u/goodnightbirdy

3 weeks to the day after my dad had to put down our old dog Ferris we lost our cat Leo. Both were very fast but extremely traumatic deaths.

I made a post about Ferris and I don’t want to go over it all again.

One day Leo was fine, the next he was in major organ failure.

My nephew was very attached to Leo, they were best friends, we got away with telling him that Ferris went to an “old dog farm” but we had to tell him about Leo. He wasn’t going to be satisfied with any excuses.

Over the last week he has asked several times when we can “get Leo out of the ground,” we are trying to be gentle with him, this has been rough on us all.

Our other cat, My cat, Zip, is not the most affectionate cat, she was thrown out of a car as a young cat and broke her back, leg, and pelvis. You have to be very particular about how you pet her or it can cause her pain but since Leo passed she has been all over us, cuddling my mom and my nephew nearly constantly (they were Leo’s “people”) My nephew has been loving on her a lot and trying to make sure “she doesn’t get lonely after her friend died.” She was always very quiet, Leo had a voice for them both but since he passed she’s been steadily getting her voice back for the first time in over 10 years.

Leo was an excellent cat, he cared for my mom when we lost our grandma, he napped with my nephew everyday since he was born, he taught both me and my nephew how to be gentle with animals. He was the most patient, most loving, best cat in the world and my whole family is devastated by his loss. We are still very raw from losing Ferris, we went from 2 cat and 2 dogs to 1 of each in 3 weeks. The house feels a bit hollow now without them, i barely knew life without them.

Rest in Peace Leo. You were a top notch cat and hope you are enjoying string cheese somewhere in out there.

okay so i’m actually only 20 but for someone who thought i had it all figured out at 13 im having trouble reckoning with it.

i’ve thought i was a lesbian for a very long time, to the point where i am genuinely repulsed by the idea of being with a man. However recently i’ve been looking a lot more into aroace identities and i think im aroace??
Some reasons im questioning:
- ive never really had an attainable crush. It’s always been celebrities or someone much older than me.
- ive never had any desire to pursue a relationship and i get somewhat overwhelmed and uncomfortable when people want to pursue me
- ive never been on a second date, people have asked me but i don’t ever want to pursue it further than a talking stage/friends
- i get very overwhelmed by the idea of ever being married/in a long term relationship and i cannot invision myself in that situation. when i do think about it i have a list of things i would need to be happy (alone time, a separate bedroom, ect) in fact i often think i would be happier on my own.
- i have very low sex drive (though this may be due to ssri’s)
- ive been watching a lot of videos talking about how they are aroace and i relate to a LOT of it
- my friends and sisters say that i say a lot of things that allo people don’t say

idk, maybe im just being autistic about this and struggling with change bc ive claimed to be a lesbian for so long but im struggling with accepting it/coming to terms? i guess.
i don’t know what the point of this post is, i think i just want to talk with someone who won’t go “oh well yeah, it was so obvious.” even though it maybe was.

I feel really stupid for coming in here at my big age to ask about tampons but asking my mom about tampons at 20 is just to embarrassing so here it goes.

is it possible to have to light of a period for tampons?

this last week i was staying over at a friends house and they have a hot tub, i really wanted to get in so i tried a tampon. I was on day 2 of my period and i used a light tampon, but when i went to remove it at hour 8~9 i almost passed out from the pain of trying to remove it, i was almost entirely dry. i was able to remove it with minimal pain at hour 15.

Ive always had a, what i would consider, pretty light period, i only use 1-2 pads on my first day and can use one normal pad on the first night. I’ve never bled through or leaked. i can usually swap down to panty liners by day 3 or 4.

So i guess im just asking is it even worth it for me to try tampons? most things i see online said you should remove your tampon 6-8 hours after inserting it. 15 hours for one light tampon feels like a LOT.

do i just have an abnormally light period? can anyone help me 😅 again i feel really stupid for this but might as well try.