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I’ve been kind of a mess this month, the anniversary of my brother’s death was June 21st, and that day also gave me physical and mental scars, I’m having a surgery today around 2 to 3, and I just moved in with my partner who helped me escape an abused situation with her, but I feel so guilty about what I did and if I should try again to work things out with my mother. I know it’s early in the morning here, and that no one will notice this, but I need help right now, I have no one else to talk to about this, please help.

About a month ago, I had a surgery that was supposed to cut out the endometriosis tissue or something (English is not my first language so I butcher some words) but it only lasted 20 minutes when it was supposed to be an hour and a half. Apparently I bleed too much and they thought they had cut a vein or something, and they stopped for some reason afterwards. Now, I’ll be going to a “better” hospital in Wilmington and hopefully they won’t stop in the first 20 minutes. I’ve been in pain for 3 years and wasn’t able to get help until a few months ago, the only time I’ve really seen a “doctor” before a few months age was on February 10th, 2023, when I was in 10/10 pain, and the emts thought my appendix had ruptured, so they gave me pain meds and sent me to this giant hospital. After that they thought it was “normal”, and not dangerous so I just had to live with 5 to 8.5 out of ten pain for 3 years.

I like to listen to music to calm me down or make me happy, so do you have any suggestions or ideas? I’ve been listening to zombie by cranberries & some rock bands.

I’ve waited years for this, and it’s finally here. I had surgery over a month ago but I had complications so now I’m going in to finally get this over with. I’ve been kind of worried about it lately, but I hope it everything will go right this time. I’ve also been a little nervous about coming home since I’ve been going through somethings with my partner, and they’ve been having some mental issues, and last time I had surgery, some stuff happened, so I hope nothing will happen after I come home. Wish me luck please, and thank you for reading this.

I’m in a great relationship with my girlfriend Cassandra, and we are happy, but I have trouble telling her that she’s doing things I don’t like because I feel like I shouldn’t complain, or don’t feel like I have the right to. She helped me leave an abusive situation with my mother, and now takes care of me, and since she saved me from that, I feel like I don’t deserve her, and that I shouldn’t complain, since she has done so much for me. I just don’t know if I’m the problem, or if I’m letting my feelings get in the way of my boundaries or comfort. I just wanted to know if anyone here has been through a similar situation, or if I should do anything differently, thanks!

I (20F) have been in a relationship with my girlfriend (26F) Cassandra. She is kind, and loving, but she has issues with PTSD, and boundaries so I’m afraid she’ll get triggered by something after my surgery, and might do something that would hurt me by accident. She wanted to keep having sex after my first surgery and it still hurts when she does it, and I just want to rest after my next surgery, but I don’t know if she’ll let me. I’m also worried that I might trigger her and she might hurt me by accident and I’ll have to get medical care again. I if I should stop complaining and just do what she wants, or if I’m the problem here, I just don’t know what to do.

I used to wash my hands 20 times in an hour, doing it whenever I would touch something like opening a bottle, or taking my morning meds, and eventually my hands got so dried out that they would crack, and bleed often, especially if I bent my fingers to grab something, for example. I was told to put lotion on them, but I never did since I thought it would defeat the purpose of washing my hands in the first place, but since my hands were getting so dry, I started to wash them more since the water would stop it from hurting, and help me bend them. I still have OCD, but was eventually able to break the cycle now that I’m safe with my partner, but this time of year is hard for me, so I was hoping someone could share their stories and experiences, and maybe it could help me.

I wanted to know since I wanted to take a vacation after my surgery, and I was thinking here would be lovely. I want your personal opinion, and maybe some stories about your time there. I bet both are lovely, I just can’t pick both.

Wish me luck everyone!

Last night, out of the blue, I got a text from my grandmother saying she would like to call me and that she “missed me”. She ended up calling me, but I was asleep at the time, so I didn’t get to answer her, and she left no voicemail.

Today is the anniversary of my brother’s death, and it’s been really hard for me lately. My mother blamed me for what happened to my brother, and my grandmother didn’t do anything to help me when my mother started to physically, and mentally abuse me, sometimes saying things like I owe it to my mother not to be so bad, or said that I wasn’t being abused by her. At one point, we were living with her, and when I begged to stay with her, and not leave with my mother, she said that I was selfish, and I should let my mother finally be happy.

Her doing those things among others, and deciding to call me today of all days makes me not want to talk to her, but am I just being selfish, and should I just let it go?

I like to go on google maps, and see what I can find, and I have seen many population centers called “Designated Cities” and only a few other places are just called cities. Do you know why that is?

I’ve just always wanted to know, so please get back to me :)

My girlfriend, Cassandra was a little drunk last night, pushed me down the stairs, and I accidentally broke my leg, but it was just a fracture. She called the ambulance, and told them everything about what happened since I was still in shock, which happens a lot to me when I get hurt. She is adimit that it was an accident, and she doesn’t have any problems with alcohol that I know of, and we’ll be hiring a therapist soon for help with our other problems. I just wanted to know if I should look into her alcohol use. She only drinks once or twice a month in front of me, but she works long shifts so I might not know how often she does it. I hope she’s not hiding anything, but I thought I would come here after someone told me some wise words. I’m sorry if my English is bad, and I’m sorry I’ve bothered anyone.

What do you think should qualify for moon, because there’s Charon is essentially a binary dwarf planet, then theres all the tiny pieces of rings dust in orbit around the gas giants that we decided were just big enough to be a satellite.

So, infinitely wise Redditor, do you believe that we should make a criteria for what should, and should not count as a moon, past an astronomical object in orbit around something that isn’t a star.

My girlfriend go’s through my phone 3 times a week. She looks at what I post, what I watch, what photos I take, and who I call/text. Recently, I made a post on Reddit, she looked the my phone, got REALLY mad, had an episode, slapped me, and accidentally cut my leg with a shard of glass. I’m kind of afraid of her, now, I plan on deleting this post and my account soon before she go’s through it again. Do any of you go through this, it would just make me feel better to know I’m not alone. I’m so sorry if I made any of you sad or uncomfortable, that was not my intention by posting this.

I need to talk to somebody about what happened to me. I’ve been told to talk to someone, but I don’t have anyone, so please get back to me, I’ve been hurting and I need to talk to someone!

I’ve had a crazy 2 days, or really ever since my surgery. I would just love someone to talk to who understands these things, and can explain it to me.
Thank you!

For the last two days, I’ve been told that I’ve been getting abused by my girlfriend. I posted on a now deleted account 2 days ago that my girlfriend was being rough with me during sex after surgery for my endometriosis. We started being intimate 2 months ago afterw we moved in with each other, and I got surgery in early May, but there was a complication, so I will be going back in on the 1st of July. Just 15 days after getting out of the hospital, she wanted to start doing it again, and while I wanted to rest, I wanted to make her happy, but during sex she would hit me, bite me, and dig into me with her nails which was the worst part because of the surgery I just had. When I tried to bring this up with her, she would get upset at me, saying mean things, and throw things sometimes. While I know it isn’t normal to do that, I think it has to do with her stress about work, and PTSD. I posted something to actual lesbians and lgbtq subreddits and people told me I was being abused by her, and other stuff, but when Cassie came home and looked through my phone like usual, she got really mad at me, had an episode, cut my leg by accident, and kind of freaked out. I just wanted to fix our sex problems, but she scared me last night and now I don’t know what to do, or what the problem is. My leg is fucked up and I can’t go to the doctors, and the only person I care about is mad at me.

What am I doing wrong, what should I do, what should I say to her. I can’t leave her, she kind of saved me from my abusive mom, and she pays for my medical treatment. Please help me out here, I feel like I’m going crazy, I should have never made that first post.