u/giglex

We've been friends since 8th grade.

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I bought a house 7 years ago and my house has become the defacto party house for all of my friends. This is for multiple reasons but most of all because I'm the only one without kids with a house and the only one willing to regularly throw parties that keep everyone in our friend group connected (otherwise I don't see them for months). So over the years I've taken to a few specific times a year for these events -- 4th of July, around Halloween, and sometime in the beginning of December for a gingerbread house contest. FTR it's usually never the same day every year but will be something like the closest Saturday to July 4th or Halloween and the winter holiday party has been adapted to first-ish week of December to accommodate a lot of people having family/work parties closer to xmas.

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First off I really go out of my way to make sure as many people can be included as possible. The person I really want to see the most is my best friend. Every since she had her 2 kids I barely get to see her anymore, we don't stay in contact over text much because she's bad at answering and so I stopped bothering a while ago. The last few years she hasn't made it to any of these parties because her husband's friends always throw parties at the same times. And it's fucking annoying as hell because I go out of my way to change the weekend specifically for her and yet they somehow always plan theirs the same day. So last July I had enough and sent her an invite for this year the day after last year's party (so she knew about it a literal year in advance). This was phrased lightheartedly but really I was fed up with her excuse always being "we knew about theirs first, sorry!".

So when the time came this year for me to send the invite out to everyone I sent it to her and reminded her she was coming to my party this time. That was when she broke the news: "i'm really sorry but they're having their party the same day as you and we're going to that one". I tried not to throw a fit but I was pissed and asked her why when I told her the date a year ago. She said because their party will have a lot of kids there for her kids to play with. Side note -- people mostly leave their kids home when they come to my house because they want a night off.

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We talked more about it and she basically said without saying: they will always come before you because they have kids for my kids to play with. This was heartbreaking to hear honestly but I was understanding...I really cant argue with that (even though I've been trying to encourage other friends to just bring the kids lately even though I'm not stoked about it).

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So then I'm like -- well my party goes until like midnight so why dont you just come to mine after? For a moment she's really considering it but then says "(husband) says that it's "tradition" for me to take the kids home after their party so he can stay and party all night with his friends." 😑 I told her ok now it's your turn this year. I swear this man cries "tradition" for every one of these parties. It only became a tradition because he would refuse to come to ours every year saying they "knew about (his friends') first!"

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There's actually more to this saga but I'll leave it there because this is already long enough. So yeah, my best friend won't come to any of my gatherings because I don't have kids and never will (and because her husband is turning into a toxic asshole apparently). Makes me feel worthless tbh but also bad that he manipulates her. The hardest part is she always says it's what *she* wants and defends him to the end.

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I'm thinking about changing the 4th party entirely to sometime in August and then seeing what the excuse is next year.

For those on MDI....you ever just take a shot of insulin and immediately forget what dose you took? Just happened to me. I'm so on autopilot sometimes I take my insulin without using my brain at all apparently. For example this morning I was thinking to myself I should go up a unit on my long acting because lately I've been trying to make adjustments for the perfect dose (also just came off my period and that always throws a wrench in everything). So now I'm sitting here after taking my morning shot with absolutely zero clue if I took the extra unit or not. Not the end of the world but now for tomorrow I wont know how to compare how I did today with what I'll take tomorrow. So it would be cool if there was a way to see what the last dose you took was on the pen. I feel like I cant be the only one who has done this before.

Prob wouldn't be worth it to the pharmaceutical companies to spend extra money on something like this now but maybe someday it would be an easy addition. A girl can dream.

I've been a diabetic for about 4 years now and for most of that time I was on a split dose. I started going to a new endo and she insisted that I only needed to take basal (revoglar/glargine) once a day. I tried this for many months and it's just not working for me. I'm high during the day regardless of if/what I eat and low at night. I will consult my endo about this but I'm not expecting the best advice because they didn't understand why I was on a split dose in the first place.

I used to take 21 in the morning and about 7-8 at night. I'm on a lower amount now, only taking 20 per day. **So for those of you that split your dose, what ratio do you use?**

FTR I am a type 1 diabetic. My boyfriend texted me that his non-diabetic sister had a 40 blood sugar reading on her blood test results from yesterday. She has MS which is what the labs were for. She said she felt completely fine. My thought is that there was an error in the lab? But I feel like if it is real then 40 for a non-diabetic is pretty serious no? Do you guys know of anything that would cause that?

I told her to get a blood sugar meter and test it again just to see.

Starting to freak out a little bit. I'm on another continent away from anyone who cares about me and my blood sugar is absolutely insane. I knew I would be doing a lot of walking today and took 2 units less of basal (about 12 hours ago -- rezvoglar [glargine]) than normal and apparently that was still way WAY too much because I havent been able to get my sugar up for the last several hours. I'm so fucking miserable the idea of putting another crumb of food into my mouth makes me want to throw a crying screaming tantrum.

And i'm almost out of food. There are no shops open near me and its another 7 hours until anything opens. So there's the extra element of "am I going to run out?" that's really helping fuel this panic attack.

Sometimes I just really cant believe this is my life.