Stopped last year a couple days before i went on holiday and had to wear a shirt in the ocean, so i’m going to the beach tomorrow to celebrate, also because i finished all my college work two weeks early! I hope everyone has a better week than they usually would, i am proud of myself :)
I’ve SH when i was younger i would wear boxers to the pool or beach but now that im older, it seems a bit impractical to wear that around friends. My scars are fairly recent but I was wondering if anyone has tried henna or fake tats on theirs?? (i kept them in close proximity bc i knew they would be hard to hide)
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I used to cut, I don’t anymore, I don’t have a date for when the last time I did it is but I don’t think it was ever an “addiction“ in the same way other people describe it as.
it was a coping mechanis tho
but I’ve started doing other things, when I’m stressed, overwhelmed or angry I hit myself and throw things. hurting myself in ways like scratching my skin and hitting my head off things and I just want to know if anyone has any mechanisms that don’t include hurting yourself, even in ways that don’t leave marks
i don’t really know what other info to add but I don’t want to hurt myself. this doesn’t happen often, once or twice a month.
I cant remove the things that trigger it because the biggest problem is things that my stepdad says or does so I can’t stop it
I’m also diagnosed autistic if that means anything, I’m pretty low support needs, snd dont get much help because I can “cope on my own” but said coping usually helps hurting myself
adding that so the nature of my outbursts makes sense
I feel so bad, I don't even know why I thought I was getting better that I'm healing and suddenly for no fucking reason I feel just sad and lonely and lost and I know it gives me the comfort it's feeling I know and can control and I need it but I can't and I have no one to talk to, no one to reach out for help because everyone I was close enough with to talk about this left me, I'm so so so lost
its been the only constant in my life. over 7 years, ive cut to celebrate. ive cut to kill myself. ive cut because i felt like the best human thats ever lived. ive cut because i felt like less than nothing. ive burned myself while having the best relaxing smokes ever. its seen me in the highest of highs and lowest of lows, and even everything between that. its grown up with me. the entirety of me is tied to it. i feel like im betraying it by leaving it. it feels like im leaving myself. im 5 weeks clean but i dont feel real. a part of me is gone, and there's nothing there to fill it. it keeps calling to me but i ignore it, it feels like ignoring my child. a disgusting child but its still mine, something i have to care for. every scar it gave me is beautiful, but i hate it. i dont know what to do with it. i'll always see it with the corner of my eye, and i'll always keep running away from it. but i dont know why i run. i want to be a real person again
im not excatly sure if this is the right sub for this but, for summer i am going on vacation, i have some scars on my upper hip kinda on the side of my butt lmfao and was wondering if i could use henna to cover them up in a bikini. theyre all baby styros and still a little pink. i just dont want to disrespect any cultures in the place i put the henna tattoo or have anyone think im sexualizing their culture or anything. ill add a picture
Hi all,
It's almost summer, and where I live it gets too hot to wear even medium length sleeves, but I have scars from when I quit in December that I'm still trying to heal.
I guess what I'm asking for is like, tips on how to heal them so that they're less visible? they're on top of some stretch marks I have near my shoulder joint, and they mostly blend in apart from one that's a darker pink colour. I've been using bio-oil so far, but I feel like I haven't really seen much change. (that could be because of my existing skin condition, Keratosis pilaris)
or, if y'all have a way to hide them for the time being I'd love to hear it!
sincerely, a girl who is 4 months, 22 days clean. (!!)
hi all. my mom just called me to say my little sister has been self harming (her scars look healed over according to my mom) & i don’t know what to do. obviously i don’t want to come off too strong and ask her about it, i want her to know she can confide in me and im there for her. for background, we have a 10 year age gap & im married and out of the house.
what helped you guys get better & feel supported by your family? i’m kind of desperate & she starts a new high school in the fall, i don’t want things to get worse
thanks in advance
I struggled with sh for about 6 years I’m not ashamed of what I did because it did save me in a way. I’ve gotten comfortable going out in short sleeves but I do still get stares and people asking “what happened” as if you can’t tell what I did… it’s just dumb. Anyways I’m a year and 2 months clean as of now and it’s going to stay that way. I’m turning 19 this June aka I’m at an age where I’m almost a full on adult. I don’t like having to feel trapped in my own body. I’ve considered tattoos but idk how they’d even work with my scars since they go in various directions. (That’s where I messed up ngl) I’ve also considered those tattoos that get done on stretch marks where they make the scars match your skin tone. Most of mine already match but my skin has been tearing on my thighs over time. Not sure why could be when I shave? Anyways my point is what can I do? I lwk messed myself up if imma be honest. Again I’m not ashamed but I’d like to be able to wear what I want during the summer without having to hide everything and limit myself. I can’t even go to the beach or wear and swimsuit. I can’t wear dresses without tights nor can I wear cute shorts and skirts. I just wish people could understand but I know it’s a sensitive topic and I don’t feel professional looking like this nor do I feel clean.
I love my scars with all my heart and I love being reminded that I’m still here but I’d like to feel free at some point.