guest room. Ever since then, it has been miserable at home.

He is angry and in a terrible mood all the time. I have done everything I can to try to make him feel better. I picked up meds, icy hot, cooling pads. I have catered to him the best I can. I have tried to talk to him and I get the cold shoulder.

He is openly resentful towards me because he is now injured before a big golf trip and blames me for his injury (because I’m the one who wanted the furniture). I’m supposed to go hiking with a friend today and he is guilt tripping me about going out and enjoying myself. It’s like if he is stuck at home I need to be too… which isn’t fair because I never act like this when the tables are turned. This is a new side of him I have never experienced in all our years together.

I literally feel claustrophobic at home with him being like this. He isn’t acting like himself at all and I am at wits end.

How have you dealt with an injured partner who is dead set on being angry and miserable? How have you survived it?