Dad is marrying his girlfriend but i hate her
I (F19) had a fight with my dad (M52) two weeks ago and we haven’t talked since. It was about a topic we usually always fight so nothing unusual, and we discussed it today and made up. But at the end of our call he suddenly announced to me that he was marrying his girlfriend, the first week of September and that i was supposed to congratulate him, i didnt know how to react. I’ve just been having a breakdown about it because I hate her.
My parents separated when I was six and my mom married seven years ago or something. My dad had a few girlfriends before her but theyve been tgt since forever, I think 10 years or something.
At the beginning I really liked her but at some point I started wondering if she was only with my dad for his money, because she wasn’t making a lot she was working in a clothing store and she had a small apartment and he’d always pay for everything. Eventually she moved in with us. When I came to that conclusion, I started to ignore her and at some point she confronted me about it and she was very mean to me. She had a one-to-one conversation with me and basically told me that she couldn’t sleep because of me and that I was a burden whenever I was home and I was really loud and dirupted their peace. I was really shocked and my dad wanted me to acknowledge her and if I didn’t do that, he would kick me out, which he did. After some time we eventually made up but I still hated her. When I confronted my dad about the whole situation, he didn’t acknowledge anything. He told me that I started it and that her feelings were valid.
The issue is when it comes to her my dad is blinded by love or whatever. she’s always his priority and whatever she says is true and whatever I say is wrong or doesn’t need to be paid attention to.
So after this happened I barely ever went to my dad’s house because i really couldn’t handle the whole situation and i didnt want to see her. Later that year my dad moved away to his childhood city and we saw each other less but we still kept in contact and we basically have a good relationship.
But I still have a huge grudge against her, we get along and we talk when we see each other, but I can feel her hatred.
She also just buys so many things (she gets packages delivered every day) she doesn’t pay rent she never pays for anything and always gets really expensive gifts from him. They also keep going on really expensive vacations without me and I just can’t seem to like her and now they’re getting married.
I’m partially also thinking about inheritance. I feel like she kind of robbed my dad from me and I don’t want her to get anything because she’s already actively taking so many things. Maybe this is also just something I’m hiding behind to ignore my feelings but it’s also just something that’s really preoccupying to me.
What do i do?? Can anyone relate? I’m so lost right now.
TLDR: Dad is getting remarried, but i dont get along with his girlfriend.