u/gemurrayx

So last week I shared my story of learning how easy Subaru lug nuts are to ruin:

https://www.reddit.com/r/subaru/comments/1uhysuz/second_head_unit_replacement_this_week_and_just/

Yesterday I kept my appointment to have my car's touchscreen replaced and have them check all the lugs to see how many might have been double-threaded or otherwise ruined by a tire tech who wasn't careful enough. Checked twenty lugs, replaced one stud and lug, the same one that the tire shop was having trouble with. Had my car back before noon, and I got my car in at the tire shop for a rotation a couple of hours later.

Guess what? The tire shop couldn't get one of the lugs off again. Not the same one, but one of the lugs that Subaru had signed off on two hours before as OK. I had the shop go ahead, they broke it, and then drove right back to Subaru on nineteen studs to get them to replace that one too.

I haven't paid a dime. The tire shop is responsible for double-threading the first one when they did the last rotate and balance, and they're reimbursing me. Subaru replaced the second one at their expense since they checked it and told me it was ready. I'm just a little concerned that at some point someone will work on the tires and break a couple of lugs and I won't be able to get them fixed so quickly.

Nothing is peened yet, but I have my new brass rods holding everything in place, and I'm testing the movement on all the tools. When I open and close the last layer, the outside liner keeps warping outwards in the middle and staying in that position. I can push it back into place, but it happens every time. Opening tools in the inner layers don't seem to cause it to happen. The liner pops out far enough to potentially keep the scales from staying on (about 1/16th of an inch).

Is this a common problem? Did I ruin something when I disassembled the Explorer?

My best friend and I were on a trip to New York to do some shopping and take in a show, but then while we were there the Void thing happened. I have to say, no matter what you've heard it was so much worse. I spent what seemed like forever reliving a particularly bad time in college when I was close to flunking out, dating someone who was bad for me, and constantly fighting with my parents about it all-it was like a dream that I couldn't wake up from, but it was worse because it had all really happened to me.

And then suddenly, we were back out, right where we were outside Rockefeller Center when it started. Everyone else around us looked horrible, including my friend. We stumbled back to our hotel, and over the next few days and weeks some people started sharing online about what had happened to them inside the darkness.

The thing is, when my friend finally started talking to me about her experience, I didn't think it was very dark or disturbing-while everyone else went through genuinely bad things like assaults, abuse, car accidents, or reliving life-changing personal failures, apparently the worst thing she's ever had happen to her was before I knew her when she was on a little kids' soccer team and she soiled herself during a game. I don't know if I can take her seriously as a person anymore.

Everyone else who's talked about their void time, me included, relived horrible things, and the worst that she's been through was taking a poo on the soccer field. Am I terrible for thinking that because she's never been through anything actually tough that I can't relate to her?