u/Barnette_666

Yesterday my SH was finally healed enough and I felt comfortable wearing shorts to school, so I planned my outfit the night before and had to check with my mom because she wanted to make sure the shorts weren't too short. She stared at my legs with really tight lips and looked disappointed and angry and asked if I would consider using scar cream to get rid of my scars. She also said I might get bullied and reported to the main office (I have once before but that was fresh sh) and she didn't want to deal with that. I said no and tried not to let her insensitivity rij my confidence and I wore shorts the next day - it went really well, I got some stares/weird looks and two friends asking if I was okay but no negative comments, and I felt really good by the end of the day. Then my dad picked me up from school and the first fucking thing he did was tap my legs and say "that's annoying" and started ranting about how it was frustrating that HE had to deal with that/see that on me and how it wasn't fair to him. I started arguing with him and defending myself, I said that was extremely inappropriate of him and really hurtful, and he said this wasn't 'his fault' in an accusatory tone and said that I was the one creating this issue, quite literally justifying his comments by saying I'm the one who did this and it's my fault. I'm still trying not to let it ruin this for me but I'm just so fucking done with dealing with my family and I wish more than anything my parents were understanding and supportive and kind rather than the toxic assholes they are.

anyway sorry for the ramble, thanks for reading

I collect tabs from all kinds of different drinks, and wanted to share some earrings I made of Redbull tabs.

Kinda love the look but also worried about them completely coming apart so I want to fix it somehow, how do I do that?

This was already posted by another individual but I think their argument needs more substance so I'm posting as well.

Fireworks cause severe harm to the environment, pets, and people. The effects of the events, even if just once a year, are widespread and severe. We can celebrate our independence pretty much any other way, we don't need to be doing more damage to the planet and our communities.

Wildlife

"The shock of fireworks can cause wildlife to flee, ending up in unexpected areas or roadways, flying into buildings and other obstacles, and even abandoning nests, leaving young vulnerable to predators. The threat to wildlife doesn’t stop at startling lights and sounds; fireworks also have the potential of starting wildfires, directly affecting wildlife and destroying essential habitat. Litter from firecrackers, bottle rockets and other explosives can be choking hazards for wildlife and may be toxic if ingested." [ https://www.fws.gov/story/keeping-wildlife-safe-independence-day ]

"Cats and dogs both experience sounds at far greater intensity than humans. Fireworks appear for them as discordant noise without warning. Studies suggest up to 50 percent of dogs are afraid of fireworks. Frightened animals awakened from sleep or startled from a state of relaxation will hide, pace, shake, cry or flee, unable to process what is going on or find a safe haven. ......

The dangers are serious for wild animals like birds, squirrels, frogs and fish too. During fireworks explosions, nearby resting birds will flee in fear en masse from trees and ponds, and fly off into the night sky.

Some birds have flown so far out to sea, they would not physically have been able to return to land alive. Birds can crash into buildings, get lost and disoriented and literally fall, by the thousands, onto communities.

Because fireworks are launched at night, the full effects on wild animals are challenging to document. Researchers expect that millions of birds are affected around the world and that the results linger after the smoke has disappeared.

In spring and early summer, when animals like birds and squirrels are nesting or in the early stages of rearing their offspring, the risks are even greater. Babies die of dehydration or starvation when terrified or disoriented animal parents cannot find their way back to their nests and burrows. These painful deaths are particularly tragic because they are completely avoidable." [ https://thereader.mitpress.mit.edu/the-devastating-effects-of-fireworks-on-pets-and-wildlife/ ]

People

"Americans release almost 300 million pounds of fireworks into the atmosphere each year. Many people are aware of the importance of preventing injuries from fireworks, but they may not realize the health impacts of the smoke. Fireworks create smoke filled with tiny particles that are bad for you. When fireworks explode, they release gases such as sulfur dioxide, carbon dioxide and carbon monoxide, which are very harmful to our lungs. Their smoke releases other harmful metals into the air like aluminum, manganese and cadmium. Additionally, some illegal fireworks even contain lead, which is extremely dangerous and can cause long-term damage. Inhaling any of these chemicals is detrimental to health and can irritate the lungs, making it hard to breathe and causing serious health problems, which is why it is important to avoid firework smoke whenever possible.

Firework smoke can significantly pollute the air we breathe. A 2015 study found that air pollution levels increased by an average of 42% on the Fourth of July. Exposure to air pollution has been shown to increase cases of chronic cough and other lung diseases. If you have asthma or COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease), pollution caused by firework smoke can exacerbate symptoms and cause flareups." [ https://www.lung.org/blog/fireworks-hidden-dangers ]

• "Fireworks started an estimated 34,079 fires in 2024, including 3,246 structure fires, 857 vehicle fires, 29,517 outside fires, and 459 unclassified fires. These fires caused an estimated 59 civilian injuries and $98 million in direct property damage. There were not reported civilian deaths.
• In 2024, U.S hospital emergency rooms treated an estimated 14,700 people for fireworks related injuries.
• A 1-month special study period between June 16, 2023 and July 16, 2023 found that nearly half of the fireworks-related injuries treated in U.S. hospital emergency departments were to the extremities (35% hands and fingers, 8% legs, 5% arms) and 22% were to the head, face, and ears.
• Only 11% of the fireworks fires were structure fires but these incidents accounted for 77% of the civilian deaths, 83% of the civilian injuries, and 88% of the direct property damage.
• Children younger than 15 years of age accounted for 32% of the estimated 2023 injuries. These injury estimates were obtained or derived from the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission’s 2023 Fireworks Annual Report."

[ https://www.nfpa.org/education-and-research/home-fire-safety/fireworks ]

And ironically, the very people whose heroism we celebrate on our Independence Day here in America with fireworks--the veterans who fought for our freedom and symbolize our country--experience severe psychological effects from firework displays.

"...veterans with PTSD exhibit...reactions to fireworks. The sights, sounds, and odor of fireworks, as well as the vocal responses of the crowd at large displays evoke memories that trigger fear and anxiety. Many veterans experience flashbacks in which they relive combat and training accidents and have nightmares of those events, interrupting sleep. The instinct of many veterans is to avoid the holiday altogether: Many patients I knew sought refuge in remote mountain campsites often to find that even there they were not safe from revelers." [ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10588998/ ]

"93.9% of people with PTSD or C-PTSD experience a negative impact from fireworks; 95.5% cited unpredictability as a key trigger for their mental health symptoms; Respondents reported symptoms including panic attacks, flashbacks, dissociation, and a profound sense of fear or lack of safety in their own homes; 27.2% had sought medical or therapeutic help as a direct result of fireworks - with another 35.6% seriously considering it" [ https://www.ptsduk.org/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/PTSD-UK-Fireworks-Impact-report-2025-1.pdf ]

These are all reasons why we need to find another way to celebrate our independence as Americans, and set an example for the rest of the year and the rest of the world. That's my hot take. Happy 4th of July!

I like artists like Green Day, Linkin Park, My Chemical Romance, Three Days Grace, All Time Low, Blink-182, and Noah Kahan (random ik lol). Please give me some song recs based on these artists; please don't give albums or artists in general though, that's a little overwhelming. I'll respond to your recs with the above key. Thanks!!

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Give me a name or word + (optionally) a genre, and I'll give you a playlist of songs starting with each letter in the name/word!

EXAMPLE:

"Amy, pop music"

Alice - Peggy

Mind is a Prison - Alec Benjamin

You Need Me Now? - girl in red, Sabrina Carpenter

We have an orphaned baby deer mouse that I need help figuring out what to feed. My dog killed the rest of its family (he dug up the nest in the woodpile but we saved this one) and a professional rehab isn't available. We can't go to the store for goat's milk or kitten formula until tomorrow, so what can I feed the mouse tonight? He's currently in a cardboard box with clean tissues and a sock full of heated rice for warmth. Thanks!

Update: I made formula with yogurt, egg yolk, and half and half (since goat's milk and heavy cream weren't available at the time) and she ate some of it. I fed her 3 times during the night and had my sister feed her twice while I was at school today. I'll be making a goat's milk formula when I get home and we'll keep feeding her that, I'll also see if she'll eat some small mushy solids. She's still in a cardboard box with a heated rice-sock; I'll move her into an old fish tank when her eyes open.

We have an orphaned baby deer mouse that I need help figuring out what to feed. My dog killed the rest of its family (he dug up the nest in the woodpile but we saved this one) and a professional rehab isn't available. We can't go to the store for goat's milk or kitten formula until tomorrow, so what can I feed the mouse tonight? Also, how should we keep it warm? I have an old fish tank we can keep it in until it's old enough to survive on its own. Thanks!