u/gloriousbeautypig

My [34F] drunk uncle [64M] wants to walk me down the aisle and I really don't want that.

I am getting married in August. My drunk uncle who I love and have a good relationship with is insisting on walking me down the aisle because my dad is dead but I really don't want that. I have pushed back but it doesn't seem to land and sometimes when he drinks I wake up to messages about how he is going to walk me down the aisle as a family duty and its what my father would've wanted. I think the drinking affects his memory. He is a sweet person but I don't know how to handle it since it seems to go out one ear. I'm worried he will jump in during the wedding and take over especially if he's had a few drinks since my attempts to tell him I want to walk alone aren't landing. I guess it's not the biggest deal in the world but it would upset me and I don't want that in the photos. I think even if my dad were alive, I wouldn't want anyone to walk me down the aisle. Is there something related to weddings I can offer him instead to meet his need of masculine duty? Any advice about pushing back? Not inviting him is not an option. Thank you

TL;DR: uncle wants to walk me down the aisle since my dad is dead. i really dont want that. i have pushed back but doesn't seem to land and i wake up to drunken messages saying it is his duty. any advice for how to gently redirect him to meet his perceived need of masculine duty?

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