u/gardenofwildflowers

The stakes feel a bit high because we feel like the guinea pig parents of like do your best handling the tik tok trends and humans having smart glasses, phones, watches, so on.

We all still remember that adults didn’t have phones when we were growing up. If you watch any show from the 90s the characters all go about their day without phones etc. People weren’t marrying their ai companions. For our kids they will know no difference and also need to be told this change just happened and it wasn’t always like this.

This is something new. What concerns do you have about this, if anything, and what do you hope we are getting right as parents that after several generations will become cultural standard parenting around big tech?

So I can leave their father. I’ve been a sahp for almost 8 years. I have two kids, my youngest is 5 and there is only 3 hour kindergarten here for him. I really need to start making a couple thousand a month to start. What steps do I take in a situation like this? Thank you for any help

All the others are of-Daniel, of-Joseph etc. wouldn’t June have been of-Fred and not off-red? Always wondered that

The first mbti test I got was INFJ (50/50 for T & F) at 18. Then in my early 20s I typed INTJ. Then a few years later it was INFJ again. In my late 20s/early 30s it’s consistently been INTJ.

I started looking into the functions because I realized the tests aren’t the best way to type yourself. The more I research, the more clear it seems I probably am a female INTJ.

I don’t over identify with mbti, I know everyone is an individual. I’d just like to feel more confident accepting my type.

The thing is, the more it seems I am female INTJ, the more my automatic reaction is to question it. I think things like: “You can’t be a female INTJ. You're just getting that because its the rare/smart/unique type but you’re not actually that rare/smart/unique. You can't be.” There’s this weird internal pushback where identifying as an INTJ feels like I’m being self-important, even though I’m not trying to be. When I think I might be an INTJ, I get this automatic ‘how dare you think that highly of yourself’ reaction, like I should just believe or admit to myself I am a less… confident-sounding type or more common or something.

Its like I have been downplaying or not conscious of my skill set, rather than owning my intellectual presence and competency. Part of it is also just getting older and seeing the evidence from the last 5 years. I’ve surpassed my own expectations with how I’ve handled crisis and reorganized my life with truly no backup or buffer at all. It's like I've started recognizing myself. That sounds self-congratulatory, but I wouldn’t feel the need to say this stuff out loud to people irl.

I do get the intelligent, intimidating, and interesting labels, and I do relate to being ambitious, independent, and reserved. But I still get this I'm not sure I can allow myself to believe I'm an INTJ, because it feels like I am giving myself a little award. Like I'm saying 'I can't help it, I'm interesting and quite rare...' I didn’t aggressively pursue university/career prestige. I don't see myself as an extremely smart type at all. I’ve lived an interesting life and done a lot, but not in the traditional highly accomplished/title-driven sense.

I’m only 35 though, and definitely not done carving out whatever I decide to do. Honestly, I still feel like I need someone’s “permission” to be a female INTJ lol, but even making this post is a step toward owning it and letting a lot of what I said here be in the past only.

Wondering if anyone else relates to this.

I'm not sure what I'm asking here but I always feel kinda awkward. I know to say Hello/Hi come on in... But do I ask "How are you?" "I'll take your coat?(not an option in summer)". Just stand there and give them a minute to orient themselves? What do you say and/or do. I just need like a practical simple approach to when guests come in and are taking off their shoes.... (I'm in Canada)